Today, I went to the vegetable market with my mother-in-law to buy vegetables, met an uncle and my mother-in-law greeted, he carried a fish in his left hand, a large number of vegetables and fruits in his right hand, dressed neatly, in a hurry, chatted with my mother-in-law for two sentences, and rushed to send his children to school.
I said to my mother-in-law: "This uncle is good, buying vegetables to cook, picking up and dropping off children, hurting his wife, really a good man who takes care of the family." ”
The mother-in-law said, "Oh, hey, he's done!" ”
Then my mother-in-law told me his story.
He had been married twice, and his current wife was his second wife.
His first wife, gentle and virtuous, honest and diligent, worked in a supermarket with a low salary. And he is a small clerk, and the salary is not high.
When the child is born, he still has to take out a loan to buy a house, but his income will not increase much no matter how hard he tries. He became grumpy and began to smoke and drink heavily. When she came home late, if she had the slightest whisper, he would go crazy with wine, beat her, scold her, and she was just like a cat, curled up in the corner of the house crying.
He never did housework, he was the treasurer of the family. When the meal was ready, the chopsticks were not put away, and he refused to sit down at the table. After each bowl of rice, she humbly took the bowl and went to serve it.
He likes neatness. Her washed clothes were as bright as new. His shirt and suit were ironed flat by her.
Outsiders say that she is good, but he feels bored, and still uses her as a punching bag when he is bored. Until one day, she filed for divorce. He was stupid enough not to think that this woman would also take the initiative to leave him one day.
He signed it almost without hesitation, and the big masters were still worried about not being able to find a wife? His family is three generations of single transmission, and the children are also awarded to him.
Less than a year after the divorce, he remarried.
Women are shopkeepers, demonized, smoking, rubbing mahjong. Her inattentive laziness fascinated him deeply. He fell in love with the woman who spat out smoke rings.
She always came out late and returned home late, returned home at midnight, and still slept soundly at 8 a.m. Helplessly, the child had to go to school, and he had to go downstairs to buy breakfast. Carrying the early breakfast, he encountered the surprised eyes of the neighbors, and he was actually a little ashamed. Once upon a time, he did not go downstairs for such a trivial matter. At noon, her shop is not closed. He didn't understand business and couldn't look after the shop for her. He had to go home and cook, and when he was done, he would send her another one. In the evening, she closed the shop at 9 o'clock. Dinner could not count on her, and he had to hone his cooking skills.
The clothes were dirty, there was no need to change, she was still busy, there was no intention of washing. He had to put down the man's shelf and wrestle with dirt in the washing powder.
He had to make so many concessions that she was completely unaware. One night, when she came back from rubbing mahjong, he angrily asked, "What have you done for your family?" Not to be outdone, the woman said she earned more money than he did. When the words were fierce, he waved and slapped the woman, who screamed like a little lion, pounced on him, tugged at his hair, bit his arm, scratched his face.
Because of the blood on his face, he took a few days off and did not go to work.
He never hit her again, and the fierce war made him completely compromise. He buys groceries, cooks, does laundry, takes care of the kids, cleans, and does everything his ex-wife used to do.
I am a leaf, a lonely leaf, just helplessly and nervously opened the road of self-media, I hope you like this story, and can come with me to analyze the comments.
Which wife do you think is doing it right? Which kind of life is better for the uncle?
Maybe some people will say that the two wives are right and wrong, which life is good or bad, outsiders can't tell, maybe only the uncle in the story is clear, the so-called shoes are not suitable, the feet know.
Indeed, there are thousands of people, a hundred people, each with their own way of life, each with their own thoughts. However, I think that the uncle smoked, drank, and scolded his ex-wife, which was always wrong, and the second wife also had a lot of problems.
Feeling clear needs to go in both directions, and marriage needs two people to run together.
If the first wife did not go along with it at first, knowing how to train the uncle to become a qualified husband, there would be a different ending, right?