Is he your lover or lover— the heartwarming boy in the novel The Lost World

In Japan in the late 1980s and early 1990s, high-rise buildings sprung up, high-end Western restaurants in the city, redemptions for favorite geisha, bank cards for beautiful women, rich men who did not blink their credit cards, celebrities who were busy buying art, luxury cars, and the rise of various new professions... There is an air of abundance of money everywhere. Today, however, we call it Japan's bubble economy era.

The heroine of the novel "The Lost World", Sawano Ruizhi, wrote the TV series "My Memories" that reflected the bubble economy era based on her own life experience, and in the process of screenwriting, she met two men who had reached the peak of their lives in the bubble economy era. Takayashi is also a rich and prestigious architectural designer with a family, and Satoshi Kuse is a third-line actor.

Takabayashi was also an architectural designer for Mizue's ex-husband (the darling of the real estate industry), and when he met Mizue again, he was deeply attracted to her and passionately pursued Mizue in a way that is unique to middle-aged men (the upbringing and knowledge formed by rich experience, the youthful and romantic mentality required by the architect profession). Satoshi Kuse is an actor in the TV series, who loves 38-year-old Mizue with his 29-year-old age, body and mind. In his dealings with these two men, especially after reuniting with her ex-husband, Ruizhi chose her lover and rejected her lover.

The lover is to design his own perfect life as the purpose, and the lover is to plan the "community of destiny" for the purpose.

In the era of the bubble economy, Gao Linzong was also a well-known up-and-coming architectural designer, and his subsequent works have also won many awards. Today, when he has money, status, career and family, seeing Ruizhi finds that she is the woman he has always liked deeply, and Ruizhi just happens to appreciate him, so it is natural to pursue Ruizhi, because the perfect life for him is now one less woman he likes. Satoshi Kuse and Mizue worked together to build a "community of destiny". Ruizhi is a single mother who neglects to take care of her daughter every time she takes over the screenwriting job, so when she lets her daughter understand her work and situation, she says that the two are a "community of destiny". Satoshi Kuse pursues Mizue to maintain this "community of destiny", obviously likes Mizue but deliberately pleases Nichihana, he will invite their mother and daughter to dinner together under the pretext of passing through Mizue's apartment downstairs, will go to see Mizue in the name of making supper for Nichiha, and will be very attentive to leave his contact information for Nichiha....... Because Nichiren likes and accepts herself, Ruizhi will be relieved to love herself.

The lover is to take you to enjoy the present life, let your life be remembered in the future, the lover is to work with you to work hard now, and take you to the future.

Gao Lin is an architect, he says architects have been working toward the future, and he looks at her with these eyes of architects. When Mizuki tells him that there is no future in love with someone with a family, he says, "But at least there are still memories left." "Only memories cannot be lost." I've been wondering lately if humans live to make memories. "I think Gao Lin forgot that in the future he can live in the memory, because he does the work he likes, finds his place in society, has a good-looking home and gets the woman he likes." But what about Ruizhi? The future only means the difference between pain and sadness for her, who wants to live in such a memory? Satoshi Kuse said, "I just want you to take me seriously and treat me as someone to marry." "I thought about how nice it would be if we could live together as three people, and when we got married, we would have to have our own children right away." That's exactly what Ruizhi wants.

Both 43-year-old Takabayashi and 29-year-old Satoshi Kuse told Mizue that everyone is very young and should live with a young man's mentality. But Gao Lin stepped out of the memory of that year and took Ruizhi to start his current life again. Satoshi Kuse is starting from his current life and taking Mizue into the future.

The lover is more concerned about your body and cares about the sexual communication between the two people, the lover wants to marry you and give you a family.

After meeting for the third time, Gao Lin and Ruizhi entered the hotel together under the stimulation of alcohol and in their appreciation for each other. Gao Lin said, "Such a beautiful body, let me look at it a little longer," and prepared contraceptives very carefully; when the two met again after physical contact, he asked Ruizhi, "Can you come to my residence today?" When Ruizhi said it was inconvenient, he asked if it was a physiological period? In Ruizhi's view, he was particularly eager to determine his sexual relationship with Ruizhi. After Satoshi Kuse had a physical exchange with Mizue, Satoshi Kuse said, "I want to marry you." When Mizuki said that he was older than him and had children, he said, "I love Hinata, and if we are together, sooner or later we will have children." "If you have someone you want to marry, you have to marry her." That's what you want in the end. Ruizhi knew he was proposing to himself.

Lovers will think of you when they are lonely, and lovers will be afraid of your loneliness and want to be with you all the time.

Takabayashi and Mizue live separately in Tokyo and Kyoto, and Takabayashi meets her on a business trip. Ruizhi had thought that the two of them might maintain a relationship like this ten or twenty times, maybe until he was forty or fifty years old, but he was never necessary for Gao Lin's life, but just a little passion release in his imperfect life. Satoshi Kuse guarded Mizue from the beginning. When "My Memories" held a press conference, a reporter directly pointed out that Mizue was embarrassing Mizue by betraying his personal experience as a screenwriter, and Satoshi Kuse said that it was too boring to ask such a question, and the TV series just tried to convince the audience that the content produced was real. When "My Memories" went from low to high ratings and aired the final episode, Satoshi Kuse went to see Mizue in the name of making food for Hinata because he knew that when the TV series that reflected her own previous experiences ended, it would be both the end of her as a screenwriter and her farewell to her past experiences. At this time, her heart must be full of mixed feelings, and she is by her side, letting her cry as much as she wants, and then she can love indulgently.

As Ruizhi thought, how men view women can be understood through words and the feeling of skin, through the place of return of men, and through the place where women are arranged.

Women can see the man clearly, and they can also know whether to let him be a lover or a lover.

Being a lover or being a lover is the choice of both parties.

When I wrote the above words, I actually felt that some words were not finished. That is, in today's increasing conversion rate of the two roles of lover and lover, how do we look at being a lover or being a lover. Ruizhi can also choose Takabayashi Zongya, although it is said to be a lover, who said that the future can not be turned into a lover? Many years ago, I would have despised such lovers, but what we have heard and seen about the conversion of lovers at home, abroad, ancient, modern, young, old, men, and women is not uncommon, and many of them are seemingly happy endings. When we take off the cloak of morality and examine the union between men and women, they are actually two free individuals, together when they love each other, separated when they don't love, combined when they have needs, and running away when they can't find what they want. Then being a lover or being a lover is only the choice of both parties. When he or she is a lover, he (she) is ready to leave at any time one day, and during this period he gets what he wants and does not mind that the other party has a lover; when he (she) is a lover, he (she) is also ready to protect the other person's life, even if the other party has a lover during this period. As for what onlookers think, it is "go your own way and let others say it." ”