2021 has begun, the spring recruitment is not far away, I believe that many partners have put the question of whether to change jobs on the agenda. Is it better to enter the Internet factory, or is it better to resign from graduate school? Is it better to enter a state-owned enterprise or a small shop by yourself? ......
The seniors had their own opinions, and the back waves flocked to them. The choices seem to be infinite, but I feel that all the roads do not lead to Rome very much - "Where is my road?" ”
Readers who are looking for jobs or considering changing jobs are huddled in our backstage screaming and seriously asking us one of the most difficult questions of the ages: how to get a job that they love, have social significance, have money, and can play their own strengths?
The answer is here —
In recent years, the concept of "Sheng き甲斐" has been successively introduced into European and American societies by several scholars, and has been widely disseminated. After some collision and exchange of Japanese and European and American ideological trends, the concept of "き甲斐" has become popular mainly in the field of career.
In the European and American career industry, the concept of "Sheng Jia Fei" aims to solve a universal, existential problem: to find the job that makes us feel the meaning of life.
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In the process of job search, many people will encounter a sense of frustration, which mainly comes from conflicting desires: I want to a, b, and c, but I find that there is a conflict between abc; I want to solve these conflicts, but it is difficult to find the answer given by my predecessors in social experience.
I believe that "Sheng Ka Fei" can help many people out of this stalemate.
"Sheng Jia Fei" is not a linear strategy that is specific to a few steps, but more like an innings, a field (the "bureau" of the pattern, the "field" of the magnetic field).
We can think of this diagram as a circle of water waves on the surface of a lake, which contains 4 layers (or four realms).
In the following, we will explain it layer by layer.
When we build our own "Sheng Jia Fei", we need to answer these 4 original questions:
What do you immerse yourself in while you're doing something without thinking about the investment?
What are the things you start expecting long in advance?
For example, if you play the piano so often that you forget the time, then you love it.
What you're good at is usually things that are easy for you to do, progress quickly, or have the patience to stick to the end. For example, if you have only been practicing piano for one year, you will take the 4th grade.
What do you do to get paid? We need to get money out of our work in order to meet other needs of life. What can you do that you can socially exchange for money? For example: playing the piano for customers in a restaurant.
What does the world need? This factor consists of two points:
(1) Something is needed by the world;
(2) You identify with the value behind this need.
At this time, you will feel that you have a higher sense of existence and value when you do this. This is because your efforts will be recognized by society, and at the same time, you have left traces from you in society. For example, the audience was very touched to hear your piano and wrote you a thank-you note.
After understanding the 4 original factors, I want to start testing you! When we implement two of these elements, what are our performance and state?
Question 3
When we only implement 3 of the 4 basic elements and lack any of them, we will have the following 4 different experiences:
You have money, talent, and a sense of worth at this point, but you don't love your job. When you think about your work, you have the perception that you know how to play along the current script, you can play the character, but you know, the story wasn't written for you.
In this case, we will have a lingering, empty feeling in our hearts, and it is easy to fall into an existential crisis.
We often try to numb our senses with financial strength or physical pleasure, bridging the gap between "what I was expected to do" and "what I wanted." This gap is what makes us feel empty.
At this point you have love, money, and a sense of worth, but you are not good at your work. Talent is first and foremost a matter of direction, followed by talent and hard work.
Not knowing how to tap your talents is like having powerful wings, but not exercising flight-related skill sets (such as taking off, soaring, landing), but exercising running.
Working the short board, every progress we make will cost us a lot of effort, tired, and the rate of return is low. At this time, we will have a sense of crisis and uncertainty, always feel that we have to work ten times harder to be on par with the old king at the next table, and even worry that if others try a little harder, their value will not exist.
At this time, you have love, talent, and value, but work does not give you enough benefits. To put it bluntly, it is a busy, poor and immersive state (e.g., full-time unpaid volunteer activities).
In fact, as long as we have enough savings or extra income, or we are originally a poor and happy person, the salary is not a big problem. In this case, if you want to achieve "Sheng き甲斐", you do not necessarily need to consider the benefits of work.
If the salary level is very important for the realization of life or self-worth, but the position does not give us enough remuneration, then we will face a sense of urgency to be chased by something.
For example, we may feel like a straightened rubber band, tight and easy to break. Or maybe we feel that there are "cliffs" in the road ahead from time to time.
When we truly realize that our work is needed by society and has social value, our evaluation of ourselves in the depths of our hearts is also affirmative and stable.
At this time, we will maintain an open attitude towards the suggestions or questions of the outside world, and measure and evaluate each other's evaluations from different angles.
On the contrary, when our efforts are not needed by society, or we do not agree with the value of our work, we can easily feel shaken by negative evaluations from the outside world. This is because, deep down, we feel that our existence is dispensable and useless.
What are some signs that your career path matches your "Sheng Ka Fei"?
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When all four of the above signs appear, you reach the fourth level:
At last:
"生き甲斐" after the opening of の two major signs:
Your "き甲斐" is a gradual process of being opened. Everything of high quality takes time.
Achieving our "Raw Kai Kai" is not an easy task, don't try to swallow a whale in one bite. Each of these foundational elements needs to be explored and excavated separately in an honest, thoughtful way, which means spending time and effort on each of these dimensions.
We can start with a side hustle, follow our curiosity, and be brave enough to try. Also, remember to take notes. We can keep a journal or use various tool apps to jot down our own experiments.
Secondly, with the increase of workplace experience and personal growth, "Sheng き甲羽" will also change. A job that used to get us out of bed every day may become boring as we become more familiar and skilled. Therefore, "生き甲斐" is also a verb that requires your action, and you must always practice it continuously in your actions and slowly move closer to it.
If you still don't have a clue, you can find a quiet night, have a sincere and undisguised conversation with yourself, and list them in the book:
Having answered these questions, if you can find a point of coexistence among the four primitive factors, then congratulations! This is your "Sheng Ka Fei"!
If you can't find it, repeat this question-and-answer session, continue to consider these four factors, and make up for what is missing.
One morning in the future, maybe you suddenly bounce out of bed!
Finally, I would like to share with you a little story of my own:
Before becoming an author, I considered many other positions and interviewed many different companies and organizations. During that job search, I struggled with a multitude of external voices. Which opinion should I listen to? What choice do you make? I went to get a certificate that most employers want to see, interviewed people who sounded tall but didn't really fit my job, and socialized with people who were completely out of tune...
Like sculpting, the job search process is slower, and I estimate that I have been rejected no less than 300 times. From time to time, I encounter extremely difficult choices. But in the process of culling and being culled, I slowly saw a truth about me – I am a creator.
After realizing the identity of "creator", I experienced a quiet sense of belonging, and continued to feel a sense of certainty - "this, it is me". When this "creative self" appeared, I felt that the meaning of my existence slowly became apparent.
You may think, "The requirements for Kafi are too high, you are really a very, very lucky person, so you can achieve the birth of Kai-Fei ~" In fact, I also feel that this is very lucky. But at the same time, I also know that one minute of luck in front of people, there will always be years of silent work after people.
When you encounter great difficulties, don't worry. We can try to imagine ourselves as a seed buried in the snow, and although the surface of the land is immutable and barren, we have quietly moved in the soil and grown and rooted.
I wish there were more lucky people in the world, but I would prefer: you don't give up.
It's not too late to start,
Because you deserve it.