#爱是个动词 #
Recently, I heard a friend say that the daughter of one of her friends at the age of 16 had committed suicide by cutting her wrists! I was shocked to hear this bad news, because the girl I had met was at a friend's daughter's birthday party, a very beautiful girl, very good at dancing, singing very well, and the piano was past level 8. At the birthday party that night, she also generously played a song "Adlina by the Water", which received warm applause.
What makes a beautiful, talented girl choose the path of suicide?
It turns out that this girl's culture class is not good, her own will is to apply for the middle school entrance examination for kindergarten teachers, become a kindergarten teacher after graduation, teach children to play and sing, and live happily for a lifetime!
However, her parents thought that she did not go to high school, and forced her to go to high school, so she invited teachers of various subjects to conduct intensive training for her, one-on-one make-up lessons, and finally reluctantly entered high school.
However, due to the weak foundation, she studied very hard in high school, and finally could not bear the pressure of learning, and chose to end her life.
I sighed at the disappearance of this girl: such a beautiful and versatile girl, with any of her talents, she can live a happy and happy life. What makes an otherwise lively and cheerful girl give up her life so easily?
It is the parents' excessive expectations of their children, and it is also the narrow definition of success that pushes the children to a dead end.
Is it only possible for people who get into good universities to succeed? Let's think about it, Olympic champions, World Cup football players, and many singers and movie stars, are they talents? Many of them also had bad grades in school, and many of their homework failed.
But they know how to play their own strengths and intelligent advantages, choose their own success path, and finally live a happy and happy life!
In addition to the success of college there are countless, every child has unlimited possibilities, the most important job of parents is to discover the child's intelligent advantages, and then make up for the weaknesses, guide the child to choose the most suitable path for her, which is the key to the child's success.
So what are the advantages of intelligence? Dr. Howard Gardner, a professor at Harvard University in the United States and a well-known psychologist, proposed the famous theory of multiple intelligences. In his view, there are at least 8 kinds of intelligence in everyone: language intelligence, music intelligence, mathematical intelligence, logical intelligence, visual spatial intelligence, physical movement intelligence, interpersonal communication intelligence, introspective intelligence and natural observation intelligence.
But everyone's intelligent structure is different, the advantages are naturally not the same, most people will have outstanding differences in one or two kinds of intelligence, everyone will have corresponding areas of success, can a person become a talent, a very important reason is whether they can find their own intelligence advantages? You play to your child's superior intelligence, and he has a successful experience, and he can improve the weak intelligence and enter a virtuous circle.
So how can we discover the strengths of children's intelligence?
The best way is to create some conditions for children, let children try in many ways, such as letting children exercise, to sing and dance, to read, to play musical instruments, to observe, to listen to music, to draw, to communicate, etc. In the process of these activities, parents pay attention to observe what children do best and do the most easily, which is his intelligence advantage.
After discovering the child's intelligent advantages, what parents have to do is to guide the situation, encourage the child to give full play to the advantages, and constantly improve, and the child will eventually go to success.
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