Hi, hello everyone! I am Cheng Xiaoyi, a new media operator, psychology enthusiast, reading promoter, and emotional analyst.
The topic I want to share with you today is the topic of women's happiness.
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Two days ago, a reader in the background left me a paragraph:
She said that she has been married for many years, her children are in elementary school, her husband has a successful career, and there are several suites in the family, but the more people reach middle age, the less they feel happy, and the less they feel the happiness that outsiders say.
Looking at me, for a woman, the greatest happiness in life is to have her own happiness in life, the harmony of the family, the love of husband and wife, and the health of children.
To sum it up in one sentence: beyond the barriers of passing happiness, life is often happier.
Recently, I read the book "Carnegie's Lifelong Happiness Advice to Women" several times, and finally knew that through the obstacles to happiness, it is the emotions and views of life. From this book, I got three points of inspiration about opening the vane of happiness: if you want to be a happy and happy woman, you may wish to start from the following three points.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > abstain from criticism, blame, and complaining</h1>
Going back to the beginning, the woman describes in detail her daily communication with her lover backstage.
She said that lovers often come home without saying anything and just looking down at their phones.
Once, the child's homework was done wrong, he would not teach, and then he asked the lover to teach, but the child taught by the lover could not understand, so they quarreled, she said, you know the work all day, can you spend more time so the lover roared, and then quarreled.
Most of the time, when a woman accuses her lover or boyfriend, she basically gets silence. In addition, there will be anti-lip-to-lips and resonant words, which means that the other party will confront this accusation, even though they love you deeply, even if it is indeed his fault.
From a psychological point of view, everyone is afraid of being blamed by others, including men and women, men and men are more afraid of accusations from women, so as a woman, it is better to quit criticism, blame, or complain.
Therefore, getting along with the lover in life is less accusatory and more tolerant, so that the two people get along with each other more tacitly, and they can also feel the warmth of the subtleties of life.
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But Carnegie felt that in fact, people's urgent desire for this "hope to have importance" was definitely no less than the need for the first three.
And this "hope has importance" to put it bluntly, everyone wants to be respected and praised.
Lincoln once said that everyone likes to be appreciated.
In life, both men and women want to be appreciated by each other. Men, in particular, are more likely to be able to get women's attention, and they want to get from women the feeling that "hope is important" to meet this way.
For female friends, the best option is to sincerely praise their partner.
Every marriage, every love begins because of a genuine liking. Therefore, female friends, a word of praise that you casually utter can make men feel recognized by their wives, and their hearts will begin to respect their wives.
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In the book "Carnegie's Advice to Women's Lives", it is mentioned that because of this psychological domination, many ladies hope to prove that others are wrong and that they are right on specific occasions, especially in full view of everyone.
For example, some women in life always like to show their best side in front of others, always feel that they are better than others, and must argue about the results of everything.
The argument has been going on for a long time, resulting in no one being able to convince anyone, and even bringing fatigue to oneself. If you want to make yourself happy and happy, I advise all female friends not to argue endlessly and not to have a direct conflict with their lover.
These words are some of my experiences and experiences after reading "Carnegie's Lifelong Happiness Advice to Women".
In this book, Dale Carnegie summarizes the basic skills that women should have in the world with superhuman wisdom, analyzes the secret of women to create personal charm and live happily with rigorous thinking, and guides thousands of women to mature and retain happiness as soon as possible with broad love, so as to help women change their lives and create a new life.
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Happiness is never about you or me, but about your own real experience.
So, if a woman wants to be happy, she may as well start with quitting criticism, blame and complaining, sincerely appreciating, liking others, and not arguing endlessly.
As Hong Zicheng said, letting one step go high in the world, and taking a step backwards is the capital of progress; treating others with a generous point is a blessing, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest.
Every woman has a different definition of her own happiness, but a woman can be happy for a long time, it must be inseparable from a good foundation for people, if you want to be happy, you may wish to start from the above three points.
Today's article on women's happiness, what details do you think can reflect a woman's true happiness in life? Welcome to tell me below the message.
I am Cheng Xiaoyi, a new media operator, psychology enthusiast, reading promoter, and emotional analyst.
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