A divorced woman's self-description: the first half of my life, the second half of my life

I married Wang Daqing when I was 21 years old. In just ten years, two people went from having nothing to having a home, a car, children and a daughter, and I thought I could spend the rest of my life in peace. Unfortunately, however, a dog-like story is playing out in my life. Wang Daqing married an unmarried girl. @Xiaoqi talks about music

I had been arguing for months, and Wang Daqing didn't want to look back at all. He didn't go home at all and didn't answer the phone. He seemed determined to get rid of me, and there was no news for most of the year.

Friends persuaded me to divorce, and it was really a drag to keep such a heartless and lungless man. While it is still young, find a new one and start a new life. This is not necessarily worse than following Wang Daqing. Sometimes it's better. I think maybe it's also possible.

So, I turned to Wang Daqing and proposed a divorce to him, perhaps out of guilt or willingness to pay for true love. In short, Wang Daqing left me a house, a car deposit and a storefront, and of course children.

At that time, "The First Half of My Life" was being broadcast on TV, and I felt that I was stronger than Luo Zijun. Sadness, tears, and pain are all thrown away in marriage, and they return to singlehood, leaving only a little loneliness and loneliness. I didn't plan to stay in this mood for too long, so I started a blind date with the encouragement of a good friend.

The physical marriage agency did not want to go, afraid of encountering the embarrassment of acquaintances, so they looked at the Internet and received a lot of information just registered. How do you feel when you see it? Can you understand it? I fell in love with you at first sight, will you talk and so on?

Although I felt a little uneasy, I added some male portraits that looked good. They are polite in their online chat and don't mind me with kids, which makes me somewhat optimistic.

The first man I met, who worked in car repair, was unmarried, and was three years older than me. Before I met people, I thought it was good for men to have no children and not to be stepmothers. If appropriate, there is no difference between two having children and getting married for the first time. However, it wasn't until I met someone I could talk to that I realized I was thinking too much.

Thirty years without a family must have drawbacks. And this person is a typical hegemonist, and there is nothing to my taste after eating. When talking about family values, he also said bluntly that men are heaven, women are earth, and women must always obey men.

Looking at the way he had eaten and drunk, I casually made an excuse, and after hurriedly leaving, I knocked the man unconscious. Before my ex-husband became sour, almost everything in my family was based on my opinion. I don't want to be a nanny for the rest of my life.

The second and third people I see can be called great men, which somewhat frustrates my self-esteem. Thinking about society's harshness on divorced women, I slowly got tired of the topic of remarriage. But in my early thirties, no matter how much I had no confidence in marriage, I still wanted to have feelings and a man to accompany me.

It was at that time that I met Xu Qiang.

Xu Qiang, 37, is a pediatrician. I met them when I took my children to the doctor. There wasn't even basic skincare that day. I bumped into Xu Qiang, who had a haggard face. I didn't even think this collision would lead to my second marriage.

When I reacted, Dr. Xu, who was tall, straight, and with heavy eyes, was treating my son for acute pneumonia and had to be hospitalized immediately. After completing the enrollment procedures, as soon as my daughter was out of school, I had to call my former mother-in-law and ask her to help me pick up my daughter and let them take care of her for a few days.

On the day I was discharged from the hospital, I added Xu Qiang. At first, I didn't say anything except ask the kids what they should pay attention to. Until a heavy rain, I stopped a taxi on the side of the road with my sleeping son in my arms. Xu Qiang just drove by and saw it. He stopped for us to get a ride, so I wasn't polite. He came down and opened the door for me.

He asked: Why didn't You Let Dad pick it up? I muttered that I was divorced. After shouting, he asked about the child's health, and the two awkwardly chatted in a question-and-answer manner. He often sent me greeting messages late and I also replied promptly.

Gradually, he became less strange and polite. He volunteered to tell me that he had been divorced for two years, that the children in the house had gone to find his ex-wife, that both parents had died, and that he was now alone.

Seeing him so honest, I don't hide from him, including how to divorce, how to divide the property, and so on. Chatting with him made me feel a long-lost sense of empathy. His vast knowledge always opens up new ideas to me and makes me admire and admire.

One day, while chatting, he suddenly said, why don't we try to get along? I stared at the sentences on the screen for a long time, and my heart was full of joy. I tried to restrain myself from going back slowly. After about half an hour, he sent several messages in quick succession, and then I asked, are you serious? I can't afford it.

He said with an angry expression, Do I still have the energy to play at this age? In this way, we began to fall in love for the purpose of marriage.

Women like to ask men the same questions, and I'm no exception. I asked Mr. Xu what he liked about himself.

Xu Qiang said that fate is a wonderful feeling. When you come, you will come. No one knows what this is. It's true. For this reason, I secretly compared myself to Luo Zijun and put Xu Qiang (and He Han) together, which made me feel very happy.

After dating for about half a year, I took Xu Qiang to meet his parents and girlfriends, and agreed that he was a suitable marriage partner.

After getting married, Xu Qiang returned the rented house and moved to my house. My former in-laws consciously owed me money. After remarrying, I offered to give them two children and let us live as two people. Sweet remarriage heals the wounds of a first marriage. It was a pleasure to break off the destined love with her ex-husband. Otherwise how can I be happy now?

Just when I was about to have a love affair with Xu Qiang, he came back with his 13-year-old son and his ex-wife, saying that it was because his ex-wife was sent to work in the field, with his son who was about to go to school, which was inconvenient and unbearable. Who doesn't have difficulties? That being the case, please come back. I decided to treat him with my own heart, and I believed that the little boy would accept himself.

Turns out I was romantic.

This adolescent child is very rebellious. Although his parents had previously divorced, neither of them had remarried. In his heart, the family could be together again. But now my father married a strange woman. He couldn't accept it at all. He treated me as a bad person and opposed me at every turn.

