Many people have an unattainable dream in their hearts, in the words of the popular word, that is, counterattack.
However, is it really possible to achieve a counterattack? Perhaps, we can look to the famous psychologist Aronson for answers. Growing up in a slum, his father didn't even have the money to go to college after his death, but he eventually became known as one of the greatest psychologists of the twentieth century. This inspirational story can be described as a blockbuster case in the counterattack community.
On the list of 100 psychology masters of the 20th century, Elliott. Aronson was impressively on the list. In the more than one hundred years of the American Psychological Association's history, he is the only scholar to have won three of the top awards in teaching, research, and writing, and his achievements are so remarkable that countless people want to glimpse the mystery of success from his upbringing.
Aronson also wants to share with the world how he went from being a shy and introverted boy who grew up in a slum to a master psychologist who influenced millions of people. Not only is his life course, he also wants to give people a deeper understanding of the social psychology he has loved all his life. Moreover, he also said humorously, he wanted to tell his grandchildren, "Grandpa was not born so old." ”
So he wrote the book "No Accident" to tell people who often asked themselves, "Who am I?" The question that people should ask is "What kind of person do I want to be?" Finding the answer in your heart and working hard for it, then the realization of the ideal must not be accidental.
This article will explore several important mental processes of life's counterattack from three aspects, namely the determination to get rid of the status quo, their own love and efforts, and a good attitude. Reading such a powerful book can often inspire people to have more enthusiasm and thinking about life. As Chi Yukai, associate professor of the Department of Applied Psychology at South China Normal University, said in the preface, everyone can read the stories of the masters, learn the study of classics, and think about their own lives.
The year Aronson graduated from high school, his father died. The family lost almost all of its financial resources. Just when everyone wanted Aronson, who had a bad grade, to drop out of school to work to support his family, his brother Jason, who was already in college, was strongly opposed. Jason claims that both he and Aronson can work and study half-time, and that it is his mother who needs to go out to work.
Although his brother Jason struggled to persuade his family to support Aronson in school. But Aronson himself felt in his heart that he was not the material for reading. His grades were not ideal, and he did not have any hopes for college.
In order to persuade Aronson to study hard, his brother Jason said to him, "Stupid, have you really ever thought about the days of strolling along Shirley Street with a stroller?" ”
It was this sentence that ignited Aronson's determination to study seriously. What was it like to hang out along Shirley Street that made Aronson so resistant at the time? It turned out to be a group of teenagers who had dropped out of school early, had become fathers at a young age, were doing work with no future, and were strolling around the town with strollers in their entirety. If you don't make the leap, then Aronson's will be one of them.
It was his brother Jason who made Aronson make up his mind to say goodbye to his past muddled self, and to make up his mind to get rid of the status quo and seek a future that is more worth looking forward to.
Aronson finally got his wish to go to college. As a work-studyer, he gradually explored a set of effective learning methods. After each lecture, the teacher would read through the scrawled notes recorded in the class, and then carefully write down a summary or two pages of knowledge. This process not only helps him quickly memorize the core content of the class, but also grasps the framework and ideas of the professor's lectures.
This approach allowed Aronson to understand where the students' accusations lay, not just mechanically documented knowledge, but also the need to think critically and question those unproven judgments. The most obvious result is that in the second semester of the first academic year, Aronson took all of A's good grades.
Diligence is always the best stepping stone on the road to success. If you want to hold up your dreams, you have to put in enough effort.
Aronson was lucky that his association with psychology was due to a date with a girl who he heard Abraham Maslow's Introduction to Psychology in order to accompany the girl to class. Although the result of that date was that he lost his girl, he found the love of his life, and the next day he transferred to the psychology department and studied under Maslow.
As Aronson himself said, under the influence of Maslow, he decided to use the wisdom and knowledge of psychology to improve the human condition. The seed of this love, although it is only in its infancy, also gives Aronson the courage to continue to explore.
After discovering his talent for designing experiments, he began to study and practice day and night, and in his eyes everything could be experimented with. It was this great deal of practice that laid the foundation for his position in experimental psychology.
While teaching at Harvard, he didn't receive enough attention, but it didn't dampen his enthusiasm for teaching, and more and more students poured into his classroom. And he also combined his own situation and perfected the famous theory of cognitive dissonance in continuous reflection.
It was this passion for social psychology, and his tireless efforts, that ultimately led to Aronson's deep understanding of the field of study.
If life is like a roller coaster, then for Aronson, the favorite is now. And he really has been trying to live every moment well.
When he was young, Aronson also thought about what kind of person he wanted to become, and the introverted man actually longed to become the radiant person of his brother.
When working in the summer, in the face of the clever "microphone man", that is, the person who stood at the door of the game hall to solicit guests, after returning home, he imitated the tone and vocabulary of the microphone man countless times, and constantly improved it. Finally, when he accidentally changed shifts, he was discovered by the boss that he was good at selling another side.
A good attitude of self-awareness and reflection gives Aronson the opportunity to face up to his current situation and take corresponding actions to improve himself.
Even when he was blind in old age, Aronson remained optimistic. He used his psychological knowledge to constantly adjust himself, reduce the importance of what he could not accomplish, and pay more attention to what he could still do, which gradually calmed his mind.
No matter what kind of card fate gave him, he would smile and try to play him well. Perhaps this is the most important way to live seriously.
Write at the end:
The book "No Accident" is both an autobiography of Aronson and a psychological work. However, the emotional language of this book and the vivid sharing of self-growth experiences make people not only feel no jerky feeling when reading, but also feel full of upward energy.
Aronson never denied his luck, and if he wasn't lucky enough, he probably wouldn't have been able to go to college or have access to the social psychology he'd struggled with all his life.
But what about luck? He seized the opportunity and put in his own efforts, and what is more commendable is his optimistic spirit, a belief in not giving up and always believing that everything can be changed.
In this way, we understand that anyone's success is not accidental.