Writer Lei Shuyan once said such a sentence:
"Marriage is like wearing shoes, comfortable or uncomfortable, only the feet know."
However, most of the world's feelings are inevitably criticized by the world.
Paying too much in feelings will be accused of being humble, affection will be said to be undignified, believing that love will be considered a love brain...
In short, every kind of giving can be a reason for misfortune, as if feelings that cannot be held high are not worth it in the world.
But is that really the case?
Marriage is a cold and warm self-aware thing, others are always outsiders, different marriages have different faces of life.
What you think is unhappy, but happiness in other people's lives is deserved;
What you think is not worth it, but it is the feeling that others want to cherish the most.
Just as Hong Xin chose.
Recently, some netizens broke the news on the social platform and met Hong Xin Zhang Danfeng and his wife.
In the picture, the couple takes their daughter to play in Dali, and Hong Xin gently leans on her husband's shoulder.
Zhang Danfeng put his arm around his wife in one hand and held his daughter's happy photo in the other.
It can be seen that the family of three is intimate and very happy.
The divorce that has been rumored for three years finally proves in a low-key way that the couple's relationship is not as fragile as imagined.
The so-called love is half joy and half worry.
Before 2018. Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng created a benevolent love set.
This pair of sisters and brothers who are ten years apart are not optimistic about each other in the early stage of love.
Zhang Danfeng was scolded as a small white face, and Hong Xin was criticized for having an illegitimate child.
Even cai Shaofen, the woman's best girlfriend, objected to her association with Zhang Danfeng.
But later, the two resisted the pressure of public opinion, resisted gossip, crossed the worldly entanglement, and entered the palace of marriage with joy and joy.
After that, the mode of show love was turned on.
Zhang Danfeng regarded HongXin's son as his own, and Hongxin gave birth to a daughter for Zhang Danfeng.
The family of four is as happy as ever, and the photos and videos posted are full of happiness.
Everyone in the world sighed that Hong Xin married love and met a good man who really cared for her.
However, the love of this pair of immortals was reversed in 2019.
That year, Zhang Danfeng and his former agent had a set of late-night frame pictures, bringing out a vigorous melon, with a large amount of information and stunned people.
Overnight, Zhang Danfeng's good manhood collapsed, and Hong Xin's happy marriage collapsed in a moment.
No one knows what the facts are, but from the breaking news, Zhang Danfeng seems to have done something to betray his lover, contrary to the public's expectations of him.
Although Zhang Danfeng vigorously denied it afterwards and tried to prove his innocence, it did not help. The whole network identified him as a betrayer, and the news of the marriage change also came out.
Netizens have been waiting for Hong Xin to make a choice, after all, leaving a man whose career reputation is not as good as his own is a breeze for the popular actress Hong Xin.
But to everyone's surprise, Hong Xin did not choose divorce, but chose to forgive.
Forgive the past, quell the gossip by stopping responding, and then start your life in a low profile.
This way has disappointed countless fans, in the eyes of many people, Hong Xin can be a big heroine, abandon the past of love and hate, and start over with grace.
But ending a marriage is not so simple.
Hong Xin, a woman who has struggled in her relationship for most of her life, finally chose to cherish and braced this marriage for three years in the storm.
After that storm, Hong Xin saw through it and wanted to open it.
A woman's dependence, never love, nor a man, can only be herself in the end.
Hong Xin also deeply realized this and opened a model of comprehensive development of the cause.
During the period of love with Zhang Danfeng, she once faded out of the entertainment circle, especially after giving birth to a daughter, Hong Xin simply stopped the career of the entertainment industry, did not shoot dramas and did not take variety shows, was a happy full-time wife, and was the woman behind Zhang Danfeng.
But that storm shattered Hong Xin's sweet dream of being a full-time wife.
Overnight, she woke up like a dream, lost weight quickly, regrouped, and returned to the entertainment circle.
Not only actively participating in various activities, but also taking his daughter out of the camera, launching the single "Soda", and when necessary, participating in the variety show "Sister Please Eat" with good girlfriends.
Her whole state is like being reborn, working hard every day for a more beautiful self.
After abandoning the virtuous wife and becoming an independent woman, Hong Xin's eyes were only left with money.
She wandered away from the workplace alone with her children, and greeted the best career with the best state.
Even birthday wishes are related to money:
"I want to learn skin care with Zhu Yin, learn financial management from Cai Shaofen, and start to become more beautiful and richer tomorrow."
Once upon a time, Hong Xin was a woman who believed in love, and now that she is more than half a hundred years old, she finally understands that women's sense of security and happiness come from themselves.
At any time, the woman who relies on herself will always be the most elegant one, and relying on others will not be worth the loss.
As Miyazaki put it:
"Don't rely on a person easily, otherwise it will become your habit; when separation comes, you lose not a certain person, but the pillar of your spirit; whenever and wherever you are, learn to walk independently, it will make you walk more calmly." 」
Isn't this the case with Hong Xin?
Once she relied on love and zhang Danfeng to achieve happiness, but when public opinion came to her, the man she had in mind became the one who hurt her the most.
Regardless of whether Zhang Danfeng did anything to apologize to Hong Xin, at least that incident made Hong Xin see through and grow.
Whether the relationship between the two in marriage was damaged is unknown, but Hong Xin finally stopped being the woman behind Zhang Danfeng.
Nowadays, she rarely shows her love, and rarely mentions Zhang Danfeng in public, let alone the gossip of the past, and even on important anniversary occasions, she rarely sees Zhang Danfeng's figure.
In this regard, the media is catching the wind and shadows, suspecting that the two are separated or have long been divorced.
But today's Hongxin, has long been dismissive of these rumors, after the collapse of sweet love, Hongxin became an independent woman, showing an elegant posture of working hard to make money and becoming beautiful.
While maintaining the status quo of marriage, independently engaging in career and finding oneself is the best choice made by Hong Xin.
This choice also brought her another harvest.
The daughter and son have not lost a good father, her marriage is not fragile, and she can have a complete family on her own, which is not easy to come by.
The Internet said that Hong Xin was not worth it to seek perfection, but marriage is like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Every choice deserves to be respected, feelings are rifted, and repair is more conducive to life than substitution.
Life is not a TV series, there is never a perfect ending, some are just harvesting lessons in exchange for the price of growth.
There is no perfect person in this world, and there is no perfect marriage.
No matter how deeply you have been hurt, there is always a touch that will become the dawn of looking forward to the future.
Women who are more tolerant, less complaining, and trying to earn money are the most beautiful.
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