When we get married, we think of a good life after marriage, and we are full of expectations to enter marriage. But when it comes to divorce, we need to pluck up courage and strengthen our hearts in order to make such a decision.
As Kunita Yasuhito said, "It is much more difficult for a person to make the choice of divorce than to make the choice of marriage." ”
It is not difficult for a woman to make the decision to get married, as long as there is love, it can give a woman the strength to enter the marriage. But the longer the marriage, the easier it is for women to fall into it, even if the days are hard and the grievances are more, women will not easily choose divorce.
If it really comes to the step of divorce, it means that women have already thought about it silently many times in their hearts. Before making the decision to divorce, women will think about the situation after divorce, maybe they will never get married again, maybe they will be talked about, or they may be misunderstood by their families.
But in any case, no matter what situation will happen in the future, the woman does not want to continue an unhappy marriage.
So, what does divorce mean for women? You know, these five events are heavy and must be faced after divorce.
01 If she has children, women usually choose to raise children alone.
For women with children, when making the decision to divorce, the most considered is probably their own children. In an unhappy marriage, the only thing a woman is most reluctant to have is her children.
When divorcing, perhaps others will suggest that women leave their children to their ex-husbands, live alone, and later meet the right person and remarry, and there is no burden around and do not have to worry too much. Even if you haven't met the right person yet, it's always easier to live alone than with your kids.
However, for women, leaving children is a very difficult thing, they often reluctant to have children, even if it will be very hard to live alone in the future, they will also live with children. Such a life, women need to work harder and stronger to face.
02 If you don't meet the right person in the future, you may live alone for the rest of your life.
When divorced, women do not consider the issue of remarriage. But after the pain of the past slowly fades and the hope for life is renewed, the woman's heart will actually hope to meet a warm person again and accompany each other for the rest of her life.
It's just that no one can predict the future, and women will not choose divorce if they want to meet a good man again. So before making the decision to divorce, women are prepared to live alone for the rest of their lives.
After having a failed marriage, women will not have too many expectations for love, even if they meet in their hearts, they will be cautious, they will not easily pay their sincerity, and they will not easily enter a marriage again.
Women choose to divorce, they have to face such a situation, which is also a helpless thing.
03 I often hear some gossip from people around me.
The impact of divorce on men will not be too great, and in the eyes of others, it is just that he has more emotional experience.
Even if there are children, it will be the help of parents to carry, and men can still live a free life, and when they meet the right woman, they can marry and have children without worry.
However, for women, the situation after divorce is very different, and they are often described as "divorced women". Although it is true, it sounds very uncomfortable.
Since she has chosen divorce, women will certainly hear some rumors that are not good for themselves. These are things that women can't change, what can be changed is their own mentality, calm, less thinking, you can live a little easier.
04 Daughters divorce, parents will definitely be sad and worried about their daughters' future.
In the matter of women's divorce, the most concerned about women is bound to be their parents. When they get married, parents will feel that their daughter has something to rely on, has a small family, and will not be alone.
However, when divorced, it means that you can only rely on yourself in the future, and if you live with a child, your parents will naturally be more sad and worried.
At any given time, parents worry about their children, let alone after an unhappy marriage. Even if a woman behaves strong and brave, parents will be distressed and worried that their daughter's future will be very hard.
In such a situation, women not only have to clean up their bad emotions, but also care about their parents' bodies so that they don't worry too much. This matter will naturally be extremely heavy for women.
05 No matter how hard life is, women have to work hard to earn money to support their families.
After divorce, no matter what the woman's financial situation is, she has to earn money to support the family in her own life. Even if the current life is still passable, you must make plans for your future.
Women with children, while worrying about the growth of their children, providing for their children to study, while taking care of their parents, the pressure is self-evident.
After divorce, women can not rely on anyone, everything can only be solved by themselves, no matter how hard and tired life is, they have to bear it themselves and live hard.
Before divorce, this is something that women can take into account and must be prepared to make a decision to divorce. There are often all kinds of accidents in life, and many times it is not something you can think about in advance. Thinking of this, it is naturally very heavy for women.
Russell said: "People have never used divorce as a substitute for a monogamous family, and it is only for special reasons that marriage cannot continue, people use divorce to alleviate suffering." ”
Will choose divorce, must be because women can not bear the pain in marriage, will want to be relieved as soon as possible. Even if these heavy things are met after divorce, women will decisively choose to divorce rather than continue to suffer those pains.
No matter how difficult the future life is, as long as you make a decision, you must live well and face everything calmly. Try to get closer to the hope in your heart, and you will definitely see the sunshine of happiness.