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Recently, in Henan, the police station received a call from a 61-year-old woman who said that she had been blackmailed by an 18-year-old boy with a "private photo".
Last year, the two met on a mobile phone dating app, talked happily, and soon established a relationship.
The old lady knew that the boy's economic situation was not very good, offered to give him money to spend, and rented him an apartment. The young man said that the old lady would listen to what he wanted, and even gave his Alipay account password to the other party.
In the following year, the boy asked the old man for money for various reasons, and took seven or eight credit cards from the old man. The old lady was also anxious to see hundreds of thousands of bills, questioned the guy, did not expect the guy to take out a private photo threat, the old man had to continue to transfer money to him, and finally was defrauded of more than 400,000 yuan.
The police locked the boy according to the consumption records of several credit cards, and finally arrested him in a hotel. At present, the young man has been taken criminal measures by the police.
The scariest thing about getting old is that you have to try to pretend to be decent.
There is a blind date in Beijing. Every week, hundreds of elderly people come to blind dates, not to find a home for their children, but to find a wife for themselves.
Uncle Li, 75, is one of them. Uncle Li has met many blind dates, and without exception, he has taken money as the primary measure, "Ninety percent of them are looking for wallets here." ”
Previously, Uncle Li had a girlfriend from Henan, and after the two got along for a few years, the other party asked to give her 500,000.
Uncle Li did not agree, and his girlfriend abandoned her and found another new object to go to the northeast.
At the age of 75, he has not given up his desire for love, which is a very emotional thing.
The old man longs for love, and is unwilling to fall out with his children for love, allowing himself to fall into the pain of left and right.
Many elderly people, no matter how full of self-affirmation in their lives, often can't find their love.... The love of the elderly, there are dreams is bitter, no dreams are also bitter.
In our minds, the old people, they are dignified and kind, they care about nothing more than grain and vegetables, family children, in short, has nothing to do with love.
Many elderly people living alone, behind the dignity of cleaning themselves up spotlessly, hide the great loneliness of living alone.
The need for love in the elderly has always been ignored by us.
The word love, when young, long to pursue, middle-aged want to love but often can not say, can only in the eternal lack and the sense of loss of love, nagging, want to say and rest. Invisibly, it seems that there is a kind of last longing for life, urging us to devote ourselves to paradise lost.
Is it time for love to end here?
There is a 65-year-old divorced uncle who has been dating for five years. He said that this way of finding love, it is likely that there will be no results in the end of life.
He likens the blind date to a swamp, and although it is filled with the smell of death, there is also a faint flame that makes people want to try it.
He said, "Even if it's just a glimmer of light, even if I look at that light, I want to get it." “
The story in Hunan writer Xue Yixuan's novel Empty Nest. Seemingly absurd plots and character settings are actually well documented.
"Empty Nest" is inspired by the personal experience of Xue Yihuan's mother. That day, his mother changed from usual and was very wary of him. Xue Yihuan learned afterwards that his mother was rushing to send money to the fraudsters.
The other party easily broke through the old man's defense line and easily cheated her savings. Xue Yihuan couldn't help but blame her mother, but suddenly found that her mother was the biggest victim of the whole thing, and she was on the verge of collapse.
The number of elderly people living alone is increasing year by year, most of them lack companionship and have a sense of loneliness.
The parents of the previous generation, when they were young, focused on making money by working and pulling up their children, and had no self-concept or cultivation interest.
When the child grows up and leaves home, he does not need his own care, life suddenly loses its center of gravity, does nothing all day, does not know how to pass the long time, so it begins to think about things.
More eager to find someone to accompany, especially in the emotional part, with the twilight love to find the wild regrets of youth, to complete the dream that is too late.
Love is a very mysterious thing, people's desire for it is regardless of age, is a kind of spiritual satisfaction, but also a kind of spiritual need, especially the "old child", the loneliness of the old man is sometimes not only the company of children can be eliminated.
Seeing that the life of the elderly after retirement has no center of gravity, allowing outsiders to take advantage of the void to be deceived into feelings and money, not only the elderly should take it as a warning, do not add burdens to their children and grandchildren, cultivate legitimate interests, make some like-minded friends, and live a full and interesting life.
If people have a sense of belonging, they will not feel lonely even if they live alone. The most common challenges faced by elderly silver-haired people living alone are disconnection from society, poor physical fitness, and changes in mental condition.
Loneliness is often felt by lack of companionship; lack of interpersonal interaction can easily lead people living alone into depression and anxiety.
Living alone without being alone, prepare for the following situation first.
1. Get out of the house, participate in community activities, and build neighborhood friendship.
2. Maintain contact channels with relatives, friends and juniors, and respond to emergencies in the event of an emergency.
3. If your physical condition permits, you can participate in volunteer service activities and expand your interpersonal relationship.
4. Make good use of social media, find like-minded friends, and develop legitimate interests and hobbies.
5. Maintain the normal routine of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and the regularity of life helps to maintain physical and mental health.
6. Understand your financial situation and grasp the basic guarantee of living alone.
People crave a sense of belonging, personal contact between people, and can establish real interpersonal communication, which is an irreplaceable experience.
Healthy and comfortable living alone, in addition to paying attention to diet, moderate exercise, maintaining the connection with social interpersonal relations, is more conducive to the health of the mind.
1. Don't rely too much on your children or prefer to "not go out" to direct your family.
This not only restricts the children, but also traps themselves, going out to face society and maintaining "normal" interpersonal relationships.
2. Let "new things" come to life"
Everyone has an inherent need to communicate with others, and "living to learn" is an ideal life goal.
As children, you can encourage them to go out of the small circle, or often share new technologies or new things with the elderly, which not only increases the joy of life, but also helps them build self-confidence in life.
3. Manage your money properly and keep an eye on your own pocket.
After retirement, unload the responsibilities and pressures of life, no longer bend for five buckets of rice, and finally be happy to be yourself and enjoy a new life, but this is based on economic freedom.
People are precious in self-knowledge, the battlefield of life has been struggling near the end, people should see through, hold a positive attitude, can embrace love but do not blindly, and you talk about money, it is recommended that you turn around and leave.
Be a enjoyer and cherish the small blessings in life.
Living to old age, many responsibilities in life have been unloaded, whether it is traveling abroad, enjoying life, or doing public welfare, learning talents, being a enjoyer to know how to cherish the small luck in life, but also willing to enjoy the sense of spiritual richness from the process of serving others.
Retirement is not the end of the stage of life, but the freedom of "choice", people are painters who depict their own lives, only you can create yourself, only you can decide the future life.
Find your way to enjoy your new life after retirement, find the feeling of being needed, and create your own shining life.
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