When the fall semester started, my daughter's homework was noticeably less. The double subtraction was immediate, and it used to be written every night until ten o'clock, and now it is written at eight o'clock. Weekends and holidays are also idle, many disciplines have stopped, and on the road of the community, there are groups of parents who inquire about one-on-one "famous teachers" everywhere.
Returning from washing their faces at the beauty salon that day, a pair of mothers complained about the one-on-one price soaring. In my case of my not-so-stable three views, I was uneasy about sending the baby to the expensive one-on-one Peiyou and running to the teacher's house to "open a small stove".
Essentially, I'm pro-subtraction. Only when everyone sits back in their chairs can the problem of education and academic qualifications be slowly solved. Children will not want to read books when they become adults, and parents will not lose their homes to cultivate an "ordinary person".
But after the "double subtraction", the requirements for parents have really become higher.
Previously, it was a single-task operation, and the score represented everything. Sending children to Peiyou class, although the parents' wallets are dripping blood, the mentality is relatively stable. "No matter what the effect is, I tried my best, no complaints and no regrets", this is the psychological support of parents before the double reduction, parents smashing pots and selling iron must also cultivate excellence.
After the "double subtraction", what is advocated is quality education and all-round development, these two words are very fragrant, but compared with the score, it is a virtual word. What is quality education and what is all-round development? How to let children develop in an all-round way, how to improve quality education?
I don't know where to start.
A friend of mine, who is an elementary school teacher, said that he was also ignorant now. Since teaching for more than ten years, the school's assessment has always been as long as the class safety is not a problem, the score does not slip, she can be an excellent teacher almost every year. This semester, the principal did not specify what standards would be used for the assessment, and the teachers had a lot of private speculations, but they could not guess the idea.
Recently, there have been rumors in the school that the assessment will still be based on scores in the future. As soon as she heard it, she was hairy, and the parent-teacher conference desperately hinted at the parents: the country double subtracts, you can not only reduce, but also add!
I said you are not doing it against the policy, making parents become teachers. She spread her hands: "No way, other teachers are doing this, I don't want to do this, the mid-term and final scores are not seen, how to explain to the principal that the quality education of your class is particularly good, this thing cannot be assessed." ”
Adult days are really not easy. I was already very upset about the score, but now I find that the unknown is the biggest worry.
After the double reduction, how to fill the child's time with quality education has become my biggest trouble.
Looking around for medical treatment and asking for medicine and unable to understand, a friend who is engaged in child psychology can't see it anymore, and suggests that I recall it well, "When you were a child, you didn't play crazy, you didn't get in a daze, and you didn't do anything?" ”
Without reminiscing, I closed my eyes and saw the crazy girl who had gone into the sea. I got my homework done within half an hour after school, there was no Peiyou class, not even an interest class, I played outside all day, and when I was in high school, I found something I loved all my life: writing.
"The contingency of life is far greater than the inevitability. The biggest problem with our previous education was the excessive pursuit of inevitability and the love of planning in everything. It seems that everything is under control, but when the child grows up, he will either lose control or become a fake without thinking and decision-making ability.
Life is obviously a wide forest, but we are set as a narrow runway, this is not to love children..."
Her words, I went home and pondered for half a night.
Remembering that when I was a child, I learned abacus, how to learn badly, my mother said forget it, this child may be stupid, and I will find a husband who will plan to plate in the future. Although in my mother's eyes, the simple truth is "marry a man, dress and eat", she successfully predicted that "will plan the plate" will not matter in the future world.
Maybe life is random, brilliant.
Most people's anxiety stems from disrespect for contingencies and wanting to control everything. But fate is like quicksand, the tighter you grasp, the faster it gets out of control.
The original intention of double subtraction is to return education to the essence of education, rather than to create a repetition machine. What is the essence of education? Give children more freedom and space, let them be in a forest, by the sun, air, water, determine what they look like.
Parents can only tell their children what you can't do, but don't have the ability to instruct their children on what they can do. The times are developing too fast, maybe you force them to learn things desperately today, and when they grow up, they have been completely replaced by technology and become tomorrow's flowers.
A person, from childhood to adulthood, understands what things cannot be done, which is regarded as the highest level of quality education. And what can not be done, the principle is very simple, that is, the three noes advocated by countless child educators: do not harm yourself, do not hurt others, and do not harm the environment.
Of course, the reason is simple, it takes time to cure the disease, you and I both need to work hard - try to relax a little, we can do nothing but give the child more smile and warmth, love and understanding, other things.
In the face of the torrent of the times, the individual is small, even if he becomes a parent, he is still small. Accept your own smallness and don't try to be a child's sky, that will only hinder their height and bind their dreams. Parental love should be air, if there is none, but it is always present, important but very light.
In short, everyone lives a little more casually, life is short... And changeable...