I don't understand whether the marital obligations that can give meaning to our times have progressed...
We look back at the innocence of our fathers' feelings, and whether we have lost what we should have. Maybe it's not cherished anymore, maybe it's forgotten. So what is the marital obligation that we really want to pursue?
The life of big dad and aunt is also a life of hardship and hardship. Born in the old times, they experienced pain, torture, bad luck, famine, escape, strong boys, child brides, doll parents, war, distortion, the tragedy of human nature, they came from the fires of war and grew up after liberation.
At that time, my grandfather's house was five kilometers away from my grandmother's house. Grandma's house was a residential bungalow in a residential area of a market town, a kind of long narrow laneway residential house that was long from north to south and narrow from east to west.
I've been there often since I was a child, but I always felt that my grandmother's house had some dark and damp smell. Because it was particularly humid, at that time, it was all earthen wall houses, and there was a thick thickened wall on the outer wall, which was the secret passage that Grandpa had when he was young to avoid the Kuomintang's grasp of Zhuang Ding's practice. Then call the home board wall, stay here, rely on the people outside to transport food, drink, worry about the fear. At that time, there should be male laborers in every family, and teenage boys could be dragged away at any time to become strong men. Most people have no return, many people drag their children and daughters, and there is really no way to escape and hide in the deep mountains and wild forests to become wild people, to avoid the cruelty of war.
After liberation, Dad joined the supply and marketing cooperative and worked hard as a salesman. Because there is not much culture, it all depends on self-realization and self-learning. After knowing big mom, he quickly took big mom and also participated in the supply and marketing cooperative. In this way, a simple wedding, a silk satin quilt, or Grandma saved the dowry for thrift. This bed of silk satin quilt, the aunt cherished, has been stored as a souvenir in the red camphor wood cabinet, kept as a souvenir.
In the sixties, there was a big sister and a big brother, and the birth of the big brother and the big sister was in the era of hard food and hunger. Grain, oil, and rice were relatively expensive, and there were often cases of starvation to death at that time. The eldest brother's body has been weak and sick since childhood, and the big dad and the big mom are not at ease to let others bring it, always under the store container, and there are toddler chairs around them. At that time, the hard work of ordinary people was unbearable, and the natural conditions, especially the winter, were particularly cold, and the big dad often took off his coat and covered the child and the big mother to keep warm.
Fortunately, Dad's body is relatively strong, so from a young age, he also suffered and worked hard to maintain the family until his old age with His Mother. The two also usually quarrel over living expenses.
As my eldest brother and eldest sister grew up, the family became a little more relaxed. In terms of eating, I am only slightly subsisted. At this time, the aunt always used her dexterous hands to use the mountain green vine as dye to weave cloth for our sisters day and night, and made a full set of new cotton clothes.
Dad and Mom have paid a lot of hard work for our healthy growth. The big dad is working hard, the big mom is trying to do a good job in logistics, and quit her job, educating the children in a new way and living at home.
Often look at the stay behind us to participate in the work, the big dad and the big mom are full of silver wire, aging year by year.
Recently, the big dad and aunt who were old enough to be old have become more sad and mentally weak. My mother's health is not as good as a day, and she has often nestled in the hospital back and forth in the past few years.
Sometimes, we all have some impatience, and The big mother is always in love with the mouth now, and the big dad's temper is getting hotter and hotter. Long-term drug-draining rumination, big mom an irritable failure nerve function can't help but a bout of infatuation, a bout of madness, dad saw it, shed tears.
People, it seems, are old enough to recall the details of their past lives, so some fragments worth remembering.
Dad said: "No matter how long It takes for Big Mom to fall ill, we must go all out to save her life, as long as she is in one day, we must do our best to maintain her existence." "
The eldest father also said: "Your aunt followed, I have lived for more than sixty years, there is no good food, no good drink, and I have suffered with me for a lifetime, this finally, I must give her to my life, do my best to love, and make rescue measures." Not afraid to send how much money, big moms are worthy women. "
Looking at the feelings cultivated by big dad and aunt from the harsh environment for many years, and the indestructible decades of the journey, I feel sorry for each other. That kind of feeling of still simple affection, I hope that the other party is better than my own realm of thoughts and feelings and high hopes. It's really worth admiring and pondering.
Their time, the hard years, the indestructible emotions, but it took a lifetime to interpret.
Although the years have left traces, they have not made them different and deeply in love with each other. And the feelings of the fathers are dissolved and calm. There is no vigorous aura but a faint interdependence. In the era of idle information, simple and simple ideas, all the way up and down, from ignorance to knowing, I have reached the old age of white hair. And their insistence on marriage is also cultivated between brick and tile, hoe and grass, picking a basket, a basket and a lift, a step by step, and exhausting decades of life and youth.
All this has to make us look back at the feeling of reverence in our hearts. This may be the love of the great soul of mankind.
Then, why is our marriage and family today not so sincere, not lacking in food and clothing, even more than the era of big dad and mother, and dozens of times the value of life than that era. But why is there no true feeling of their generation, the precious spirit of dedication. What exactly is missing from us? Will our true emotional support continue?
I really envy the older generation of My Father and Mother,whose stoicism, sincerity, love for family, pure affection, kindness, and humility are things we can't learn, and we often can't do it, nor can we reach that spiritual realm.
What we need is a comprehensive understanding and interpretation of our past lives, and we need to look back at history and see the pair of white-haired old people who are serious about marriage and family. The older generation left us with beautiful emotional things in the memory of love, they are desperately maintaining the marriage and family, for the mouth of the mouth to eat the slow and long mileage of marriage, into more than sixty years, this feeling is endless, continuous flow, until a lifetime, there has never been a person who regrets a who, no one who betrays a who, this is the real realm and preciousness of a marriage.
And our current life marriage and family, often can not withstand the wind and rain, just married today, tomorrow there is a precedent for divorce to the Civil Affairs Bureau, I really don't know whether these young people, whether to take marriage as a child's play, or to dilute the feelings of the family. I don't understand, I don't understand, is this kind of game more able to promote your own happiness and harmony? I think that because the more people talk about the situation, the trauma will only become more and more serious, and even schizophrenia may be possible.
The meaning of marriage lies in sincerity, and the generation of big dad and aunt married tobacco, they spent all their lives in order to feed and clothe a choice of worry, carrying the burden up the mountain to dig wild vegetables, picking up the market town, changing some salt to come back, so that their children can not open their mouths and faint with hunger, this is a natural return for their kindness as a father. I don't understand, I don't understand, where do we use the brilliance and goodness of human nature?
Is the real understanding and way of marriage, are we doing the right thing, and what do modern people really do and pay for marriage and family feelings?
So let's ask, what are the real marriage values that we really need to recognize?