<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > met young and bought a branch. </h1>
Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng met belonged to "love at first sight", Li Qingzhao, a young girl born in the official eunuchs, looked beautiful and vulgar, wrote a good article at a young age, had a naïve temperament, dared to go out on horseback riding and drinking like a man, and composed poetry in a slightly drunken state.
Like the beginning of all classic love sections, when she was 17 years old, Zhao Mingcheng gently knocked on the door of the Li family, at this time Li Qingzhao shyly jumped off the swing, in a panic, she could not help but run off her shoes, barefoot hidden in the back room, even the gold noodles on her head also slipped to the ground.
The beautiful scene of Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng's first acquaintance is recorded in "Dotted Lips and Kicking Off the Swing":
Kick off the swing and get up to straighten your hands. Dew is thin and thin, and the sweat is lightly clothed.
See the guests come in, the socks are cut off and the gold is slipped. And shyly walked, leaned on the door and looked back, but sniffed the green plum.
Zhao Mingcheng had already seen Li Qingzhao's words and admired her talent. At this meeting, Zhao Mingcheng developed a sense of admiration. Zhao Mingcheng's father, Zhao Tingzhi, was at this time a court official attendant, and the official residence sanpin. Li Qingzhao's father, Li Gefei, was in Liupin at this time, serving as a member of the imperial court, and although Li Gefei was not as high as Zhao Tingzhi's official character, he was also an important position in the imperial court. Therefore, the two companies can already be regarded as "door to door".
At the age of 18, Li Qingzhao and 21-year-old Zhao Mingcheng naturally entered the palace of marriage.
Zhao Mingcheng is a erudite and talented fei fei gongzi, the two are of equal rank, like-minded, reading and writing poetry, tasting and collecting jinshi calligraphy and paintings, Qinse and Ming, mutual appreciation, the first year after marriage, the days are sweet and joyful.
Li Qingzhao once wrote:
"Sell flowers on the shoulders, and buy a branch to put on the spring." The tear stains are light and even, like the dew marks of Tongxia Xiaoxiao. Lang guessed that slave noodles were not as good as flower noodles. Cloud sideburns slanted, disciple taught Lang Bibi to see. ”
The sentence reveals the happy little mood of a young woman after marriage. In their leisure time, they enjoy flowers and words, play word games, and look like a pair of gods and immortals. Zhao Mingcheng occasionally traveled far away from Beijing, and Li Qingzhao sijun was anxious, "one day is not seen, such as three autumns apart", she wrote:
"After the east hedge put the wine at dusk, there is a dark fragrance full of sleeves. Mo Dao does not extinguish the soul, the curtain rolls in the west wind, and people are thinner than yellow flowers."
Although it is the pain of writing about lovesickness, it can be seen that the feelings of the two are strong, and in the early days of marriage, Zhao Mingcheng gave Li Qingzhao the most beautiful and innocent period of happiness.
Li Qingzhao once wrote: "Last night the rain was sparse and the wind was strong, and the heavy sleep did not consume the wine. Try to ask the curtain people, but the begonias are still the same. Know it or not, know it or not? It should be green fat red thin. ”
This small order, just six sentences, there are characters, there are scenes, and dialogue, the language is fresh, the meaning of the words is timeless, this kind of leisurely, sad spring and autumn, cherishing flowers, if it is not a short peaceful life, it is difficult to express.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > Ordinary life, although accompanied by each other, it is inevitable that there will be gaps. </h1>
The ten years of Qingzhou are a period of time when the couple changed from dignitaries to ordinary people, living in seclusion in the countryside, supporting and accompanying each other.
Although he had experienced the changes in the second year of marriage and the "hardships did not see the true feelings" of the husband's family at a critical moment, but thinking of the deep feelings with Zhao Mingcheng, Li Qingzhao chose to ignore the previous suspicions and waiting. When the husband's family fell into distress, Zhao Mingcheng was imprisoned, and when Zhao Mingcheng was released to Qingzhou, the husband and wife finally lived an indisputable life, fully devoted to poetry and songs and the collection of gold and stone antiques.
This was probably the best years of Li Qingzhao's life, with husband and wife together, studying golden stones, boiling tea and poetry, and writing classics. For the life during this period, Li Qingzhao said that "Gan is always a hometown"
These ten years are a stable and somewhat beautiful day for Li Qingzhao's married life, but as the days go by, the initial freshness will become flat, and the original case will become a matter of opinion.
Li Qingzhao has a very famous essay called "Afterword to the Golden Stone Record", which recalls the sweetness and ups and downs of the thirty-four years after her marriage with her husband, but also hides the breakdown of the marriage and Li Qingzhao's dissatisfaction. Especially with the increase of the collection, the proportion of the collection in the life of her husband Zhao Mingcheng is getting higher and higher, and Zhao Mingcheng has made a wish, saying that even if he cuts down on food and clothing, he will go all over the world and collect all the ancient chinese characters in the world. In order to complete her husband, Li Qingzhao did not buy clothes and jewelry, and she also tried to eat less meat dishes, she once said: "Yu is impatient", which means "I am impatient".
It can be seen that the feelings of husband and wife who originally had common hobbies and value pursuits will change with the passage of time, and when the collection of ancient wenqi books is no longer a preservative for maintaining marriage, it is also expected that the relationship between husband and wife will be broken, which is the back of marriage.
Jiang Fangzhou once said: "Marriage, even in the moonlight of the balcony of a high-rise building, even in the vast desert, is always full of daily trivialities and compromises, grievances that are not understood, and powerlessness to watch each other drift away."
There is no real "fit" in this world. Behind all the gods and immortals, there is always the efforts of both sides, compromise, convergence, reserving differences, as well as restraint and cherishing.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > the couple's love change, the thing is not a person, the tears are flowing first. </h1>
When Li Qingzhao was 38 years old, ten years of peaceful life ended with Zhao Mingcheng's reappearance.
