My relationship with my mother is so special, from a young age, like two naughty babies, I looked at each other unpleasantly, but I deeply cared for each other.
My mother was busy earning money to support her family since she was a child, and she tried her best to keep herself and her family alive and build a home of her own at the stage of needing to solve the problem of food and clothing. Since I was a child, I only knew that my mother was very hard, I didn't see her once in a few years, every time I met, I was in a hurry, and my mother was a beautiful strange woman. When I was a child, I did not understand the instinct of being a mother, just like a bird mother who no longer wants to have a child, but also has to find food for her infant child.
And how many friends, like me, blame their parents for the lack of roles throughout childhood and adolescence, resulting in psychological problems. At an age when I was not yet sensible, I would only use anger, depression, and rebellion to balance my own shortcomings, so that I could reach the pleasure of revenge on my parents, but the blame and insults of my parents did not get the satisfaction and happiness I imagined, and some were endless desolation...
When I naturally enjoyed and squandered the wealth I gained on Mother's Day, and arrogantly looked at my mother as an adult and twisted, there was a small voice in my heart that was actually just expecting a response from my mother's love. Children often love their parents more than they love their children themselves, and if you forget this feeling, you can recall whether you are like this.
When I was a parent, I unconsciously returned to the situation that my parents had for us, and forgot whether my current children were also suffering from everything that I didn't want to bear like the little me.
Too strange and strange two people, but the closest people, close to always make people feel particularly embarrassed and embarrassed, blood and relationship recent, but will make each other misunderstood, there are too many expectations for each other think you should understand me, because you are my mother, you are my child, should give me everything I need.
But is that really the case? If you believe and respect that everyone is an independent individual, with their own thoughts and lives, rather than being threatened by moral standards and emotional kidnapping, then we and our parents will be more intimate and harmonious. Because we are all growing up with each other, just like the saying that everyone is the first time to come into this world, everyone is the first time to experience such a life, and everyone is the first time to be a parent.
When learning to let go of expectations of others, but pay attention to why they expect others to love me, to affirm me, to tolerate me, to meet me, I will meet a new self, a higher version of myself, and our relationship with our parents will be more intimate, we all begin to learn to respect each other, understand each other's world, and then start a new intimate relationship journey together.