Recently, there was a special fire on the topic of Zhihu, "How long have you not looked at the circle of friends?" ”
I was very surprised to see this topic for the first time, because in my impression, almost everyone in the circle of friends will go to see, and everyone will visit the circle of friends to pay attention to the dynamics of others.
However, when I saw the comments below, I realized that so many people did not dare to look at the circle of friends, and even their own dynamics were set to only three days to be visible.
More and more people are afraid of the circle of friends, do not know when it began, friends who once said nothing are now silent, but we will still pay attention to their dynamics.
We will see that some of them have successful careers and some of them have happy families. They show their new companies and newly bought cars in the circle of friends, where to play today, and where to play tomorrow.
Those who we once looked down on are now in a mixed bag, and we are still busy, too busy to see any hope. Therefore, we are more and more afraid to look at the circle of friends, and the gap seen in the circle of friends makes us afraid.
Why is it that in just a few years, it is all ordinary, and why do we have such a big gap on the same starting line? And what causes our mediocrity?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="9" >01 less is more </h1>
We live in a challenging era, in order not to let ourselves be surpassed by others, we continue to work hard, we become a timeist, firmly believe that time is money, so dare not waste any minute, as far as possible to make every minute produce the greatest value.
But there are always so many things in the world that constantly distract us, today is carnival, tomorrow is a party, we will do this, we will do that, and so a day has passed, a year has passed.
At the end of the year, we reflect on ourselves, what I did this year, as if I didn't do anything, but I felt very busy.
And so year by year we are getting more and more mediocre. But we are not content with mediocrity, and one day you awaken and you ask, "Am I mediocre because I don't do enough?" ”
No, we don't do enough but too much, and these too many things consume our energy and make us more and more mediocre.
What happened to the famous director Ang Lee can illustrate this truth. In order to subsidize his family before he became famous, director Ang Lee ran to learn computer technology, hoping to make some money by doing a side business. But what was ushered in was a scolding from his wife: "Learn what to do, concentrate on studying movies, and make money without you to take care of it." ”
In this way, Ang Lee had to concentrate on studying movies. Sure enough, Ang Lee's films were a huge success, and he was even called "The Light of the Chinese" by Chinese.
Is director Ang Lee successful because he does a lot of things? No, Ang Lee does very little, he just studies movies, but it is this "less" that makes him successful.
Many times we pay attention to too many things, both watermelon and sesame seeds, but most of the time we just pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelons, always standing still, making us more and more mediocre.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="25" >02 strive for perfection</h1>
Where is the gap between the good and the mediocre? It lies in the pursuit of perfection. The best people are mostly extremists, and they only want to do things to the extreme, while the mediocre people will only do things to the right time.
Many people will complain: "After working in a company for several years, I can't get a promotion and a salary increase, and the good things are taken away by my colleagues." "As you know, your colleagues try to do the best they can for every task, and you just do it.
This is the difference between the excellent and the mediocre, one is to pursue the extreme, one is to cope; one is active pursuit, and the other is passive acceptance. The consequences of the difference between the two may not be apparent in a short period of time, but over time there will be a huge gap.
I have heard the saying: "It is better to do one thing to the extreme than to do a hundred mediocre things." "We found that many successful people are successful not because they do a lot of things, but just do one thing and do it perfectly and to the extreme."
Qi Baishi was such a person, Qi Baishi was born in poverty, he could not contact art when he was young, and he did not formally contact art until he was 27 years old.
At first, Qi Baishi learned the essentials of seal carving, until one day a teacher told him: "When you grind a piece of clumsy stone into stone pulp, your kung fu will arrive at home." ”
Qi Baishi did this, bought a bunch of stones, grinded them off after carving, and continued to carve after grinding them off. And so it goes day after day, year after year. There are fewer and fewer stones, more and more silt on the ground, and Qi Baishi's seal carving skills are becoming more and more superb.
Mr. Cai Zhizhong, a famous comic book master, once said: "Choosing your favorite thing and doing it to the extreme is the greatest success in life." ”
This is the secret of success, success do not do too many things, as long as you choose a thing you like, and repeat this thing to do, to be perfect, to the extreme, that is success.
Escape cannot solve any problem, only face it. Instead of being afraid to look at the circle of friends and dare not admit the shortcomings and gaps between yourself and your friends, it is better to follow their example, learn from them, and strive to make yourself a successful person like them.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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