The highest door is a major influencing factor in marriage, perhaps love will break this obstacle, and in the face of love and material, most of the people who choose materials want to climb the high branches and get rid of their previous lives, but the greed that breeds in the unequal marriage will eventually force him into the abyss of desire and end in failure.
Chai Yindi is one such example.
The protagonist of the article "The Grudge Girl", Chai Yindi, known as "MaYou Xi Shi", lives with her brother and sister-in-law, and likes Xiao Liu of the pharmacy family, but under the temptation of money status, she rejects this marriage and marries the second young master of the Yao family, a local rich family, and since then, she has staged a play of "slum girls marrying a rich family".
In the face of the choice of material and love, it is often a thought of heaven and a thought of hell, and the moment Chai Yindi abandons The white moonlight Xiao Liu is doomed to a tragic ending.
Chai Yindi has been complaining all her life, and the resentment has become more and more intense as she gets older. Before getting married, she complained that her sweetheart Xiao Liu did not show up; when she married, she complained about the deception of the matchmaker; after marrying, she complained about her husband's cowardice and the snobbery of the Yao family.
She blames her misfortune on others, never thinking that all this is just self-inflicted, controlled by desire but powerless, using resentment to vent her dissatisfaction, personality distortion, and finally trapping her son with the cage woven by resentment.
Chai Yindi, whose parents died early, lived with her brother and sister-in-law, selling sesame oil for a living, the brothers and sisters-in-law regarded Chai Yindi as a money-losing commodity, and had no intention of preparing a dowry for her, and naturally agreed when the matchmaker said that he would let her go to be an aunt.
When Chai Yindi married into the Yao family, the only dowry was given by the man, which also made the Yao family look down on her.
When the child was full moon wine, Chai Yindi was reluctant to ask the old lady for help, but the mother's family could not come up with money, she could only sell her jewelry to let her brother buy a full moon gift, and on the day of the full moon wine, she pretended to be sick and lay in bed.
During Chai Yindi's confinement period, the third room lost a precious pearl flower, the first person to suspect was Chai Yindi, even the servants dared to loudly satirize "they are used to taking things in their own rooms, large bags and small wrapping are moved out, how to blame the courage is not bigger and bigger, stealing others", Chai Yindi was wronged, but he could only cry with a headache.
The identity of the mother's family made her unable to raise her head in the Yao family, and there was only bitter irony when she met between concubines, even if she laughed and joked in order to close the relationship, but the other two wives were very stiff on their faces, and the expressions on their faces seemed to be saying that she was unworthy and could not be on the table.
There is no strong background, not a door-to-door marriage, no bottomless support, in the giants can only be a knife trick, I am for the fish.
Xiao Liu, the guy from the medicine shop opposite, a person from the same village as Chai Yindi's grandmother, tall, clean and beautiful, is Chai Yindi's favorite object.
If you marry Xiao Liu, food and clothing will not be a problem, and his mother is good at talking, and she will not be angry with her mother-in-law, but Chai Yindi has always been reluctant to "live in a yellow mud hut, serve an old woman, and see only seasonal changes all year round."
When the matchmaker first came to the media, her brother and sister-in-law were very satisfied, but she was unwilling, crying, and even forced to die, which gave up, and at that time she hoped that Xiao Liu could take the initiative.
Xiao Liu is a shy guy, the two are relatively close to the opportunity, only chai Yindi helped her sister-in-law to get medicine, Xiao Liu secretly gave her a bag of white chrysanthemums. Although Chai Yindi didn't like the taste very much, she still soaked it every day.
Later, Grandma came to the city to talk about Xiao Liu Niang's kissing, but when Chai Yindi heard the news, she was not as happy as she thought, she felt that Xiao Liu could only be a partner for a lifetime, then she could only be a poor relative for a lifetime, she was shaken.
Although Xiao Liu is a good person, but the material conditions are not good enough, under the measurement of material and love, she rejected this family affair.
If Chai Yindi had chosen Xiao Liu in the beginning, the ending might not have been so tragic, but the greed and vanity in her bones and the love of face made her unwilling to live in poverty in the countryside.
She thought that she could exchange her beauty for the rest of her life, and she was always unwilling to marry Xiao Liu, so after rejecting Xiao Liu's relatives, she was relieved.
The Yao family, the local squire, the old lady, the eldest wife and the third wife are all from a rich family, and naturally look down on the beautiful Chai Yindi. The three sons of the Yao family, Uncle Yao became an official, the purpose of which was only to collect wealth, and eventually the East Window Incident occurred, and Third Master Yao became angry and did nothing.
Second Master Yao, extremely ugly in appearance, hunched over the front of the chicken breast, or a blind man with asthma, when he first said the media, he was described as the proud son of heaven, "well-educated, kind and gentle, like a girl", because of the resentment of the matchmaker's deception, Chai Yindi hated him when he saw Second Master Yao at first sight.
Even if Chai Yindi was wronged in the Yao family, he would not care about her, even if Chai Yindi complained that Third Master Yao spent too much money, he only spoke officially, saying that these things did not hinder things.
In addition to her origins, Second Master Yao's position in the Yao family was another reason why she was wronged in the Yao family, her husband was incompetent, the concubine was disgusted, the concubine looked down on her, and the maid bullied her.
In that big mansion, Chai Yindi's dignity was trampled on by everyone, and they were all eager to step on her, and this suffering, no one knew, became resentment over time.
The matter of Chai Yindi and Third Master Yao is not so much an emptiness of feelings and body as a revenge, revenge for her cowardly and incompetent husband, and revenge for herself.
The Yao family fell completely in the end, Uncle Yao fell from the horse, Yao Sanye died childless, Chai Yindi watched the decline of the Yao family's relatives, her mood was happy, in her opinion, their decadence can more show their nobility, just like the original them, she can finally look at them from above.
Although Chai Yindi is the second youngest grandmother of the Yao family, in fact, everyone does not take her seriously. In the extended family, poverty is an original sin. The sins she suffered eventually made her another old lady Yao.
In the environment in which Chai Yindi lived, women could only change their fate through marriage, and she wanted to change her poor fate, so it was understandable that money status overcame the desire for love.
However, with the progress of society and the change of women's status, if women's happiness is all pinned on men and in marriage, it is a big mistake.
The difference between one thought and one regret is too late. We have to admit that the choice of a single thought is really important, whether it is deliberate or impulsive, and choosing different directions often leads to very different results.
In the face of the choice of material and love, it is often a thought of heaven and a thought of hell.
Love and material are very important to us, but life without love can still be lived, and love without material support is often difficult to continue, which shows that material is often better than love.
However, on the basis of sacrificing love, some people choose materials, but they breed more greed - love, the heart is higher than the sky, life is thinner than paper, and it is doomed to failure.
There is nothing wrong with pursuing material things, but if the greed and ability cultivated by material things are not matched, they will only be swallowed up by desire in the end.
Getting a temporary benefit is simple, the difficulty is how to benefit in the long run. Betting on love can indeed make people benefit for a while, but the winning rate and how long it can be maintained cannot be guaranteed, and the unequal marriage relationship will collapse sooner or later.
People live a lifetime, after all, they have to rely on themselves, may you and I have the ability to protect ourselves and love ourselves!
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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