In people's lives, it seems that unhappiness is the norm in life: the stress of life, the hardships of work, or emotional twists and turns, too many things bother us. There was once a confused girl, wrote a letter to Sanmao, the girl said that she was 29 years old, unmarried, was a small clerk, the appearance was very ordinary, the ability to work was also average, there was no opposite sex pursuit in her life, she felt very inferior, she said: "People like me, really don't know what happiness there is in life." ”
This girl's idea is also the voice of many people, perhaps everyone has this experience more or less at a certain stage of life, in the end, everyone has an ordinary side, when you enlarge your own ordinary, the shining point on your body will be covered, and people will naturally be inferior.
After many years, Sanmao's reply to the girl still fills me with healing power: "You have a legitimate profession, you can afford to rent a room, your appearance is not bad, you know how to further explore the meaning of life after commuting, this is a very beautiful thing, why do you feel inferior?" You feel humble because you are not looking at yourself with your own subjective eyes, but with the general utilitarian eyes of society, which is very regrettable, and it is difficult for a person who does not appreciate himself to be happy. ”
You're looking at the view from the bridge, and the people who're watching the view are also watching you. Everyone is a unique landscape. Maybe you don't have a great appearance, but you have a beautiful heart, maybe you are not talented, but you can also support yourself. Only by learning to appreciate yourself will you find your own beauty.
As Sanmao said at the end of the letter, "If I were you, the first thing I would do was to increase my expectations and values for myself, sweep away the string of inferiority words in the letter from my life, and never look down on myself again." ”
Don't look down on yourself, don't live up to the time
"I don't have time to be seriously young, and when I understand it, I can only choose to grow old seriously." This is a lament about the passing of good times, but also an epiphany of life.
Let's stretch the time and imagine how you would expect yourself to spend this life when you enter the twilight years and look back. Do you wish your life were richer? Time always passes quickly, and it's easy to stumble through the years, but is this the life you want?
People are always following the tide of the times, but they do not realize that this is often contrary to the direction of their hearts. Individuals should be diverse, everyone is different, which is also destined to everyone need to explore themselves, looking for things they love, everyone is looking for light, but rarely think that they can also live as a light, when you focus on yourself, from the heart to appreciate yourself, do what you love, then you must be sparkling.