In fact, what is the passion that has just begun in love, the joy of strangeness to intimacy, the shyness of being distant to making physical contact.
In the end, the passion and freshness at the beginning are willing to be unfamiliar and distant. You long to be close, to understand, to be intimate, this ambiguous, impulsive, difficult to control, want to touch and not touch, make you feel passionate.
However, people will slowly become familiar with each other, you will eventually understand each other, familiar with each other, he said the last sentence you know what he said next, you guessed that tonight eat fried sauce noodles.
Because of familiarity, the heart-wrenching and curiosity of getting and not getting are gone. Because of familiarity, you know his next move, so there are no more surprises and expectations. So there was no passion.
However, life is the process of becoming flat, the freshness fades, no longer shy, no longer excited. In the days to come, a dull life is the main theme, eating and going to work together, coping with the trivialities of life together, quarreling, tired, and wanting to keep a distance, these are the norms of life.
Man cannot always be in a state of passion, just like the pulse that always beats for a long time, and man cannot stand it. Therefore, in fact, we have to adapt to the blandness of love, do not have to be afraid and do not have to worry, no freshness does not mean that it is not love, it is only an inevitable product of a stage, to learn to coexist with it.
Do you know how passion is slowly consumed in life, and why it tastes greasy after being in love for a long time?
1) Followed for a long time
In the slow run-in with each other, you have found out each other's disposition, and you know each other's habits, hobbies, strengths and weaknesses, including when and where to do things, you are all familiar with it. This kind of daily life, you guess thoroughly, has no intention at all, and is familiar to the point of "touching the right hand with the left hand". You sometimes don't even have the desire to communicate because you know the other person too well and don't have anything to ask. To her, you also seem to have lost the desire to explore.
2) Trivial quarrels of life
Life can not escape chai rice oil and salt, parents in the short, trivial all kinds of things, these things you will inevitably have disagreements, quarrels, and quarrels for a long time, both people will be tired, will be bored, will feel that when you were in love when you were not like this, and then the two people slowly have a consideration and estrangement in their hearts. Maybe when in love, one party is always inclusive, but after marriage, always tolerant gradually will not be able to stand. These contradictions and disputes have slowly become the emotional consumption of two people, and even if they are reluctant to talk more, their feelings will be diluted.
3) Distrust and suspicion of the other party
The most taboo in love is to distrust each other, suspect that the other party does not love themselves, and suspect that the other party is cheating. Particularly insecure. As soon as the other party has a wind and grass, they doubt whether the other party does not love that they have a woman outside, and they can't stand talking to other girls for two days. I began to check the other party's mobile phone, always asking him what he was doing, and when he didn't reply to the message, he was suspicious. In the long run, the other party will really not be able to stand it. He will feel that you no longer understand him, do not trust him, and he feels very tired of getting along with you. Slowly, it will also consume feelings, and what words are more reluctant to say to you.
Therefore, even if life is the norm, many of our usual actions are consuming feelings.
In fact, we still have many ways to restore the passion of ordinary feelings, or there are some ways to return to the hot love period.
1) Prepare some surprises occasionally
Adult life is very boring, commuting to and from work at two o'clock and one line, sometimes the consumption of feelings may be a boring life. How long has it been since I enjoyed life with my significant other. Which day is in a good mood to buy a bottle of red wine, make a good dish for the other half, have a candlelight dinner, and talk freely with two people, this sense of life will also make each other happy.
On a mundane day, buy her a bag or lipstick that she hasn't been willing to buy for a long time. In fact, the important thing is not the thing, but to let the other party know that you are paying attention to her, to know what she has been thinking about for a long time.
2) Change your own shape
You can change the dressing style, hairstyle, and styling, which will make the other half feel bright and feel that you still have such a side, which has not been found before. Change his preconceived notions of you, let him increase his interest in what you know, and you will become more attractive and desired in his eyes.
3) Contact every day and say something interesting
Although it is a long time in love, it is best to keep in touch, otherwise people and people will really become ignorant and go farther and farther. You think you know everything about him, but there may be something you don't say anymore.
Chat, don't feel that the old husband and wife have become dry, good morning and good night to eat. There is nothing to joke with the other party, say something funny, say something warm and ambiguous, and it will be a surprise and a lot of fun for the other party. In fact, it will warm the heart for a long time.
4) Learn to be grateful
Maybe after a long time together, you will feel that everything is taken for granted. Gradually, you will not be able to see the other party's contribution to you. Actually, you just ignored it. To remember what the other party has done for you, to be grateful, you will find that the original life is so beautiful, the other party is so good to you, you still feel greasy here, there is no passion, there is really no reason. Sometimes it's just habits that mask love.
Finally, I would like to give you a word: freshness is not to change one person after another to do repetitive things, but to do different things with the same person and experience the unknown life together.
The rest of life is long, freshness is only a short firework, habit and cherishing, plain and happy is the main theme of love.