Nakamori Akira and Kudo Shizuka are both Japanese national treasure beauty, the two always can not avoid being compared by fans, a beautiful sadness, a beautiful beauty, different beauty, different personalities, but also created a completely different fate of the two.
Nakamori Akira was born in 1965 in a poor family, his parents did a small business to raise Mingcai and 5 other siblings, the family's poverty made Mingcai's parents always look sad, but his mother had a very clear goal for Mingcai - to be a star, make quick money, and take the family out of the slum.
Poverty and lack of love have made Mingcai grow into an inferior and cowardly character. Fortunately, she was very competitive, and with her beauty and natural voice, she emerged in the music industry at the age of 17, and since then, she has been out of control and has spread all over the world, and Nakamori Akira in her heyday has become the recognized heir of Yamaguchi Toshie. Even Zhang Guorong fell for her and recommended her to Xu Ke as Xiao Qian in "The Ghost of Qiannu", and Wang Zuxian was used by Xu Ke after Nakamori Mingcai refused.
The biggest wish of the teenager Nakamori Akasa is to marry young like idol Yamaguchi Toshie and have his own family, but it backfires, Akiko's love life is very unsmooth, in 1989, the news of the 24-year-old Nakamori Akiko cutting his wrist at home shocked and caused a sensation in Japan, and after 6 hours of emergency rescue, he was out of danger, it is said that Nakamori Akiko's wrist wound was up to eight centimeters long, deep bone, shocking, she had this extreme move is because of her boyfriend Kondo Masahiko's repeated betrayal of the negative act.
It turned out that after Falling in love with Makoto Kondo, Nakamori Akira gave away an 80 million yen mansion to Makoto Kondo, only to marry Makoto Kondo, and Makoto Kondo not only did not cherish nakamori's efforts, but also had a secret meeting with Nakamori Akira's opponent, Matsuda Seiko, and Nakamori Akira was exhausted, so he had a wrist cut.
Just when everyone thinks that Akiko can even give up his life and must be dead to Kondo Masahiko, Kondo Masahiko easily tricked Akasa into attending the Golden Screen Meeting only in the name of marriage, only to find out that Kondo Masahiko was only to promote his new record, nakamori Akiko was completely desperate and broke up with Kondo Masahiko.
Since then, Nakamori Akira has recuperated and healed, but in the Japanese entertainment industry, the strength of Nakamori Akira has been greatly reduced, and the era of Nakamori Akira has completely ended. At the same time, Kudo Shizuka ushered in the peak of her career!
Kudo Shizuka is only 5 years younger than Nakamori Akiki, but her parents are doubly fond of this little daughter, a good family atmosphere makes Kudo Shizuka grow into an optimistic and cheerful, dare to love and hate personality, even if the results are not outstanding, even they laugh at themselves "very stupid", the public opinion that is questioned for the bad style has never stopped, but Kudo Shizuka with her excellent appearance and strength in the entertainment industry, and eventually became the vane of the entire Japanese fashion, and also put the male god Kimura Takuya who was empty at that time into the pocket, giving birth to two daughters after marriage, and the family is happy.
The maverick Shizuka is serious about every feeling, and like Nakamori Akiko, Kudo Shizuka has also met scumbags, and when she finds that her boyfriend Lin Jiashu is ambiguous with her ex-girlfriend, she decisively proposes to break up.
Some people say that the luck of girls who love to laugh is not too bad, and the reason why Kudo Shizuka is more successful than Nakamori Akiki is because Kudo Shizuka has a good personality and loves to laugh, but I think that a good personality and love to laugh are just the results, and the fate of the two of them has been laid in childhood.
Psychologist Adler said that lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives. This sentence is placed on Nakamori Akiki, simply do not apply too much, the childhood lack of love nakamori Akiko, with a moth to fight the fire-like obsession rushed to love, humble, flattering, until the whole body scales.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > what happened to the girls who were loveless in childhood? </h1>
1. Girls who lack love in childhood lack a sense of belonging, and try to form their own family to make up for the lack of childhood.
Nakamori Akira's biggest wish is to get married, when Kondo Masahiko said that marriage needs a marriage room, Mingcai directly spent money to buy a mansion, when Kondo Masahiko repeatedly betrayed the hopeless marriage, Akiko light life, when he heard that he could get married again, he immediately gladly participated in the Golden Screen Meeting, no bottomless concession, this strong sense of belonging to the family, any man will feel suffocated.
