Friends play football very well, one day chatting with a friend, mentioning his son's athletic talent, asking him if he was proud of his son's performance on the football field, he said: "Yes, I am proud of Xiao Yong (the name of my friend's child) on the football field, I am proud of him." But even if Xiao Yong can't play, I will still think that he is the best. ”
From the answers of friends, we can hear that in the eyes of his father, Xiao Yong's football talent has been recognized by everyone, but the child's personal value has nothing to do with his athletic talent. Even if Xiao Yong can't play football, his position in his father's mind will always be important, and he will not be affected by the quality of his child's athletic talent. Xiao Yong is happy, his friend is really a good father, a father who really understands the value of children.
Although some parents know that their children are not the smartest or the best, when communicating with their children, they will say the following words: "In the hearts of parents and mothers, you are the smartest and most excellent." Parents such words can build enough confidence for children, so as to stimulate the child's inner potential, lay the foundation for children's continuous progress, and praise these parents.
In this world, there may be children who are better in some aspects, but they cannot one-sidedly compare their own children, or even make copies of others. Pay attention to the beauty of every flower in the world, do not simply think that success is because of the child's high intelligence, because the main reason for success is not the child's intelligence, self-confidence and hard work is the key to success. As a parent who wants to help their children grow, they must encourage their children at the right time, and for those children who are not confident, tell their children: Even if no one appreciates you, you must believe that you are the best.
In life, many children lack self-confidence because of their shortcomings, can not look at themselves correctly, parents must be in the child's childhood to cultivate children to learn to appreciate themselves, accept themselves, and ultimately cultivate children's self-confidence. Maybe there are not many advantages in children, but as a parent, you must help your children to find something worth cherishing in them and help your children build self-confidence.
We can guide in many ways, and now I will talk about my own experience and personal thoughts.
The first method, the simplest approach, parents can start by appreciating the appearance of their children. Because we know that appearance is an external thing, it is directly visible, and the appreciation of appearance is the easiest to do. Prepare a mirror for your child and encourage your child to look in front of the mirror every day to find his own strengths, such as I may have big eyes, I may have tall height, I may have a straight nose bridge, I may have fair skin, I may have a small mouth. Maybe your child is not perfect, not beautiful, but there will be many things to appreciate in your child. For example, although the child's eyes are small but very energetic, the small eyes are charming; although the skin is relatively dark, it is very healthy; although the nose bridge is not high, it is very delicate. Mom and Dad should also guide their children, there is no perfect person in this world, people only have the courage to face their own imperfections, in order to achieve growth, and then build their own self-confidence.
Parents should be good at inspiring children to understand their own image through different means. For example, you can spread a larger piece of paper on the floor and let the child lie on it, and Mom and Dad can help draw the outline of the child and then cut and paste it: you can also let the child draw a self-portrait so that the child can further understand his appearance and body.
The second method is that parents should be good at appreciating their children's strengths. Because each child will have their own strengths, parents should teach their children to find their own strengths and advantages according to the actual situation of each child, and help children to improve their own advantages, prompting children to improve their self-confidence. For example, the child may be introverted, not very fond of talking, playing with a group of children, always very quiet that child, it is difficult to attract the attention of others, but the child is very serious and careful, the observation is very strong, during the game, the child can always notice some details. At this time, parents should affirm the advantages of the child in time and encourage the child to carry forward this advantage. Directly point out his or her strengths to the child, he can observe a lot of details, mom and dad are happy for him (her), proud of him (her), and encourage the child to boldly say what he or she sees. In this way, the child will recognize his own advantages and appreciate them in the guidance of his parents and mothers. For example, if your family lives in a very large house and the conditions are good, then you should teach the child to appreciate the spaciousness and brightness of the house, so that he (she) understands that he or she is very happy living in such an environment; but if you live in poor conditions, guide the child to discover the advantages of the house, for example, the house is small but full of light, the house is not well lit, but it is cool, your family is very happy to live in it, and so on. Let children learn to adapt to the environment from an early age, not to be inferior or proud, and to grow up in happiness.
Dear friends, what other good ways do you have to improve your child's self-confidence?