When I read the book "Bold Elegance", the first woman I thought of was no one else, but the poor and pathetic protagonist Matsuko in the movie "The Life of the Rejected Pine Nut".
Matsuko's whole life has been courting men and has no ego. In the end, under the love of failure again and again, he collapsed and gave up on himself.
On the night she decided to regain her dream, she died under the violent sticks of a group of children.
When watching the movie, we all have difficulty understanding, Matsuko looks good, in the movie, both men and women have praised her sexy, she sings well, her own ability is not bad, why is it such a miserable life?
When I read the book "Bold Elegance", I knew why.
Bold Elegance is a book for women, and it is a style manifesto for independent women.
The author, Yu Tingting, is not only a well-known host, producer, but also an expert partner of the Personal Development Society. In 2015, he founded Riding Wing Culture Communication Co., Ltd., cooperating with pan Shiyi, Gou Taiming, Jiang Nanchun and other well-known entrepreneurs.
She uses her own female perspective and experience to tell all women that women are not only elegant, but also boldly elegant.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 not everyone deserves your patience</h1>
The book mentions Hollywood actress Meryl, who has been nominated for 21 Oscars. A passage that Streep said:
I don't want to please people who don't like me, or love people who don't love me, or smile at people who don't want to smile at me, and I don't want to spend another minute lying or trying to manipulate others. I decided not to coexist with pretense, hypocrisy, deception, or cheap praise... The most important thing is that I don't have the patience to deal with people who don't deserve my patience.
In the movie, Matsuko is kind and patient with almost everyone.
The writer's boyfriend abused her domestically, was punched and kicked by her, and she endured it and flattered her.
Her students steal and do not admit that she lost her job, and when she meets again, she still thinks of redemption and still falls in love with the students.
Kindness is a good virtue, but not all people deserve to be treated with kindness.
Women are not Buddhas, don't think about Pudu sentient beings.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 have the strength to get rid of fear</h1>
In the movie, Matsuko's sister was frail and sickly since she was a child, and Matsuko was naturally ignored by her father.
In Matsuko's impression, the only time her father smiled at her was when she inadvertently made a grimace.
Therefore, making a grimace became the only way for her to please her father.
It also became a shadow in her heart, and when she grew up, once she encountered a problem that was difficult to solve, she subconsciously made a grimace.
This not only does not solve the problem, but also makes the scene very embarrassing.
At the end of the day, this is a sense of fear in Matsuko's heart.
The reason why her life has not gone well is precisely because she cannot get rid of the fear in her heart.
Once you fear what you lose, you will be deprived of your freedom by something.
The only way to overcome fear is to strengthen yourself through continuous efforts.
What makes you excited every day, never stop working hard?
The author Yu Tingting said that because I clearly know what I want to be ten years later, for example, looking still energetic; having firm eyes; maintaining a slim and sexy body; having a stable career development; having a certain influence; and having a positive impact on many people through book programs and other means...
You must clearly know what you want to be, and work hard for it, you will gain strength and overcome fear.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > 03 Society of decision theory of "3 10s"</h1>
In the movie "The Life of the Abandoned Pine Nut", the biggest twist is one of her most failed decisions.
Matsuko started out as a music teacher at a school because a student stole money from the tavern owner. Matsuko originally wanted to cover up the past for him and secretly return the money.
Because she didn't have enough money, she also secretly took the money from the wallets of other teachers. Because the owner of the tavern said that she wanted to hear the person apologize, she wanted to apologize on behalf of the student that she had stolen the money. A male teacher saw the process, and the dirty request was to see Matsuko's body, and Matsuko agreed again.
Her every decision is wrong and wrong, watching her fall into the dust behind her, killing people and going to prison, it can be said that a good hand of cards is played.
Decision-making is not only necessary in work, but also inseparable from good decision-making in our lives.
The "3 10s" theory is derived from Susie. Ms. Welch, former editor-in-chief of harvard business review and "the greatest CEO of the 20th century", Jack Welch. Welch's wife, who wrote the best-selling book "Win".
What is the significance of your decisions in these three time periods and what effects they will have.
For example, after graduating from college, many people will choose to go to graduate school.
When we make the decision of graduate school, we may need 10 minutes to draw up a plan, 10 months of unremitting efforts, and what can graduate school bring us after 10 years.
Through the "3 10s" theory, the possible results are sorted out clearly, and we can make the right decisions.
There are countless choices in life, but some choices cannot be changed once they are wrong. The ancients said, think twice.
A woman's elegance is not a posture of learning to arrange flowers and drink coffee, but an independent posture. Kindness without madness; confidence without arrogance; hard work and low profile, these are the best graces for women.
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