When eating, he is either too spicy or too tasteless. Obviously made his favorite dish, he said sadly, like it before does not mean that you still like it now, you just don't want me to eat well. For example, in small things, Xu Qiang has only one attitude. Kids, don't argue with him. He didn't know that his fluttery words would torture me to the point of collapse.

It is impossible not to be wronged. In order to make the remarried family happier and more stable, I threw both children to my former in-laws and tried my best to please their father-in-law. However, throughout the day, I lived in ignorance with small eyes and big eyes, using money to think of myself as a nanny.

When I got home from work, in the morning the kitchen table was full of chopsticks, a pile of smelly socks in the toilet smelled of choking, and the living room was a mess, all left by Xu Qiang's drinking with friends the night before. I squatted down to pick up the bottle, accidentally bumped into the glass on the table, slammed it on the ground, and my heart was smashed by two men who had known each other for more than a year.

Sometimes, looking at Xu Qiang, who slept like a pig, I thought I had met He Han like Luo Zijun. It seems that I am married to White Light. It's ridiculous and ironic. I want to know what I'm thinking. Xu Qiang didn't want another child who belonged to both of us. He said it takes too much time and effort to raise a child, and since both people have children, why bother?

I couldn't help but feel angry. I growled, "Xu Qiang, what kind of couple are we?" I'm trying to help you raise your son. It is said that people's hearts become people's hearts. For so long, I didn't ask him to treat me like a mother, but he didn't have even the slightest respect for me. He treated me like an enemy all day. ”

Xu Qiang looked at me coldly, don't be so ugly, what is bad for a child?

He always felt that I was making a fuss and caring too much to take his children for himself.

Knowing I couldn't argue with him, I took my own child back from my former in-laws. The crowd of three children is even more lively, and it can turn the sky upside down. The TV remote control was broken up by them, the chopsticks were banging...

Let's see who can't stand it.

In the morning, Xu Qiang's son got up early in the kitchen, and I didn't ask. He turned around and heard him call Auntie. Come and have breakfast.

I can't believe it. I went to the kitchen and the egg noodles were boiling in a pot. The little boy looked at me sincerely with wide eyes and said, Auntie, I used to be very ignorant and often made you angry. After thinking about it, I think you are very good, and I decided to live in peace with you in the future, okay?

Hearing him say this, my nose hurt a little, and I reached out and touched the child's head. I choked up and said, Xiao Bing, we are a family, and we must get along well in the future. I haven't been so happy and comfortable in a long time. I shouted, the kids got up and my brother made us breakfast.

The younger son had a cold the day before, had diarrhea, and fell asleep at two or three o'clock. Now he was just hungry, and the four of them sat at the table for the first time for breakfast. When Xu Jiang just got up, he saw such a happy scene in Qi Le, which gave me a look of approval.

After breakfast, Xiao Bing also took the initiative to clean up the dishes and chopsticks, so he asked his father to take him out to buy things. Around 10 o'clock, I felt uncomfortable in my stomach, and the two children had similar symptoms. The son who had just caught a cold pulled up his stomach again, and his pants were too late to take off. The three of them went to the bathroom for a while, and then to the bathroom for a while. When I recovered, I immediately thought I had eaten something bad. When I got up in the morning, I only ate the egg noodles made by Xiao Bing. No...

I dare not think about it. I watched my son sweat profusely and his face turn blue. I didn't answer much of Mr. Xu's phone. I had to endure the discomfort and take my two children to the hospital. The doctor scolded me for being a mother. Children just don't pay attention to dietary hygiene, and eating bad things leads to acute gastroenteritis.

I was so angry that I was going to hold out my internal injuries. Now it's time to go through the hospitalization and settle down. My daughter and I felt much better after taking the medicine. In the evening, Xu Jiangcai called to tell him that he had not returned to dinner, nor had he asked me to call him so many times. What happened?

I really regret that my hasty choice hurt my two children. Even so, I can no longer settle accounts with this father and son. As long as this marriage continues, I will not get any justice or argument unless divorced.

When those two words came out, I was shocked myself. Just when I was struggling, Xu Qiang told me that he should pay back a sum of money he had borrowed before, and I knew that he would invest with friends after work.

However, I did not see any profit. Why should I help him pay him back? I thought, but I still pretended to be embarrassed and said, honey, I really want to help you. But, as you know, my salary is only a little bit, and the whole family eats and drinks in Yego. I didn't want to go around in circles with him and categorically refused. As two married couples who have not been married for a long time, not only do they have children, but they have no plans to have children with me, and I can't contribute and give.

He knew I could help him, but I really wasn't so selfless as to help him get the child's pledge. From the breakfast incident onwards, I also understood that no matter how nice you are to a young man, he will not be intimate with you. Besides, he had his own mother, and he always thought the three of them could be together.

I don't want to hurt my bones again. If I lose everything in the end, if I can't go to the end with Xu Qiang (or Xu Qiang), then there are all kinds of possibilities. I had to leave a way out for myself. Which second-married woman, cool-headed.

Xu Qiang didn't say a word and walked out with a black face. I don't want to ask him where he's going and don't care how he solves his current predicament. For several days, he didn't come back directly after work. Just when I was struggling to see him anxious and a little distressed, something happened that made my back chill.

The two people have no common property and are not related by blood, so the divorce procedure is done quickly. Two years of nanny-style marriage, we ended with a superficial reunion, a superficial breakup. And the festering pustules that grow at the bottom of the heart, covered with dirty blood, have been operated by me. Although there was no anesthesia, I used to faint in pain, but I gritted my teeth and survived. I believe that when it heals, it will grow a sunny flower on that scar.

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