Ten years of marriage are afraid of having a second child, the husband is jealous of open marriage, and the "Married Life" fancy marriage ruin Americans also have a second child phobia! Rain and dew are all wet, not only we have! Is monogamy still possible? This is definitely a big scale problem! Don't spray! When we talk about love, marriage, what are we talking about? But are your intern parents really ready?

During the National Day, a news of "Anhui's population birth rate falling off a cliff" rushed to the headlines of the whole network and became one of the hot topics discussed by many netizens. In the whole country, this kind of thing happens in a province with a large population, it is by no means so simple, and it is not a sentence that young people are under pressure and unwilling to have children.

In the developed countries of Europe and the United States on the other side of the ocean, the phenomenon of negative population growth has existed for decades. I used to think that their extremely low birth rate had only two reasons: one was that everyone was busy with parties and strikes and didn't have time to give birth; the other was because they didn't want to be born because of their stature and freedom and happiness. As it turned out, I was still too young.

"Everyone is like this, why don't you want to?" "When you get old, what are you waiting for?" I believe that many people, like many people, have been urged to marry by their parents and relatives, spawned, or seen, and are not strangers. I have always had a similar attitude towards marriage and having children, what stage to do. But "marriage is the graveyard of love", chai rice oil salt ... A place of chicken feathers! But the love life after marriage, thinking about it makes people's heads bigger, and all kinds of strange family conflicts and conflicts have frequently become one of the hot spots in literary works.

Therefore, I am about to run for three years, and I also want to learn to examine the deep meaning of the word "marriage" from the perspective of "half a person".

Coincidentally, HBO's recently launched limited American drama "Married Life" is undoubtedly one of the textbook films that can be used for us to interpret the "marriage" problem at present, let's carry forward the spirit of "take-ism" for reference.

HBO's drama is based on the 1973 Swedish film "Married Life", the original work is extremely well received, not only won the 1975 Golden Globe Award for Best Foreign Language Film, the film's actress Liv Umann was also nominated for the Golden Globe Award and the British Academy of Film and Television Arts Award for Best Actress. The new drama features "Model Worker" Jessica Chastain and Oscar Isaac as the male and female protagonists, and the plot mainly revolves around their lives, about love, hatred, desire, monogamy, marriage and other themes.

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"What's wrong?"

"I'm pregnant."

It may be that the popular short video platforms today's short video platforms "use pregnancy test sticks to deceive the husband" and "fancy tell the husband that he is pregnant" and other short video riot operations, which gave me a "stereotype".

In the hearts of many people, the pregnancy of the wife is definitely a happy thing that makes the whole family happy, and it is also a happy thing that makes the whole family feel very happy.

However, when Mira, played by "Model Labor", tells her husband Jonathan (Isaac Oscar) that she is pregnant, is there anyone like me, expecting the line at the bottom of the screen:

“I am gonna to be dad ?!” (I'm going to be a dad!) ）。

More precisely, Jonathan is going to be a dad again. Couples who have been married for ten years, have a four-year-old daughter, and in the eyes of everyone, they are a "model couple" who can do both career marriages. Jonathan is a philosophy faculty member with flexible working hours that give him more time to take care of his family; Mira is a vice president at a tech company with long hours, frequent travel, and relatively little time with his family. It can be said that this is a couple of "male inside, female outside" couple. But in fact, their married life has long been in ruins.

Friends around them never lack words of praise for their seemingly happy marriages, and researchers have also conducted a questionnaire survey on their "perfect" marriages.

Amazingly, at the moment when Mira tells her husband that she is pregnant, even across the screen, people can deeply feel the helplessness and anxiety of "mixed feelings" in them.

The couple embraced each other on both sides, and Mira's eyes showed fear and entanglement. Jonathan and Mira have been married for ten years and have been in love for more than twelve years. Such a life has long since made them lose their former passion, and the days of respecting each other as guests are like a pool of stagnant water, lifeless. It wasn't until Mira became pregnant that this state was broken. However, she did not expect to be pregnant again without contraception, which was both a surprise and a burden for her.

The knowledge and skills that higher education brings to people sometimes do not soothe any negative emotions. Postpartum depression is one of them. Mira, a researcher, has just turned forty, and although her husband and she have a steady income, she is also rejecting the upcoming life.

Having a second child means to pay more time and energy, and the daily living expenses will also increase significantly, which also means that the career is suspended, and the hardships of postpartum comeback are even more frightening.

When you have enjoyed the short joy of welcoming a new life, the career and life that have just improved may have to press the pause button again, and the pressure that follows is the nightmare of all mothers.

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In the researchers' questionnaire to the Mira couple, such a very HBO-style question appeared literally.

"What do you think about monogamy?"

What do you think? My answer is: legal compliance! It is also in line with social morality, public order and good customs! This is true of the vast majority of countries around the world.

It is clear that the couple is an "excellent example" of monogamy in the play, but behind this question is a new point of view:

Such marriages are more successful when the wife is responsible for earning money and supporting the family and the husband is responsible for raising the children.

Isn't it thunderous?

At the dinner table, the Mira couple and their friends expressed their views on this point of view. However, the curly-haired sister and the bald brother, who have always insisted on an open marriage, quarreled in the discussion.

Curly-haired sister can't get out of the grief of breaking up with her lover, but the bald brother still keeps taunting her.

"Have you forgotten who helped you through the previous 'breakup period'?" She couldn't even help but get angry.

To be honest, many people's level of awareness of open marriage is similar to mine, and the "threesome" in "Deadly Woman 1" has appeared in the relevant plot setting.

Needless to say, I'm a strong advocate of monogamy. Polygamy or polyandry is definitely a step backwards in history! Love is selfish, and married life is inherently exclusive.

Imagine that when your lover shares the precious emotion that carries the vow to others, does it mean that you are no longer the "only one" in the first place?

Is marriage all about that unique purity?

Curly sister naively believes that in her relationship with her lover, she can realize the beauty of being with the bald brother more.

It was a pre-experience of positive emotions and a new way out of negative emotions.

In the comparison of different partners, they not only gained a variety of different experiences, but also gained self-release.

Amid the quarrels of friends, the "melon-eating masses" Mira and his wife also seem to have doubts about their marital status. Near ink black, stay away from those unreliable friends! Don't believe that those open marriages, open love, are all Dan!

The "open marriage" model sounds edgy and exciting. But it is not simple to implement, as long as one party does not grasp the scale, the whole relationship will fall apart.

Take off the cloak of passion, and all that remains may be emptiness and loneliness.

Ten years like a day, is the current self still the same self when I was married?

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Companionship, tolerance, passion, happiness, sweetness... There are also marriages, children, I believe many people like me, similar words will come to mind.

But when we gradually become an adult, enter the workplace to talk about marriage, there is a little qualification to talk about marriage. My mind slowly resurfaced: contradictions, quarrels, heartbreaks and breakdowns...

Many people attribute many problems such as postmarital contradictions and postpartum depression to: unable to accept a plain life and lack of passion for love. Isn't most people's lives plain? When you need to live with your "lover" for a long time, changing from "me" to "us" may be the reasonable love trajectory.

All kinds of problems in married life need to be seen from the perspective of "us", so most people close "me". Then later you naturally gave birth to another life: the crystallization of love. I thought that the relationship between my parents would naturally become closer from then on.

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Today's love, marriage, and childbirth are no longer something that can be easily decided by a "I do" sentence.

Before that, we need to know enough about our own hearts and have a full understanding of our own personality.

What is urgently needed in the transformation from "I" to "we" is a deep examination.

And "Married Life" tells the story of re-examining hatred, desire, and marriage.