Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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I like a saying, it is like this: without the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good!
In the vast land, all kinds of people, coming and going. Everyone plays their own role in their own life trajectory!
When people look at others from their own point of view, they are accustomed to using their own clearest thinking and brain, as well as their eyes that think they can see everything, and have a correct judgment of other people's world.
Even, some people will stand in their own perspective and exhort others to say: how you are, how you should be, how...
It's just that this kind of heartfelt good for you may not be the right way, but it is also easy to be understood!
I am afraid that some people, obviously can't see you well, but also in the name of being good for you, consume you and hurt you!
People say that they should live to be wise people. Only those who have the ability to analyze the black and white can walk out of the wise life!
A wise life starts with staying away from people who pretend to be "good for you"! If you're smart enough to stay away from people who are "good for you":
First: People who stop you from expressing at any time
Some people, whenever and wherever they are, are willing to stand at the highest level of morality, do not listen to your expressions, do not grasp the experience, and begin to think wishfully about what mistakes you have made, and give the precept of "correspondence".
Such a person is only to show his omnipotence in front of you. But I just want everyone to know how unbearable you are and need to be supported by them to be relatively "good" to do things and be human!
But in fact, many times, what we need to "be good for you" is empathy and empathy. To truly be good for you, you must also jump out of your own God perspective and give the right advice in the form of empathetic thinking.
Instead of always blocking your expression, refusing to listen to your voice, only willing to use the "you don't have to say" attitude to stop all your words!
Some things, as long as they do not violate morality and conscience, if we want to get the results we want, we must explore our hearts in order to achieve the "good for you" in their mouths.
If, he deliberately prevents our expression, then all the "handling" and imposition of concepts is not only a kind of forced suppression of us, but also a malicious act that makes us worse!
People who are really good for you will first explore your inner thoughts and all the things that have happened, and will express suggestions or guidance in the most comfortable way in the tone and tone.
If not, try to stay away from such "good" people. Ta's good, you can't afford it!
Second: Always be your "life coach" and deny your people
There is a kind of person in the world who always thinks of himself as a "capable person"! Often good at others, pointing out the country!
In front of such a person, you need to always worship him as his life mentor to respect, always accept his "guidance", and always show "inferior to ta" gratitude.
Otherwise, it's your immorality! Why? The reason is simple:
In the heart of a person who is high up, all your failures are because you don't listen to his "advice"! All your success is because you have him in your life!
As long as you have intersected with him, then you must have learned all of his experience and absorbed all of his guidance.
Such a person, whether you are right or wrong, will deny you. Because, from his heart, he has never recognized you, and he has never felt how proud and arrogant his "life mentor" is.
The person who always rejects you, no matter how high the status and how good the material foundation is, is a person who lacks self-awareness in his heart. And, also a person who doesn't want you to be good at all!
People who really want you to be good will not deny you all the time! Everyone needs to move progressively towards maturity and success in encouragement and the right advice.
Those who deny you don't look up to you from the heart! The so-called "life coach" is just a very deliberate position on the top! Ta carries the banner of "good for you", but it is to suppress your sense of achievement! That's all!
Truly for your own good, will not trample on your dignity, stepping on your shoulders makes you feel deeply suffocated! If a person is "good to you" in a repressive way, stay away as soon as possible.
Third: a moment of "for your own good", a lifetime of gratitude
In the adult world, what debts you owe don't owe to people! Some people's love debts, you are "not finished" in your life!
In this life, the relationship with anyone is a relationship of comings and goings, but it is not necessarily that your dealings with everyone are "equivalent" exchanges in the eyes of others.
Even some people's human feelings are destined to be unequal comings and goings. Perhaps, you think that the human affection that has been owed for a while can be returned in other ways. However, in the eyes of the other party, he only remembers the actions he has paid for you. Even if you have already repaid the overload through other means, he still feels that you have not done enough.
A moment of "good for you", a lifetime of asking for your gratitude... Such a situation is not uncommon in today's society!
Once because of the lack of life, the money of relatives and friends will always need to let you be a cow and a horse without slacking off;
Once because of the need to move around what kind of relationship to achieve all your expectations, afterwards you become a person without ta and you have no present, need you to be endlessly consumed...
In fact, many people will have the experience of asking others for help at the low point of life. Although the grace of the dripping water should be repaid by the spring, it must be returned within the scope of their own tolerance!
When you have been overwhelmed by the psychology and reality of gratitude, you have the right to choose to stop gratitude.
After all, "for your own good" is the beginning of a virtue that needs to be remembered gratefully, but it must not be a moral kidnapping-style consumable rack game!
The difficulty of life is often the interpersonal relationship encountered on the road of life!
In particular, those who are full of "good for you" but make you feel hard when you are in pain, you must remember to stay away in time!
Don't just forget to pander to and forget about self-pleasing because of someone else's mouth!
People who are really good for you must not be willing to let you suffer! The person who makes you miserable never wants you to be really good!
When you do not violate morality and conscience to be the right self, there are still people who maliciously make you unable to live in peace at any time in the name of being good for you, and never really consider problems from your point of view... Well, stay away in time.
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