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If you have been single for many years, and suddenly one day you meet a person on the street, you are very sure in your heart, he is the real right person you are looking for, at this time, do you dare to go directly to him and say: I like you, can you get to know him?
There may be only a very small number of people who dare to do so, and they feel that such people can not be found, and once encountered, they must not be missed. Even if it is possible to be rejected by the other party, but bravely take this step, try your best, it is also considered to have an explanation for yourself, there is no regret.
But most people often do not have this courage, and they may hesitate in their hearts, thinking that doing so may offend others, after all, they are still strangers to each other.
In case you open your mouth hastily, let the other party mistakenly think that you are a bad person, or after seeing your own appearance, you have no good feelings and directly refuse, then you are likely to be seriously frustrated, feel disgraced, and deeply hit.
Therefore, if you think about it, you will still miss this fate, watching the other party go farther and farther in front of you, but because of various concerns, you dare not come forward.
For the former, bravely go forward to contact information, regret may be a little less. If this results are achieved, then you will get a true love from now on, and if you are rejected, you will end it with dignity and forget about this rubbing shoulder.
But for the latter, this torture may last a lifetime, because in the days to come, it may not be possible to encounter this feeling of 100% certainty.
I can't help but think in my heart, if I had been braver, stepped forward to say hello, and asked for a contact information, would the result be completely different? Maybe my life will change because of this.
So the more I regretted it at night, I couldn't start new feelings, I couldn't forget the past, and gradually let the days get worse and worse.
Different people will have very different choices when they face the same thing, and naturally there will be very different results. This is also the reason why many people are more likely to meet true love, and many people have never met.
Japanese writer Haruki Murakami's short story "Meet 100 Percent Girl" tells such a story.
The hero and heroine of the novel met by chance when they were 18 years old, and then they were thrilled, and they were very sure in their hearts that the other party was the person they had been looking for for a long time, and they were one hundred percent lovers who belonged to their destiny.
The boy did not want to miss each other, so he took the lead and said to the other party: "It is a coincidence, I have been looking for you, maybe you do not believe, you are a hundred percent girl for me." ”
The girl was also very excited, she said to the boy: "You are a hundred percent boy to me, from head to toe exactly like I imagined, it was a dream." ”
So they sat on a bench in the park, holding hands and talking tirelessly.
They feel that at this time, their lives tend to be complete, and somewhere in their hearts has been completely filled by the other party. They need each other 100% and are 100% demanded by each other.
This kind of love is a miracle, but it is precisely because it is so smooth that they are full of doubts: "Is it a good thing that dreams can come true so easily?" ”
This suspicion grew, and they became more and more distrustful of each other, and finally one day, the boy took the lead and said:
The girl agreed, so the two separated and went their separate ways.
But in fact, such an approach is not necessary, there will be many changes in the future, we never know whether these changes can destroy this relationship.
Sometimes, fate is far more cruel than we think, just as later they were all infected with the raging vicious flu, hovering on the brink of death.
After a few weeks, all the memories of the past are gone, and they no longer remember each other's existence, let alone the relationship that can be called a miracle.
Later they met new people, talked about new love, and then, after years of going around, they had entered middle age.
One day, they met again on the street, but by this time the two were no longer young and much more cautious about their feelings. So none of them opened their mouths, just quietly looked at each other and disappeared into the sea of people.
Afterwards, the boy fantasized about various possibilities, he always felt that he and the other party had known each other, regretted that he had so many concerns, did not take the initiative to move forward, even if it was just to ask for a contact information, or a random conversation?
But he didn't, he was afraid of rejection, of getting himself into a difficult situation. By the time he finally made up his mind, the figure of the other party had disappeared into the sea of people.
Compared with the well-known "And Listen to the Wind", "Kafka by the Sea", and the classic masterpiece "Norwegian Forest", Haruki Murakami's short story called "Meet 100% Girl" may not be widely disseminated, and not many people know about it.
It was one of his earlier short stories published in magazines, and was included in the fifth volume of Haruki Murakami's Complete Works 1979-1987 in 1990.
The reason why I am impressed by this novel is because I think it can poke the hearts of most people, many times, we do not really meet true love, but even if we do, we do not have the courage and confidence to grab each other's hands, but watch each other drift away.
The reason why this happens is only because we lack confidence in love, and at the same time we lack confidence in ourselves. Always feel that you are not good enough, and you may be rejected by the other party, because you are afraid of this result, and block all the beginnings.
But in fact, you think you can't meet true love, not because you are not good, but precisely because you are not confident.
If a person never believes in himself, then he cannot have a clear and unambiguous understanding of himself, and thus he cannot handle his or her relationships, let alone love.
Sometimes, if you are a little more confident and take the initiative in everything, the results will be completely different from what you think.
If you like someone, you must be brave enough to tell him that even if you are rejected, it doesn't matter, so that at least you have worked hard for it, and you have no regrets.
If you dare not say, the result can only be missed, do not try once how do you know, is the other party also waiting for you to open your mouth first? You're not as bad as you think. Lack of self-confidence is the shackles you put on yourself. In the eyes of others, maybe you are better than you think.
After all, love belongs to the game of the brave, if you don't even dare to start, missing is doomed, how can there be the next story?
Haruki Murakami's encounter with "100% Girl" tells us that you can't meet true love, not because you are not good, but because you are not confident.
The more you hesitate, the more you have concerns, the easier it is to rub shoulders with each other, if you are brave once, take the initiative once, maybe the ending is completely different from what you imagined.
For the rest of our lives, I hope we can be brave, seize happiness, and leave no regrets.
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