One is going to be an official in a foreign country, one is going to stay and transport the golden stone; one is outside the peach and willow green, and the other is secretly sighing in the distance.
Zhao Mingcheng raised concubines and geji, and although Li Qingzhao was dissatisfied, she also accepted the reality; but what made her feel more uneasy and painful was that they were childless.
In 1121, the husband and wife reunited after a long absence in Laizhou, but Li Qingzhao was snubbed by her husband. Zhao Mingcheng placed his wife in a somewhat dilapidated residence with no books and periodicals, and he was busy socializing everywhere.
Li Qingzhao was locked up in the house, and could only write poems to pass the lonely time, and laughed at himself: Don't worry that I have no one to accompany me, there are still two gentlemen in my house.
After the "Jingkang Revolution", Zhao Mingcheng's mother died of illness in Jiangning, and after the hardships of the war, the two were reunited in Jiangning. However, at this time, there was a military rebellion in Jiangning Province, and Zhao Mingcheng, as the prefect, not only did not preside over the counterinsurgency, but abandoned the city and fled.
Li Qingzhao was deeply ashamed of her husband's escape from the battlefield, although there was no quarrel on the surface, but the harmony and happiness of the past had gone forever, and since then she had coldly alienated Zhao Mingcheng, and when she reached Wujiang, she domineeringly moaned:
"Born as a man, died as a ghost xiong, and still thinks of Xiang Yu and refuses to cross Jiangdong", "Summer Sentences".
Zhao Mingcheng was ashamed on the spot.
Before Zhao Mingcheng received the last appointment to leave, Li Qingzhao asked him what to do with those collections, Zhao Mingcheng explained that he had no choice but to discard the order, and finally talked about those Ritual Instruments? You have to hold it on your back, "You die with it." This is the ranking of values in Zhao Mingcheng's mind, and the hair-tie wife who has accompanied him for more than thirty years is not more important than those collections.
Who would have thought that these few words would become the final instructions. On the way to office, Zhao Mingcheng died of illness and left, leaving Li Qingzhao alone and a large pile of cultural relics, and even too late to leave only a few words. At this time, Li Qingzhao was forty-six years old, and the nearly 30-year marriage came to an end.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" > life and death, perfect is poetry, the real is life. </h1>
Zhao Mingcheng entrusted before his death, did not have the slightest feeling of "selling incense and selling shoes", but Li Qingzhao still chose to protect, she took the heavy books and cultural relics left by her husband, carrying the painstaking efforts of the two people for most of their lives, surviving alone in an era of disintegration, but also to protect the large number of treasures left behind, after all hardships, like a lonely boat fluttering helplessly in the wind and waves.
In order to protect himself and these collections, forcing Zhang Ruzhou to marry zhang Ruzhou may also be the biggest helplessness and mistake of Li Qingzhao's life. This person was only trying to deceive Li Qingzhao of the only remaining cultural relics. Li Qingzhao was indignant, sued her husband, and even went to prison for nine days; finally hated to end the second marriage that lasted only 3 months.
Despite the great price, he was finally freed.
The country was broken, the family died, the husband died, most of his life's work was destroyed, and his body was deteriorating, a series of blows, so that Li Qingzhao at this time was disheartened, and the creative style also changed from the former Qingli wan to melancholy and pathetic.
In his later years, Li Qingzhao wrote the ancient song "Fisherman's Pride":
The galaxy wants to turn a thousand sails to dance as if the dream soul returned to the emperor's house
Wen Tianyu asked me attentively where I belonged
I report that the road is long and the sun is twilight, and there are amazing sentences in the poetry
Ninety thousand miles of wind Peng is lifting the wind to rest Pengzhou blowing to take the three mountains
A female lyricist is comparable to a male wind bone, writing such a bold and exuberant poem that breathes with the times and shares the fate.
After Li Qingzhao divorced Zhang Ruzhou, he was not depressed. She decided to think hard about the pain, bravely cheer up, not be burdened by these pains, and must be self-reliant for the rest of her life, and live a quiet and far-reaching old age. In the twilight years, Li Qingzhao wrote:
The wind has run out of dust and flowers, and the tired hair is combed in the evening.
Things are people and things are not things, and tears flow first.
It is said that sungai spring is still good, and it is also intended to pan a light boat.
I am only afraid of the Twin Streams Ship Boat, and I can't carry many worries.
In this poem, Li Qingzhao expressed his sonorous point of view very brightly: as long as life has been loved, no matter how impermanent the experience is, there will be no regrets, and there is no fear of the immovable sorrow.
The marriage between Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng was ultimately a "Lan yin fruit", but like all husband and wife, Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng did love and support, and indeed had a spiritual life that was richer than the material life, but there were also cold wars, resentment, dissatisfaction, and contempt. It is marriage, so that Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng have a connection, empathy, and mutual pleasure; but it is also marriage, so that Li Qingzhao is displaced and sad in the second half of his life.
But she did not resent, but chose to carry her husband's heavy sword to the end of the world, the past love and hate sorrow, with the passage of time are in the long river of her life gurgling away, in the years and experience of repeated washing, Li Qingzhao chose to reconcile with suffering and sorrow, living out the brave and resolute side of women.
Lu Xun once said: A true warrior dares to face a bleak life.
In the seventy-three years of ups and downs in life, no matter what stage of her life she is in, she lives truly and spontaneously, even if she encounters the fate of marriage, her husband gradually drifts away, even if she is in a lonely and bitter adversity in her later years, she still faces reality, runs strongly on her most peaceful and far-reaching life path, and achieves the most beautiful self.