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Miyazaki once said a sentence that made me cry when I read it:
"If I do it again, I'll remember what you look like, and then hide in the crowd, and I won't say it even if I like it, because it's a shadow and a lesson." 」
When I was young, I used to like a boy, I liked it very much, every day I went to school I would get up early, because I thought I could see him at the first time, but although he accepted my little note, but it seemed to be ambiguous with another girl, I once cried and asked him: "Which one do you like better?" He didn't speak, and my heart shattered in an instant.
At that time, I was beautiful, my grades were excellent, and I was a shining star in the hearts of teachers and classmates, and that girl, in addition to looking relatively white, I couldn't see where she was stronger than me, I was unwilling, so I would ask, but this boy did not even have the courage to face this problem.
The ending is naturally that I kicked him, study well, every day upwards, no longer put a little heart on his body, I did not expect, when I graduated from junior high school, he actually stopped me, asked me if I still like him, I "huh" twice, I went away, leaving him alone to drink sad, and after ten years, he touched me again, still want to continue the frontier, but also I coldly refused, a classmate we all know told me, in fact, he has been looking for me, through various classmates to ask for my contact information, I knew, but I didn't get through him once.
Someone asked me, do you want to live as the woman he will never forget? Ha, in fact, I will not be so confident, I can guarantee that he may be crazy to contact me in the past ten years, but this does not delay him from loving other women, nor does it delay him from marrying and having children, he will not die to live, at most there are some regrets, but soon he can also be replaced by other joys, men, always can fall in love with two women at the same time, or even more.
Into the case.
Hello Mei Niang, my husband and I are considered to be young plum bamboo horses, the two people have a good emotional foundation, he is very good to me, after getting married we soon have a son and a daughter, I never doubted that he would betray me. The earliest discovery of her husband's betrayal should have been on April 28, 2018, and he had a photo of him and a woman in a hotel on his mobile phone. I asked him, he admitted his mistake, and then I thought twice and chose to forgive, and he also said that he would not do it again in the future, and he still loved me.
But in May and June of this year, a man came to add me to WeChat, saying that my husband's relationship with his wife was not normal, and he found that his wife lent me 3,000 yuan to my husband. Although he has already returned to his wife, but my husband called his wife very intimate, and he has a lot of records of my husband sending red envelopes to his wife, he took a few pictures for me, there are 100 yuan, and 520 sent 52 yuan that day, he said that there are many more will not be sent to me one by one. He wanted to ask me for an explanation, and asked me, why does my husband call him wife dear? He also said that your husband is not rich and sends so many red envelopes to others.
I also explained a lot to him about this, and I asked my husband afterwards, and he didn't admit anything between them. Saying that it was just an ordinary friend, she had lent him money, so in order to thank him, he only sent her a red envelope, I have no other evidence, I can only believe it.
But now I feel particularly insecure, as if I've been watched. Just these days, another stranger came to add me to WeChat, and called out my name, saying that it was someone from my hometown, and she told me some things about my husband's betrayal and asked me to manage him so that next time he would not make another mistake. I felt very tired, he said as if it was particularly real, some felt particularly fake, I still don't know who this person is, and finally he deleted my WeChat.
I was so confused by this that I asked my husband and brother to ask him, and he didn't say anything. And this month my husband gave a thousand yuan to the family, what is his salary, I know the approximate, I feel that he must not only have that little salary, must have hidden something from me, I have a bad temper, I wanted to ask him well, but he always did not say a word, I was anxious, and when he videoed, he quarreled with him, he had a cold war with me, and he did not care much about the affairs of the family, and there was no money.
Of course, at present, the family's savings are still in my hands, which still makes me feel at ease, but the fact that he spent his heart is already nailed down, I am now at home alone and have to work, and I have to take the child, the child comes back on the weekend, I must also pretend that nothing happens, for fear of affecting his studies. Now I really don't know what to do, I want to ask Mei Niang, can a man really love two women at the same time? What should I do now?
Hello dear, thanks for trust, first answer your first question, can a man really love two women at the same time? Yes, and more than two, if there is no morality, not limited to financial and talent, the love of men is more and more, you see the deceased gambling king, a lifelong gentleman, married to a four-room wife, but also countless lovers, if not old, the wives have become the climate, then he will continue to love, until the last day of life.
So to be in love with a man, there is no need to be overly happy, thinking that you are the only one, because in his opinion, there are more unique! Every fresh woman is different and unique.
And a man betrayed, there is no need to be overly anxious, thinking that the sky has fallen, they will have no branches to live in, this is really a big mistake, because in marriage, you still have legal weapons, he is also jealous, not all extramarital affairs are so easy to continue, when the extramarital affair is exposed, it is he who should be upset, not you.
Since a man's humanity is the possibility of falling in love with different women at the same time, what should he do as a woman? Remember the phrase "only human nature can restrain human nature" and you win.
There is truth and falsehood in human nature, there is good and evil, it is complex, not single. As a woman, if you only live the sincere and kind side, but not the hypocritical and vicious side, then you will never be able to hold him.
A man has an affair, he is evil to you, because he ignores your dignity and emotions, and only considers his own selfish desires, especially after you are harassed by some messy people, he is still choosing to hide and deceive you, he has no integrity to you, why do you continue to be kind, honest, sincere and good at talking?
You have to live out your aggression, your love and hate. I can't control you, then I have the ability to make you bear the property after the betrayal, the loss of reputation (take out all the property in your hand and save it back to your mother's house), your children will be left unattended (to grandparents, and the children say that they are going on a business trip), do you see if he will still be cold and violent with you? He comes to you and asks you, and you don't have to be silly and say to him, "I'm going to punish you!" You have to say, "Nothing, since you said you don't have a woman outside, you still love me, so what does it matter if the money keeps it in my mother's house?" It is only natural for the child to let the grandmother take it! Next time, I'll send my child straight to you!" Dads have to spend more time with their children! ”
Only by using the "more evil" of human nature can we punish "evil", and "more pseudo" can punish "pseudo". When you were a child, you did something wrong, you had to be scolded by your parents, and when you grew up, you broke the law and discipline, there would be police and prisons, and when you did something wrong, could it be that your parents still dragged you into their arms? You have committed a crime, can the police still talk and laugh with you?
Don't say, "You hurt me, it makes me miserable", so that person will hurt you and stop hurting you? No, you have to take a knife and take a halberd out to dry, and people will be jealous of you.
And those messy people if they come to you again, what do you reply? Do you still have to help your husband say sorry? Of course not, put away the evidence, and then send the screenshot to the husband, what else to talk about? Tomorrow I will go to the court, you earn money, I can earn money, the property is all in my place, the truth is also in me, who is afraid of whom in this world?
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