Gorky said: "Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, the purpose of which is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together. ”
If the couple in the marriage cannot do this, but instead there are all kinds of unresolvable contradictions and differences, they can only bear the misfortune brought about by the marriage. When a marriage is desperate, the best option is divorce.
After the divorce, if you want to live a happy life, you have to look forward and make your heart stronger. No matter what difficulties you encounter, you must be strong and survive.
Only in this way will the future life be happier and not let yourself regret making the choice of divorce.
In the eyes of outsiders, a woman's divorce also means misfortune, after all, everyone will think that a woman's life after divorce will be very hard.
It is precisely because everyone has such a thought, so when choosing divorce, women need great courage and hope for the future to firmly take this step.
For divorced women, after divorce, they will work harder to live and prove that they can live well alone. Once divorced, they will only look forward, unwilling to mention their previous lives, and even more unwilling to see their exs again.
Why are women often afraid to see an ex after a divorce? The three women spoke from their hearts.
01 Ms. Jiang: "I don't want to face the unhappy marriage of the past." ”
When I was young, desperately staying with him for love, even if my parents thought he was not a good man and did not agree with our marriage, I stubbornly chose to marry him.
At that time, for me, I always felt that love was everything, as long as I could live with the person I loved, it was the happiest thing in the world.
I thought that as long as we got married, we could live the happiest life and have a sweet and happy little family.
However, after only two or three years of marriage, he was exposed, not responsible for our family at all, even after I became pregnant, his heart was still fluttering outside, never caring about home, regardless of my hard work.
After the birth of the child, I don't want the family to be so scattered, and I can only choose to turn a blind eye to what my husband has done, and I hope that his heart can come back. During that time, I have been struggling, expecting him to change, and constantly disappointed.
The child grew up slowly, and my heart was completely cold. Since the marriage was so unfortunate, I didn't want to continue to insist on it, so I chose divorce.
Now that I have made such a choice, I will not look back and will not face that unhappy marriage again. Even though we had a child, I didn't want to see my ex again.
02 Ms. Lin: "I had a hard time crawling out of that quagmire, I just wanted to be far away." ”
Before getting married, I always thought that in his heart, I had a very important position and could protect me after marriage. However, after I actually got married, I really knew how difficult the mother-in-law relationship was.
Every time I encounter any contradictions at home, my ex-husband always protects my mother-in-law, and often says in front of me how difficult it is for my mother-in-law to raise them, and now that she is old, she should let them enjoy the blessings and let me not block them because of a small matter.
But I always wanted to live a good life, and my mother-in-law is a very picky person, we have a big difference in living habits, and she always asks me to be like her.
My ex-husband said he loved me, and whenever he encountered something about his family, he was always partial to them, and I was always an outsider.
In that family, I endured too much, but in the end I could not become their family. Since I couldn't fit in, I simply chose to divorce, originally thinking that I had met a man who could protect me for the rest of my life, but I met a man who was always an outsider.
Now I have a hard time crawling out of that quagmire, and now I just want to stay away from them and never meet them again.
03 Ms. Tian: "With a new life, stop thinking about the past." ”
Qiong Yao once said: "A failed marriage is a tragedy; ending a tragedy is equivalent to starting a comedy." ”
This sentence also gave me a lot of courage, since the marriage has failed, all I can do is end this failure and start my life again. Only such a choice can turn your life from tragedy to comedy.
In fact, my marriage had problems very early, and I knew very well in my heart that he had long since stopped loving me, or had never loved me. But I don't want to pursue this now, I didn't want to face the misfortune of marriage before, but I was thinking about the children and worrying about what impact it would have on him.
Now that he is older and sensible, he can accept and respect my choice. After the divorce, the past will really become the past, will no longer become the bondage of life, and I can live my own life comfortably, maybe it will be a little hard, will be discussed, but since I made such a choice, I will bravely face it.
With a new life, it is natural not to want to be disturbed by the past again. I was afraid to meet my ex because I was afraid that seeing him would remind me of the past and affect my life.
Sechenko said: "Before deciding to divorce, there is a long, painful, and difficult process of thinking about the reasons, that is, the process of comprehensively basing one's decision from the perspective of personal needs, interests, opinions, and values. ”
Women choose divorce, which means that they have gone through a very difficult psychological process and are determined to start their lives again. No matter how difficult the future is, no matter what kind of eyes others will have, they will strengthen their hearts.
It's just that after having a new life, women don't want to be disturbed by their own past, even if they see their ex, it will make their hearts uneasy.
With a new beginning, naturally I don't want to involve my past anymore.