Marriage is not a child's play, and you must carefully consider it before entering marriage. After entering marriage, we must trust each other and be loyal to each other.
If one party in a marriage can't resist the temptation and betrays the other party, he should face the problem, admit his mistakes, and seek forgiveness from his spouse.
Don't waver and break the thread, which will only exacerbate the rupture of the family and cause irreparable consequences.
Ms. Wang and Mr. Xiao are a remarried couple, Ms. Wang is 5 years older than Mr. Xiao, and they have been introduced to each other.
After marriage, I had a child, and the two people in the first year of marriage were also very loving and happy. However, an incident that happened when Ms. Wang gave birth to a child caused a conflict between the two, and her husband even filed for divorce.
When Ms. Wang was pregnant, she consulted with her husband, Mr. Xiao, to pay a down payment to buy a house, and Mr. Xiao also agreed. Just on the day Ms. Xiao gave birth, it was the time to book the house, which can be described as a double happiness at the door.
However, what Ms. Wang did not expect was that when she was discharged from the hospital and returned home for confinement, her husband said that he had to pay a down payment to get a bank card and went out. After 3 days did not come back, the mobile phone turned off, do not contact home!
After returning, Mr. Xiao filed for divorce from his wife, who was still confinement. He feels that his wife is not a dime, the down payment is still tens of thousands of dollars, the wife does not want to think of a way, everything is his shoulder, he feels that he has to pay more and is under pressure.
The mortgage of more than 4,000 yuan per month, as well as living expenses and human sophistication, are all borne by him alone, and his wife has never paid a penny.
Ms. Wang said that her previous marriage was a clean house, and before marrying Mr. Xiao, she told him that she had no money and only people, and Mr. Xiao said that there was no problem.
Ms. Wang did not know, in fact, in Mr. Xiao's heart, he did not quite believe that his wife had no money, he thought that this was just a pretext that his wife was unwilling to pay for the family.
The husband proposed a divorce, and the two had a big fight because of it, which made Ms. Wang's heart have an extra obstacle. However, Ms. Wang did not pay attention to this matter, and she did not expect her husband to cheat.
One morning, Mr. Xiao went to the store first, walking in a hurry, and forgot his mobile phone at home. Ms. Wang picked up her husband's mobile phone to take to the store, when a text message just came. Ms. Wang inadvertently looked at it, and it turned out to be an ambiguous text message!
She quickly looked through her husband's mobile phone, which almost did not make Ms. Wang faint, and her husband did not know when he had betrayed himself!
When Ms. Wang came to the store, she asked her husband if she had done anything to be sorry for herself, but her husband refused to admit it and asked her what evidence she had. Ms. Wang took out her phone, "This is the evidence." Mr. Xiao said angrily: How can you look at my mobile phone privately? This is my privacy!
For this matter, Mr. Xiao did not give Ms. Wang an explanation that day. The next day, Ms. Wang went on a business trip, but her heart has been entangled in this matter, she sent a WeChat message to her husband, and then, Mr. Xiao became angry, he broke the jar and said: You already know the matter, what do you want?
When Ms. Wang saw her husband's attitude, not only did she not have a trace of remorse, but she was also so fierce to herself, she gambled and filed for divorce. Some conditions that Mr. Xiao could not agree to were mentioned, because Ms. Wang did not really want a divorce.
After returning from a business trip, her husband, Mr. Xiao, told Ms. Wang that for the sake of the elderly and children, he was willing to continue with Ms. Wang and let Ms. Wang give him time to deal with him and the girl. Ms. Wang promised her husband that she could give him time as long as he was willing to come back.
However, when Mr. Xiao told the girl that he was married, he had lied to her before saying that he was not married, and asked the two to break up, but the other party was unwilling and kept sending him messages, saying that the other people she didn't care about, only cared about him. He even had to die and live, and even cut his wrist in order to save Mr. Xiao.
This made Mr. Xiao embarrassed, and he couldn't put it down on both sides. His entangled and ambiguous attitude made his wife very dissatisfied, and Mr. Xiao also knew that he was wrong, and felt guilty about his wife, so he wanted to go out on a trip and try to ease the relationship between the two, but he did not expect it to backfire.
During the trip, Mr. Xiao changed his clothes and wanted his wife to wash them, but his wife only washed them for the children, leaving him alone. As long as Mr. Xiao picked up the mobile phone, Ms. Wang suspected that he was in contact with the woman.
This made Mr. Xiao worry about the future between them, he was afraid of breaking off with that side, and he came back to his wife as before, so he felt very dazed and did not know what to do.
And his vague attitude made Ms. Wang very hurt, she said that if her husband did not return home, there was no need to maintain it.
At the mediation site, Mr. Xiao counted his dissatisfaction with his wife and said that he could not see hope for his wife. He said that he was hospitalized in a car accident, his wife only took care of it for 2 days, and his wife was sick, he took care of the whole process; the expenses of the family were borne by himself, the family was all he was paying, and the wife did not spend a penny for the family.
Even compare the wife with the girl, saying that the girl will wash his clothes, will soak his feet, will buy clothes for him, etc., and the wife will only ask, only he is blindly giving, which makes him very tired and stressed.
For her husband Mr. Xiao's accusations, Ms. Wang did not agree, she said that when she first got married, she was also very concerned about her husband, and she would also soak his feet or something, but later she became pregnant, plus the family's big and small things, there was not so much energy, so she ignored her husband.
Husband Mr. Xiao is only in love with the girl now, naturally feel that everything is good, but it is really implemented in real life, it is not like that.
Faced with the two men's problems, the mediator denounced Mr. Xiao for being a scumbag. I made mistakes, did not self-reflect, and put the responsibility on my wife, not admitting my mistakes first, but expecting my wife to change.
Mr. Xiao even ignored his wife's efforts, and her wife gave birth to children for him and took care of the housework, which in his view had no value. He earned all the money and his wife didn't create any wealth for the family, which is a mistake.
If there is no wife behind the effort, how can Mr. Xiao work hard outside with peace of mind, so the husband earns money, which is the joint property of the husband and wife, and there is also half of the wife.
Through mediation, Mr. Xiao is willing to completely break off with the girl, return to the family physically and mentally, and live a good life with Ms. Wang. Ms. Wang also said that she would change herself, care more about her husband, and do her best to pay for the family financially.
In the final analysis, it is the foundation of the relationship between the two people that is wrong, they do not trust each other, there is a gap in their hearts, and they cannot give without reservation. If they don't look for problems and make changes from themselves, their future marriages will still be difficult.