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I don't know, since when, people now dislike the circle of friends more and more, and find that the friends around them, their circle of friends have become monotonous.
In fact, it seems that the older you get, the more you find that many things are unnecessary, and you don't know whether you have grown up or looked down, and more and more people have begun to quit the circle of friends.
It is said that the days of not sending the circle of friends are in serious life, probably because the pressure of life is too great, and many times there is weakness in the heart and is unwilling to talk about it.
Or, no one in this world will feel the same, even if you say it, it may not be understood by others, resulting in more and more people unwilling to reveal their hearts again, do not want to be looked down upon or criticized by others.
Some time ago, I saw someone in the group chatting, mentioning a friend I hadn't seen for a long time, she silently got married, and as a result, few people around her knew.
Through this incident, many people have their own ideas and cognition, some people feel that they do not regard him as a friend, and some people feel that in fact, there is no need to contact, each has its own life.
Nowadays, people are more focused on their own lives, they are subtracting from their own circles, and many things do not need to be known to everyone, just know it.
In fact, sometimes I can understand this mentality, everyone has their own life, there is no need to say anything.
The circle of friends is originally a place to share and record, and share something when the mood is good, but too many people habitually comment on other people's lives, resulting in too many people's distractions, while accelerating their inner anxiety.
It is difficult for a person to go so far as not to fully care about other people's opinions, and the way to avoid anxiety is to return to their own lives and stop interfering with others.
For a real friend, even if you don't send a circle of friends, he will also remember you, and a really good relationship is not only understood through the circle of friends.
After closing the circle of friends, you will find that you will be much happier, more able to focus on your own things, return to your own life, and no longer have to worry about others arbitrarily evaluating your life.
I don't know if your circle of friends also has this status quo, and I don't share it much, unless it's a really beautiful thing that will be released.
If you open a lot of people's circle of friends, you will find that many people may not have any dynamics for a year, and even many people have closed the circle of friends and set it to be visible for only three days.
While you sigh, you also silently closed the circle of friends, in fact, it is not that you are unwilling to send it, but many things feel unnecessary.
There are fewer and fewer things that you want to say, can say, and are willing to share, and every day in the life of hard work, it seems that there is no time and energy to vent your emotions anymore.
Some people may feel that everyone's desire to share is slowly fading, but it is not, but time will make people grow and mature.
Things that used to be accountable now feel childish, superficial, and even a waste of time. For this phenomenon, it is probably a mature progress.
In the adult world, there is no longer any more complaining and nostalgia, because life is very tired, and I don't want to affect my current state because of other emotions.
Many times, even if you say it, it is not necessarily that others will understand, and people who understand it may not necessarily make changes, and in the end, life is still a person's loneliness.
What we have to do is to try to return to ourselves and be ourselves.
summary:
After years of baptism, I understand more and more that the reality that people have to accept is that not everyone will accompany you to the end, and the people who can really accompany you are the people who care about you the most.
And in this world, there are not many people who really want you to live well, and everyone wants to live their best.
At this age, your own feelings are the most important, there is no need to wronged yourself and fulfill others.
According to your own rhythm, do not need to care about other people's eyes and opinions, their own happiness is the first, life, cold and warm self-knowledge, you are happy more than anything has meaning.
So, care more about your feelings and share what you want to say with people who really deserve it.