Long time no see, don't come unharmed

It's been a month since the suspension, and many people have sent messages asking why it's not updated, or, Teacher Ai, what's wrong with you?

Objectively there are some personal reasons, so this period of time to stop all self-media updates; and subjectively, it is, really tired.

I have told you in some articles before that I may not do this one day. Last month, I was at the busiest time in my life, and I didn't pay attention to the post for more than a week, so I thought, just stop it.

Since this time, receiving many caring greetings from many people, I said that I may not do it anymore. They say that my articles have helped them through the hardest times of their lives.

I know that everyone has the darkest and loneliest time; I have said that at this stage, there is only one person to carry, and there is no other way. My articles, sometimes just hope, can have a beam of light that penetrates the darkness of your present moment and makes you feel even a little warmth.

Doing this is purely a chance, do the math actually has 6 years... Time is so fast. As you get older, your body and mind are easily tired. To be honest, doing this does not improve the quality of life, of course, from the beginning to the present, there is no hope to rely on this to make a profit, I have my own job, familiar with my friends should know my profession. Doing self-media is purely a personal hobby, and it is not easy to think about being able to persist for six years, although I don't know what I am trying to do.

Since this time, there will also be entanglements, especially many people send messages, whether they are concerned or expected. Whether it is to continue or not, today I took the time to write this article, which is a reply to everyone.

People who pay attention to me are probably people who have been emotionally hurt, and they have been in the field of feelings for so long, whether they have seen or learned, they should still be able to sum up something, and I will share these with you as soon as possible.

First of all, feelings are fate, fate is a matter of two people, of course, it is impossible to have good feelings without effort, but even if you work hard, you may not be able to harvest happy feelings.

Secondly, after the feelings are hurt, how to deal with and choose, varies from person to person, there is no standard answer, that is, we most often say, whether to forgive or break up, to choose according to the actual situation of the individual. But, remember, you can't always choose to forgive without boundaries and without principles; you can't choose to end without thinking about reality, but simply being controlled by emotions— thinking that ending a relationship will end the pain, which is not the case.

Third, after experiencing emotional trauma, the key is to look at the character of the other party, at the same time, but also to understand themselves, this is the root of dealing with the follow-up, if you can't see through the other party (including seeing through but don't want to admit it), don't understand yourself, then things can never be handled well.

Fourth, no matter what the final result is, you must be responsible for yourself, make choices for yourself, do not push the responsibility to the outside world, do not let others help you make choices - only if you have the courage to make choices for yourself, can you have the courage to face all the possibilities after the choice.

Fifth, after experiencing these things, it is difficult for feelings to be perfect again - don't expect too much, at this time you have a homework to do, that is, to accept imperfection, in fact, no matter what you choose, this imperfection is difficult to change, isn't it?

Sixth, feelings are not perfect, does not mean that life is not perfect, so learn to give yourself energy, if you can still make yourself rekindle the enthusiasm for life, love for yourself, then everything can still have the opportunity to start again - that is, you come out of the darkness, see the light again.

Seventh, love yourself well, this is a sentence that people who understand will understand, and people who do not understand say ten thousand times or do not understand. The so-called love of yourself is that you will try to be as difficult as possible for yourself, as much as possible to make your heart rich, and have contentment and happiness. You will slowly know your imperfections, but you will also slowly accept your imperfect self, and at the same time you will slowly like and appreciate yourself.

Finally, we must work hard, all things, before the end of life, are unknown, there is no absolute good or bad, what changes everything is their own efforts, hard work, bad can become good. The so-called good or bad is itself a comparison, and if you have not experienced misfortune, how can you experience true happiness? Your own efforts will always be the bridge from unhappiness to happiness.

I have the opportunity to share more insights with you, in fact, each of us has our own way to the west, we all have our own practice, we are all on the road, but temporarily encounter wind and rain. Believe that everything will pass – you must believe, because in the present moment, there is no one else outside but you.