"Parents teach, we must listen, parents are responsible, they must be obedient..." Whenever the "Disciple Rules" recited by young children ring in their ears, a sense of pride arises spontaneously. The "Disciple Rules" is the foundation of China's five-thousand-year traditional moral education and the inheritance of classic family style, which forms our national character and is also the connotation of family style passed down from generation to generation.
Ancients Cloud: Home - Country - World. Whether it is the original matrilineal society or the later patriarchal society, it is all based on the family and the family as a unit. Whoever wants to rule his country, first gather his family. The etiquette of the Zhou Dynasty has been passed down through the ages, and the patriarchal love affair has made the family feel the same emotions. From generation to generation, the husband taught his son to learn, and the family training style was passed down in this way. As the saying goes: home and everything. The stability of society depends on the harmony of the family, and the harmony of the family is the inheritance of good family style. Yue Fei, a famous general of the Southern Song Dynasty, whose mother and godson were very strict in order to cultivate a good family style for him, carved the four words "Jing Zhongguo And Repay the Country" on his broad back before he left, making him single-mindedly serve the country and become a model of loyalty and filial piety. His spirit also deeply influenced his son Yue Yun, making his father and son famous in Chinese history for thousands of years.
"I don't want to be rich from generation to generation, but I hope that there will be talents from generation to generation." Zeng Jize, a modern Chinese diplomat, Zeng Jihong, a famous mathematician, Zeng Guangjun, the youngest scholar of the Hanlin Academy, and so on, are all the children and grandchildren of Zeng Guofan, a generation of famous ministers. Behind the success is inseparable from the influence of the family style, and Zeng Guofan family training is the representative of many famous family training, Zeng Jiamen style to "eight books" and "three details" as the essence, for today's people to provide a model of the model, Zeng Guofan once left a sixteen-character motto family style: family frugality is prosperous, people are diligent and healthy, can be diligent and thrifty, never poor. The family training is like this, and Zeng Guofan's own words and deeds are even more "harsh". Servants were not allowed to be employed in the family, and his adherence to his ancestral precepts had to make people stand in awe. It is also this kind of family style and such an exemplary role that makes the Zeng family style passed down for generations. Liang Qichao, one of the leaders of the Penghu Reform Law, explained the good family style inheritance with examples, he gave birth to nine children in his lifetime, although he gave different personalities and hobbies to individuals, but they all came to the same destination, everyone has become a pillar of the country, the famous architect and educator Liang Sicheng, the founder of modern field archaeology Liang Siyong, Liang Sizhong, who served as an artillery colonel and made many military achievements, the famous economist Liang Sida, the rocket system control expert Liang Sili, the research expert of ancient chinese poetry Liang Sishun, Liang Sizhuang, who served as the director of peking university library and was elected vice president of the Library Society of China, Liang Siyi, a social activist, and Liang Sining, an old revolutionary engaged in propaganda work, are all inheritors of Liang Qichao's good family style, and their success is inseparable from his father's hard work and good family style.
From ancient times to the present, Yan Zhitui's "Yan Family Training", Zhuge Liang's "Book of Commandments", Zhou Yi's "Mian Zhi'er's Generation", Zhu Zi's "Maxim of Governing the Family", "Zeng Guofan Family Book", "Bo Lei Family Book" and so on are widely circulated in the folk and flash the dazzling light of good family style. However, some people say that the family style has always been a matter for large households and has little to do with ordinary people. I think this is a misunderstanding and an excuse, "literati value family style", but family style is not just literary personnel. Many ordinary people like me, although they have no special family training, but under the sincere teachings of their grandparents and fathers, they also form their own family style in the subtlety of daily life, and pass it on from generation to generation.
Let the home style become "a gust of wind", leaving behind the feeling of "the ancient wind is no longer", I think it is necessary to mention the family style again today. The inheritance of family style has nothing to do with history, has nothing to do with culture, has nothing to do with rich and poor, and has nothing to do with virtue. The home style is formed in the subtle and plays a role in the daily bits and pieces. Only when the source of family style is clear can we better cultivate a good party style, government style, social style, and people's style. (Agricultural Development Bank of Puyang City Branch Business Department Wang Fangfang)