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When people reach middle age, there is a kind of person who will gradually withdraw from various circles.
Whether it is with their relatives or with so-called friends, there will be less and less contact with each other.
When you encounter something in your life, you will try to find a way to solve it, and try not to disturb others as much as possible. If anyone comes to find themselves, they will also find all kinds of excuses to shirk.
I don't like to get too close to others, I don't like others to come to my own home, most of the time, I am doing my own thing alone.
After being lonely for a long time, I am accustomed to silence; after a long time of independence, I am even more reluctant to curry favor with others.
Seeing that everyone around you is busy pulling gangs and small groups, you just don't want to participate, you don't want to waste your time on those things.
For you now, socializing is dispensable.
It doesn't matter if you have friends or not; whether there is anyone who cares about you, you don't care.
Looking back on this road, the ups and downs, warm and cold, experienced more, you have gradually recognized some things, and looked down on some people.
You no longer overestimate your relationship with others, you no longer force yourself to fit in, you fully accept yourself and become yourself again.
When a person becomes fond of "being alone", most of them are the following three mentalities.
Being alone is the beginning of a simple life and the beginning of a person becoming strong. The loner knows very well what he wants, and does not talk much in the face of others, but he has always had his own judgment and persistence.
The first mindset:
After experiencing the warmth and coldness of human feelings, he is reluctant to deal with others anymore
People intersect with each other, and the preciousness lies in the true heart, but the true heart is also the most scarce.
Some people have a very good relationship with you on the surface and greet you warmly, but when it comes to matters involving interests, you will find that people's hearts are really realistic.
Your so-called friends, every time they encounter something, they open their mouths to you, ask you for help, people get married and have children, you give red envelopes to express their hearts, but when you have something, the other party will not reply to your news.
You work with relatives, what you want is to try not to let the other party suffer losses, who expects people to calculate you because of a little fly-tip.
No matter how simple you are, if you are repeatedly used by others, you will gradually wake up.
It turns out that those people you have tolerated and accommodated all along, in addition to not taking you seriously, are still trying to get close to you and bully you.
Human feelings are cold and warm, but in this way, see through it, you will no longer have high hopes for others.
You will no longer confide in anyone, nor will you allow anyone to enter your world, as long as you think of the calculations and conspiracies that occur when dealing with others, you feel annoyed.
Second mindset:
Hate to compare with each other, and have no topic with others
Some people, living and living, become vulgar.
In the past, when I was young, I felt very comfortable with my friends, because I couldn't compare with each other, so I didn't feel diaphragm.
But later, when everyone is older, you will find that there are a few people who will always become more and more snobbish.
When you are not mixed well, people will mock you, regardless of your friendship, just want to stomp your dignity under your feet.
While counting your unproductive performances and showing off to you how good you are, you can't help but wonder why your friends have become like this.
The real society makes people have no warmth between people, and some are just compared with each other.
You don't know what other people think, but you really don't like to compare yourself with others, you think that's not interesting, and at the same time you look down on that kind of person.
You're with people who like to show off, there's no topic at all, and over time, you'll be completely out of those people's circles.
Inside you, you just want to live your life well, and you'd rather be excluded from certain small groups than force yourself to fit in.
Third mindset:
He has a cold and lonely personality and likes to live quietly and freely
Life can change a person's personality.
People who have not suffered hardships tend to live enthusiastically; those who have experienced ups and downs will become taciturn.
Those bitter pasts have been imprinted in your heart, you have survived by yourself, and since then you have learned to digest everything by yourself.
You don't want to tell your story to others or learn about other people's things.
You become less talkative, your personality begins to be withdrawn, and you are accustomed to silence.
Free and accustomed, more reluctant to be disturbed by others, experience the joy of simple life, you will enjoy the feeling of living only in your own world.
Ignoring the right and wrong of the outside world, not listening to the gossip of others, and being alone with you has become a kind of enjoyment.
There is a kind of person, the older he gets, the more he likes to be "alone".
On the way forward, no longer expect the comfort and encouragement of others, only do your own people and take your own path.
The solitary person seems to be out of place, but lives a very noble life.
They know that if people want to integrate into the world around them, they have to compromise and go with the flow, and they can't do that, so they choose to take the initiative to distance themselves from others.
There are fewer people around, and the world is clean.
Less deceitful, using deception, but living comfortably, even if it is lonely, it is worth it.
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Author: West Window, a post-90s girl who loves to write, if you like my article, welcome to interact with me in the comment area.