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A few years ago, I was still working as a reporter in a newspaper, and once I did a topic survey about "how do you think boys should be poor", because it is common sense for girls to be rich and do not need to be discussed.
I threw this topic into the group of friends, most of whom did not bird me, and said that I could talk about some noble topics, such as teak Tina Potano knots.
There was only one person who replied to me seriously. I wrote thousands of words. He is Daming, an IT engineer.
He was so touched by the topic.
Because he and his cousin, the family situation is completely similar, both are well-off, but one was raised by poverty, the other was raised by wealth, and grew into two completely different kinds of human beings.
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Daming and his cousin, the concept of money is completely different.
Daming has been indoctrinated since he was a child, money is not easy to come by, and it must be hard and simple. He could only wear his cousin's old clothes, including underwear.
He can only play with his cousin's rotten toys. He could only rub a little of his cousin's pocket money.
Once his cousin gave him a dollar, and he saved it like a treasure, and his mother found out and beat him up. In college, all his classmates had cell phones, and he wanted to buy one, but his mother vetoed it.
At that time, he only had 500 yuan a month to live on.
He went to donate blood because they had a 400-dollar subsidy for blood donation at school and would hand out two boxes of biscuits. He ate the two boxes of biscuits as rice, ate 20 pieces a day for a month.
It is precisely because he was strictly controlled economically from childhood to adulthood that he sincerely felt that money was a good thing, and he was particularly eager to make money, and he was particularly reluctant to spend money. Now, he is in his 30s and earns 40,000 a month, which is higher than his cousin's income.
But the quality of life is so much worse.
Because his cousin had never lacked money since he was a child, he felt that money was not the most important thing. Enjoy, experience, pleasure, these are more important than money. Money, the old ones don't go, the new ones don't come. So he wants to buy what to buy, once or twice a year to travel abroad, living a very moist life.
And Daming spent a dollar with his heart like a knife. He is too expensive to buy anything. No matter how thirsty they are, they are reluctant to buy a bottle of mineral water, and they have to go home and drink cold white. The company has dinners and buffets, and he can hold himself up to the point of vomiting, because he feels that eating less is a huge waste.
When I was a child, I was in poverty and embarrassment for a long time, and it was difficult to feel safe when I grew up. The only thing that makes him feel safe is that the numbers on the passbook keep going up. He was afraid, afraid to go back to the days of fear for a dollar.
The result of poor support is often to make children care about money. In the future, even if he has money, he will cut the door.
Poor acid would become a curse on him for the rest of his life.
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Daming and his cousin are completely different in pattern.
The only thing Daming cared about since he was a child was to save money and save money.
Doing housework at home, taking out garbage for 5 cents, washing dishes for 1 cent, he relies on this to earn pocket money. He measures the success or failure of the week by looking at how much money is saved.
Money holds all his sorrows and joys.
And his cousin had no concept of money at all, and he was interested in a lot of things.
For example, there was a time when he was fascinated by the history of the Three Kingdoms, and his parents took him on a tour of all the places related to the Three Kingdoms. For example, there was a time when he was obsessed with military weapons, and his parents took him to various military museums to play.
There was a bigger world in his heart.
After graduating from Daming University, he entered the same Internet company, and a few years later, his monthly income was more than 20,000.
Every time he would carefully analyze the pay slip, pay thirty or fifty yuan less, he would go to the financial quarrel. A company in Shanghai came to dig him up and earned 30,000 a month.
He felt so cool, Mom was going to get rich. You can get a lot more money every year.
At that time, his cousin advised him to take a long-term view, he is now a company, quite promising, colleagues are very hard to fight, do not easily change jobs. Daming couldn't listen at all. He felt that his cousin, who did not know the sufferings of the people, understood Mao.
Because he doesn't know when what he has will be taken away, he is very pessimistic and thinks of the bad in everything. He doesn't care what the future is, he just wants the present.
Daming resigned resolutely.
The company he stayed for before went public. Forgot to say, that company, is Ali.
Daming's colleagues at that time, because the company went public, became multi-millionaire overnight. In order to take a few thousand more pieces every month, Daming lost tens of millions.
What a sad story.
More sad than sad, Daming has always felt that China's housing prices are bubbles and will definitely fall. In 2008, he and his cousin both wanted to buy a house, when the house price in Shanghai was 10,000 or 20,000, and he felt that it was too expensive to buy. He tried to be cheap and bought a house in his hometown for 8,000 units.
His cousin bought a 200-square-meter set in a very good location in Shanghai. He thought his cousin was crazy.
He had been waiting for his cousin to one day regret his stupid decision. Now, Daming's house, the unit price is 9000.
Cousin's house, the unit price is 90,000.
The cousin is different from Daming, especially optimistic, thinking of good things in everything, and always believing that the future will be better.
That's vision. That's the pattern.