Adult love, themselves are the first.
A few days ago, I saw such a weibo, the primary school students were comforting the sister who had lost love, and the fairy tales could not help but make people shout cute.
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What is even more rare is that there are still a lot of love truths in the words of children, which can be described as the authorities' fans, bystanders' clear, and sometimes children know much better than adults in love.
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"Excuse, you don't want to see"
We've heard too many people break up on the excuse that they are busy at work, no time to reply to messages, no time to get along with each other, and over time the relationship between the two people will fade.
Celebrities also love to use this reason when they break up, such as the breakup of Korean stars Lee Joon and Jeong So-min a while ago, the official press release is: because of the gathering of less and more, the busy itinerary led to the gradual estrangement of the two...
Netizens have ridiculed, and it is this familiar reason for breaking up, no new idea.
In fact, this is all a well-known thing, we often use busy to cover up the fading of love, but we do not want to face the real feelings.
Compared to not loving, compared to other people who like it more, compared to those hysterical quarrels, busy is the best outcome, is the final fig leaf of an exhausted relationship.
Not only celebrities, but also many girls around me in private messages to ask:
"My boyfriend hasn't gotten back to me much lately, and the conversation is basically me saying five sentences and he replies, asking him if he's busy at work, and even asking me not to message him." Running downstairs to his company, wanting to wait for him to have dinner together, he was also very unhappy, saying that he did not have time to eat with me, and asked me not to come next time. Is he really busy because of work? ”
I don't know if he's busy at work, but it's true that he doesn't think much of you.
Girls take the initiative to a certain extent, and boys repeatedly push off the love, most of them are problems. People who want to see you, no matter how busy they are, will have time; those who want to send you, southeast, northwest and southeast will all go by.
Don't make excuses for the weakening of feelings anymore, "busy" is also very wronged.
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"You are the pearl of our family, don't be wronged"
Every girl in love must understand that you are a pearl and should not be wronged.
Friend Xiao Xu has been in love for seven years, and people around her thought that she was going to get married this year, but what she didn't expect was that a while ago, a friend party asked her when she was going to have a wedding, and Xiao Xu broke up and shocked the audience.
From the campus to the society, from the school uniform to the suit, a full 7 years, more than 2,000 days and nights, three words came to an end.
Under questioning, Xiao Xu was willing to confide in the details behind the breakup.
The boyfriend was attracted to the new young female colleagues in the department, and the chat history was so overwhelming that she couldn't even fool herself. Xiao Xu laughed at himself: The cucumber that is almost 30 years old is certainly not as good as the small flower in his early 20s.
But even if you know that your boyfriend is cheating, Xiao Xu did not want to break up at the first time, after all, it is not that you can put down this 7 years, but the boyfriend also ate Xiao Xu's point, and became more intense.
After receiving the intimate photos sent by Xiao San, Xiao Xu was completely awakened. Break up, move, block, every step is saying never look back.
From discovering cheating, to breaking up and moving, to calming down, in the intervening period of nearly half a year, Xiao Xu never mentioned this matter to friends and family.
"It's so embarrassing, I don't want you to know that I actually endured Xiao San for many months, and I don't want you to be angry because of this kind of person and thing."
It is false to say that I am not sad, and even once thought that I was not worthy of being loved, and I doubted myself too much. But after thinking it through, I think it is quite ridiculous, this kind of inferior root is found early, love breakup is a matter of two people, marriage to divorce is a matter of two families, more difficult. ”
Feeling suspicious of yourself after a breakup is a problem that many girls encounter.
"Why would he get bored with me, was it I who made him feel nothing fresh?" Should I go for a facelift? ”
"Why did he cheat, was it that I didn't do enough, wasn't good enough?"
Girls, there are many people who love you, don't doubt yourself because someone who doesn't love you is because they don't deserve it.
Not worthy of your goodness, not worthy of your tears, not worthy of your love.
Every girl's love road, may encounter bumpy places, often walk by the river where there are not wet shoes, wet shoes can be dried, you can also change another pair.
Don't be humble in love because you're good enough; don't be alone in the sadness of lost love, because friends and family are always your strong backing.
The pain and pain of love should not be carried alone, and if it is uncomfortable, it will be said, and it can also be cried out when it is wronged. If he doesn't love you anymore, you have to remember that there will still be people who love you.
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"Love is the most delayed thing, I hope you don't miss the opportunity to get full marks"
Many girls will ask in private messages: Do I want to marry far away for him and start over in a completely strange city?
Teacher Lu Qi said: "The criterion for whether to marry far away is that you don't feel that this is a thing that you have paid a great price for." ”
Xiao Jin and her boyfriend are thinking about getting married this year, and both have been developing in Suzhou since graduation, but the boyfriend said at this time that he wanted to go back to his hometown in Shenzhen to develop, hoping that Xiao Jin could go back with him.
"My parents are in Shenzhen, and they said they would buy us a house as soon as they went back." Shenzhen they also have many connections, and the job opportunities will not be bad. ”
But Xiao Jin insisted on staying in Suzhou because he could not let go of his parents and work in Suzhou.
Her boyfriend said: "If you want to stay in Suzhou, then I am willing to stay for you, but I hope you will not regret this decision in the future." For example, my parents will not sponsor me to buy a house in Suzhou, for example, in the future, you don't have to shout tired. ”
The last thing Xiao Jin said to him was: "If you want to stay, then I hope it is because you want to stay in Suzhou, not for me." Just because you're willing to stay for me now doesn't mean you won't complain about me in the future because of this. I don't want to hear that I'm here for you, how can you say anything like that. ”
After such an in-depth exchange, they finally decided to break up peacefully. Xiao Jin continued to live her stable life in Suzhou, and her boyfriend returned to her hometown in Shenzhen to live again.
Xiao Jin said that it is a pity to break up, but she does not regret it, because she cannot afford a person's life choices.
In the matter of life choices, it is not about men and women, each of us is responsible for ourselves. Don't give up better opportunities in your life for the sake of feelings, don't give up for your partner.
Because love gives up opportunities, of course, great, but we can never guarantee whether such a heavy effort has planted the seeds of unwillingness in the heart.
Seize every opportunity to become a better person, even if you miss this relationship, there will still be better love.
In your eyes:
In the matter of life choice, each of us should be cautious, and sometimes a judgment will affect the entire life trajectory.
Would you choose to go to a completely unfamiliar city for the sake of love?