Text│ An emotional book
There is such a film, it was filmed in 2013, but it was not released until 2018, it has neither bloody and violent scenes, nor inappropriate pictures for children, but it has been banned for five years.
It wasn't until I quietly watched this movie alone, deeply depressed and entangled, that I finally understood that behind its five-year ban, it was actually very reasonable.
The story tells the growth of a thirteen-year-old girl in tears and depression, although the story does not deliberately emphasize the position, only describes a general family situation, but the misunderstood contradictions and pains appear in many film reviews, especially the negative evaluation of young people.
I think this is not right, although everyone understands it differently, but it does exaggerate the pain of youth, interpret rebellion and willfulness as the incomprehension of the family, and also portray growth as a flood beast.
Today, I will use a different perspective to take you to reinterpret this "youth pain drama" - "Dog Thirteen".
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >01: This movie, "routine" a lot of viewers</h1>
Li Play's parents' marriage broke down, and her father found a stepmother for her. This may be a story about the original family, about the "stepmother", it can be said that from the very beginning, the film has brought the audience into a misunderstanding.
And it's hard for the audience to detect...
Must a broken family be unhappy? Must the stepmother be vicious and cruel? Will this little girl named Lee Play necessarily suffer an inhuman experience? I think a lot of people have been led into a preconceived trap by the atmosphere deliberately created by the movie.
Li Play's experience, in this atmosphere, is easily invisibly coincided with what we see and hear, as well as our own childhood experiences, resulting in empathy, resonance and resentment.
"When you grow up, you should understand things."
"Dad beat you because he loved you."
Countless people express deep hatred for these two sentences, especially from the mouth of their parents, they will be extremely resistant, so people who have had childhoods that are not understood and violent seem to have found a catharsis.
Then, frowning, a kind of depressed irritability breeds in our hearts, and we finally amplify the damage that childhood tears and helplessness have caused us.
The dog in "Dog Thirteen" is just a "prop" to pull out the story and the emotional fluctuations of Li Play's personal heart.
The estrangement and contradiction with the father, starting from raising dogs and loving dogs, to losing dogs, looking for dogs, and finally eating dog meat, the movie seems to narrate the growth of Li Play, but in fact, with the help of the dog life encounters of the two dogs "Einstein", invisibly emphasized the encounters of Li Play twice, using human feelings for dogs, forcibly enhancing Li Play's "misery" and "loneliness", strengthening the character's sad mood and the depressed atmosphere of the movie.
The child's world is simple, and any little wind and grass will be perceived by the sensitive them, and adults who have experienced the grinding of the years are relatively easy to ignore some of the children's emotions.
The rupture of the original family eventually caused harm to her. Men are not good at words, unwilling to express real emotions, which is a hard wound, so Li Play's father and grandfather always show hindsight and are more wooden.
A home, want to create a happy atmosphere, it is not easy, this is every family, regardless of whether the parents are divorced or not.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >02: The adult world has not become cruel, but has learned to make trade-offs</h1>
Persecuted youth? Brutal growth? The amplified pain of youth is another "routine" of the movie.
Every growth is a homicide. This is a sentence printed on the movie poster, the first reading feels very reasonable, and then think again, this world is not a peach blossom source, this society is not an ivory tower, people need to grow up to face most of the unsatisfactory, if only in the eyes of themselves, naturally feel that everything is not going well.
For parents, it is even more important for children, the wise see the mountain, and the fool sees the abyss.
There are two sides to everything, and when things happen, only see the bad side and do not consider the good side at all, never be satisfied, never be happy.
Li played away from home, returned late, drank in front of his father and provoked, pushed down his grandfather, and complained about his grandmother. We must admit that Li Play itself is problematic, she feels that her father is not good, her family is not good, but she gave up herself and chose to degenerate, where is the good? If such behavior can be easily accepted, how incomprehensible will the values of our children be in the future?
I hope that the viewer understands that the loss of "Einstein" is not grandpa's wish, and he naturally understands what this dog means to Li Play. When a large son chooses to hide the truth in order to take care of her emotions and tries to divert the topic, we should not only see the so-called "hypocrisy" of adults.
