When helping people, most people will subconsciously wait for others to thank them in words or actions after helping others.
However, once others express their gratitude, in fact, they have "cleared the debt", the other party after thanking you, has not owed you anything, so the most that remains, so and so has done so, as to whether it will be remembered for a long time, or choose the opportunity to repay, this possibility is not very likely. As for whether you can become friends or even make friends, it is even more difficult to say.
The real high IQ and high emotional intelligence of helping people is that the other party has helped you, and he also makes you feel that he needs to help you, rather than you ask him to help you, and the effect of this help is completely different.
Zhang Taiyan personally gave Du Yuesheng, a Shanghai tycoon who changed his name
The reason why Du Yuesheng helped Zhang Taiyan, but instead personally went to the door to thank Zhang Taizhang, is his high IQ and high emotional intelligence performance.
For the three tycoons of Shanghai Beach, Jin Jinrong, Zhang Xiaolin and Du Yuesheng, people evaluate it like this: Jin Rong is greedy for money, Zhang Xiaolin is good at fighting, and Du Yuesheng will be a man.
It can be seen that Du Yuesheng will be a person, and the world knows it.
This is not the result of Du Yuesheng's self-hype, but a public opinion that he has done all his life.
Du Yuesheng was also famous for "having the ability and no temper", and the evaluation was also that he did a good job as a person.
It is not easy to make the three religions and nine streams admire, but it is even more difficult to make Zhang Taiyan, who is known as the "zhang madman", not only polite, but also condescending to "compliment", than to ascend to the heavens.
Who is Zhang Taiyan?
He was a veteran of the Restoration, a pioneer of the Alliance, a lifelong lonely and arrogant, half-mad, Cai Yuanpei's close comrade-in-arms, Lu Xun's sister-in-law teacher, who had sat in the water prison of the Qing Dynasty, who had been placed under house arrest by Yuan Shikai, whose sword was on his neck without blinking an eye, and who was a peerless national warrior.
On seniority, incomparable; on experience, incomparable; on knowledge, incomparable; on backbone, incomparable; on courage, on scolding, is even more incomparable.
It is such a literati warrior who is not afraid of heaven, earth, heaven, and earth, who is partial to Du Yuesheng, the Emperor of Shanghai who was born in the Qing Gang, and not only treats du Yuesheng with courtesy, but also helps Du Yuesheng's family to repair a "family tree."
Not only that, Zhang Taiyan even felt that his real name "Du Yuesheng" was not elegant enough, and changed his name to Du Yong (杜镛) and the character Yuesheng (月笙).
This is more than kindness, it is almost a friendship.
Zhang Taiyan, the "zhang madman" who dared to scold Cixi and the Guangxu Emperor
I believe that these things that Zhang Taiyan did were all things that came from his heart and came naturally, and it was absolutely impossible to "do it as a last resort" against his own will, let alone to a Leader of the Shanghai Green Gang who "sneaked around and patted the horse".
In the former Qing Dynasty, he was a person who openly scolded the Guangxu Emperor for "carrying clowns";
Those who had openly scolded Empress Dowager Cixi for "but the ear of a concubine left behind by the former emperor";
He was even more of a man with a heavy backbone like a thousand gold and a prince as dung.
Being able to make Zhang Taiyan so "painstaking" for him can only show one point: Du Yuesheng is really a person who has achieved home.
Here's what happened:
After the crazy years of the late Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the People's Republic, Zhang Taiyan settled in Suzhou in his later years, doing academic work and raising heavenly years. At that time, one of his nephews had a real estate dispute with someone in the French Concession in Shanghai, and when he reached a very embarrassing situation, he had no choice but to ask this world-famous uncle for help. But Zhang Taiyan's reputation was great, and his hand could not reach out to the French Concession in Shanghai to intervene, but the nephew's affairs could not be ignored, and he suddenly thought of Du Yuesheng, so he wrote a letter to Du and asked him for help.
Du Yuesheng always respected the literati master, and especially respected Zhang Taiyan, and immediately after receiving the letter, he asked people to make money and make relations, so that both sides of the dispute got a result that could not be rejected, and things were properly handled.
After the matter was completed, Du Yuesheng did not sit and wait for Zhang Taiyan's thanks, but personally went to Suzhou Zhang Taiyan's residence, reported the incident and results in person, Du Yuesheng and Zhang Taiyan, who were dressed in a long shirt, talked very happily, Du Yuesheng knew that although Zhang Taizhang was a titan in the academic circles, he was a little shy in his pocket, and his life was quite elbowed.
Zhang Taiyan's disciple Lu Xun
Not only that, in the future, Du Yuesheng also sent money to Zhang Taiyan every month, regularly receiving this two-sleeved qingfeng national treasure-level master.
This series of performances, even if it is arrogant and arrogant like Zhang Taiyan, can not help but accept his people, and rejoice in them, and finally because of the touch, Du Yuesheng changed his name, wrote notes, and revised the score, it is a natural and natural thing.
The so-called "Du Yuesheng will be a man", which can be seen from this.