Home is a place of belonging, Nakamori Akiki was not concerned at home in childhood, lack of belonging, childhood did not have a sense of belonging to be satisfied, she spent her life to pursue, she thought she was pursuing love, in fact, just to make up for the lack of childhood.
2, childhood loveless girls, low sense of self-worth, always blame their mistakes on themselves, too humble.
Kudo Shizuka, who grew up in love, broke up when she found that her boyfriend and ex-girlfriend were ambiguous, and she had a clear concept of right and wrong in her heart - it was this man's problem, and she felt that she deserved to have better, so she left in a dashing manner.
And Nakamori Mingcai, who has been repeatedly betrayed and hesitated to wander, can't see her own value, and is humble and flattering in her feelings, this kind of girl who has no self, even if she is excellent and beautiful, no one will cherish it, because she does not know how to cherish herself.
3, childhood lack of love of girls, easy to put all their emotions on others, do not know how to let go.
Coincidentally, Nakamori Akiho's sister Nakamori Akiho also had a suicidal extreme behavior, in those childhood lack of love in the girl, we will find that they are easy to put all their emotions on others, the lover is the whole world, they only live for love, the others are floating clouds, their thoughts are extreme, if they love and can't, they don't know how to let go, so when they lose love, they don't give up love, but give up on themselves.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" how to raise girls >? </h1>
We always say that rich girls are raised, and we also know that the so-called rich support is not to use money to pile up daughters and live too many good material lives, but to let daughters get spiritual enrichment.
So, how do you raise girls?
1. Father accompanies him more.
Carnegie said,
The more the daughter lacks paternal love, the lower the standard of mate selection, because the father is the first opposite sex that the daughter contacts, is the standard definition of the potential sense of the daughter looking for the object, the daughter finds the object subconsciously according to the father's foundation to find up, the worse the relationship between the father and the daughter is handled, the easier it is for the daughter to marry, and often the more pampered the daughter finds the higher the standard.
In real life, it is often seen that some very good girls marry a not very good girl, because these girls lack love in childhood, the demand for feelings is very low, they only need to feel safe, boys as long as they give enough security, girls will follow with their hearts.
In addition to security, girls have many other standards in their relationships that need their father's help to set.
When I was young, my dad especially loved to play cards, in order to play cards, I don't know how many fights with my mother, I have a deep dislike for people who play cards, after growing up, the first requirement for me to find an object is not to be able to play cards, so at that time found a boyfriend who did not play cards for me to feel complacent, after marriage, although he did not play cards, but he cheated on ah!
At that time, I was dumbfounded, after calming down, I asked myself, like cheating, domestic violence, these factors, I have never considered, I only considered the standard of not playing cards, so when the former husband met this standard, I felt that he met all, it was my own standard setting too low.
2, love your daughter, please be nice to her mother.
Most of the child's food, clothing, shelter and transportation are the mother in charge, the mother is a very important role in the child's growth, especially the mother with the daughter, if you do not pay attention, the daughter will live into the appearance of the mother, so whether the mother is happy or not directly determines the character of the daughter.
And the happiness of the mother depends on the father, and the happiness of the daughter depends on the mother, so, dads, if you love your daughter, please be nice to her mother first.
Fathers are good to their mothers, not only indirectly in loving their daughters, but also in telling their daughters how to love others, if fathers can't love their mothers well, don't expect their daughters to love you when they grow up.
3, build a sense of self-worth for her daughter, let her know that she is worthy of love, do not need to wag her tail in the relationship and beg for pity.
How do you let your daughter know that she is good and worthy of love and respect? The way to do this is to build a sense of self-worth for your daughter.
The only way parents can help build their daughter's sense of self-worth is to sincerely respect, understand, and accept her, and let the child forge a hard armor to protect themselves.
The daughter who grew up in such an environment will not be trapped in it because of the boy's sweet words, nor will she doubt herself because of the man's depreciation, and she will desperately cater to become a prisoner of love.
They have clear emotional discernment, and when she finds a relationship unhealthy, she will have the courage to leave and give up the relationship outright instead of giving up her life.
The daughter needs to be raised with love, companionship, energy as the carrier, so that the daughter has a sense of self-worth, but also let her heart be full of love, and only a child who is full of love in her heart has the ability to distinguish love and love others.
I like the cold melancholy of Nakamori Akira, but if I had a daughter, I would only want to be someone like Kudo Shizuka who loves and hates and lives a passionate life.