From another point of view, everyone chooses to hide her, is it also proof that everyone actually cares about her very much? If she was not worried that she would be sad and wronged, why should she be so excited and thankless?
In the movie, Grandpa will buy her her favorite crab; Grandma is worried about finding her in the middle of the night, even lost; and then her father is angry and teaches her to apologize to Her Grandparents.
Father may indeed not understand her, but father is just a middle-aged man who suffers from social pressure, he needs to work, needs to socialize, and needs to pat the leader on the ass. Is it really appropriate for us to judge a man who is running for his family with "hypocrisy" and "double standards"?
Not to mention that the father's love for his daughter is actually undisguised, he will kiss his daughter's forehead and apologize, he will buy her gifts, he will promise to take her to the exhibition... His world is not only played by Li, he has old and young, destined to take care of a lot, it is difficult to cover everything.
Therefore, this movie cannot rise to the height of the ills of the original family, after all, there is no eccentricity, and there is no fact of ignoring the child.
Understanding and being understood should be based on each other, children may not understand, but adults can not not understand.
We were once children, and now we are parents, and the pain of youth and the many complaints about our parents will one day be reflected in another form of our relationship with our children.
Either inheriting the parents' concept of parenting, or contradicting the concept of the previous generation, thinking that children should have a childhood surrounded by "love", this is a trade-off, there is no absolute bad, there is no absolute good.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03: Growing up is about experiencing pain and tears, and we shouldn't just see repression and compromise</h1>
The phrase "We all grew up like this" really can't bring all the contradictions and hurts with it, after all, even Mr. Lu Xun said: Is it right to always be like this?
The future dominated by parents, the youth pulled by reality, in it, we will feel that there is no freedom, no self, will feel that the future is restricted, hindering us from opening our wings, why is the setting of Li Play 13 years old? If it was 23 years old, 33 years old, would she still think so?
If we blindly emphasize freedom and self, talk about ideals and ignore practical factors, and blame parents for any problems, how much merit do such values have?
The seemingly ruined "possibility" is actually another life "possibility", and no one can really destroy the whole of another person. Just like the definition of the "law of two eights", at any time, we have at least twenty percent of the initiative in the future, and no one can shake it.
Later, Li Play became silent, no longer recounting her grievances and loneliness, and she felt that she had become the kind of person she once hated. Because she couldn't change it, she began to compromise to meet what she understood as the so-called adult world and rules.
The process was naturally heavy and cruel, but because of this, she knew how to think and plucked up the courage to step through the difficulties that once seemed to be impossible:
She ate dog meat under the worried eyes of her family.
She studied hard and won the first prize in provincial physics.
When she learned that her father did not send "Einstein" to the dog meat restaurant, she would also say "thank you" to her father.
She began to accept her half-brother, who were siblings anyway.
Even after encountering "Einstein" once, instead of acknowledging him, he said: I am afraid that he will recognize me.
She changed, became less sentimental, less emotional, less idealistic. Seeing her walk alone to a no-man's corner and collapse and cry, it was so helpless and depressed, she no longer easily expressed her true feelings in her heart, and became silent.
She may have lost a lot of things, but it cannot be denied that she has gained a lot, compared to the previous quarrels, crying, and running away from home, now she understands her father more, and her views on things tend to be rational.
This is growth, the sign of adulthood is not age, but experience and experience, is a rational choice in the face of dilemmas, is to take on their own responsibilities, but also not self-centered tolerance.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
We have all rebelled and been lawless, because we have all had youth, but ten years later, twenty years later, looking back at what we have done, do we still think it is right?
Everyone has the answer in their hearts, and compared to then, we have learned to think now, and this is the most important thing.
For family education, I support understanding and communication, but at the same time I also agree with the saying that "filial piety comes out under the stick". There is an old saying in China, three years old looks big, seven years old looks old. If a person does not establish a correct value when he is young, then when he grows up, he will have to learn with more time and tears.
Your family can spoil you and let you go, but society will not, and reality will not.
When you watch it as a literary film, don't sit in the right seat, and you should not be dissatisfied with your parents.
We are children for the first time, and our parents are not parents for the first time...
We look forward to your attention to an emotional book and learn more in time.
Thanks for reading!
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