Scarlett Johansson's "Marriage Story" emotional film

In life, you have experienced it to understand, and only after living have you understood that bitterness is only bitter for a while, sweet is sweet, a lifetime. Slowly, we learn to grow and learn responsibility. I watched Scarlett Johansson's Marriage Story.

Inside this movie. An experience like our life class. I'll share it with you today.

A movie that is terriblely real: If emotional films are dedicated to portraying the lines of feelings, then this film's insight into marital relationships is magnified to the level of pores.

The big premise of the movie is that a good independent woman has to support her husband's career more "for family reasons" after marriage, and put her career in the back row that she also wants to be careful, and her husband gradually feels taken for granted, and finally, she is fed up with the relationship of always making herself a small low.

The most real thing about this film is the quarrel between two people:

The woman hysterically emphasizes how much she has given, and the man also emphasizes "how much he has also given" in a more intense manner, and whenever one party proposes the other party's practice of breaking himself down, the other party can immediately respond to a similarly blood pressure surge, "You see, exactly, you are also doing the same to me."

... The truth of this kind of thing is that it clearly shows that it is difficult for intimate relationships to cross a hurdle, which is the relationship between "oneself" and "both sides" in intimate relationships.

Like a messy line, one end entangled with you and me in this specific encounter in this relationship, one end entangled with self-love and self-esteem, how to game?

When you love each other, there are some things you do for both parties, and you have little benefit, but no matter how much you love each other, you are still a selfish person, so for a certain period of time, you can't help but "ask for an explanation" for yourself.

When I was young, I talked about campus love, walked and ate together and talked about scholarships - different majors so there is no competition with each other, it is difficult to appreciate that the love when you grow up will be tied to each other's interests. You're going to go through tough times and make trade-offs about how much of yourself you've given up, about how much tolerance and protection you've given to the relationship.

There is no unselfish love, the love of growing up, the most important thing to face is how it coexists with the selfishness we all have.

Earlier I mentioned a word in the article, called "the love of the elves".

Although it is impossible to say that you are an elite... But one of the most distinctive characteristics of the boys I love and I love is that we both love ourselves very much.

We have been "other people's children" since we were young, and when we grow up, we will live very smoothly, study hard, work hard, graduate for a short time but the salary will not be low, and we will care about our own conversation, dress, experience and vision...

We are all perfectionists.

Deep down, we all feel that we are the protagonists of life, the "one who is watched", and we always encourage ourselves to be outstanding and pick one out of the world, so we are extremely rational and extremely arrogant. Later, I understood some truths.

Because, frankly, we're afraid of not getting a response to our emotional efforts, which isn't just sadness, it's a violation of our long-held worldview — we like to do things that pay off. Because from childhood to adulthood, we have always "done useful things", studied diligently, and repeatedly thought about finding a job and maintaining a job, and then slowly opened up a little gap with others.

It is impossible for us to give up our egos, which often make our time together particularly difficult.

I've experienced the kind of quarrel in Marriage Story, each emphasizing how much I have paid for the relationship, I talk about how I have saved money for the lives of the two of them since a few years ago, and therefore I can't do something more free like entrepreneurship, and the other person talks about how many times he has made unclear choices for me, and how many opportunities for development have been missed for this. I had a particularly bad argument that time, because I found that people like us can never give up on ourselves, forget about it for a while, and it will run out in protest.

But after the argument, I thought about it, and I thought that our glue state was also a good thing.

It means that we love each other and cherish the relationship, but we haven't forgotten that we are a complete person and that we always want to fight for our own light.

When I was young, I felt that love was just disregard, and intimacy was "I am willing to give it to you", not to think about others.

Even in the first two years, I may have felt that it is not good and abnormal to have a scheming, indifference, and "in line with interests" in intimate relationships.

However, it may be because of the age, I began to understand a lot of calculations between people, and I also found that when we grow up, love is never anti-human to make us become "never thinking about ourselves", but we admit that we love ourselves to the point of selfishness, I am so, you are like this, but despite this, we still have many times, subconsciously, against our own worldview, thinking about each other.

I have had an affair with a particularly proud person, because we are all too proud and often can't get used to the way the other person's abacus is quite obvious... Quarrels occur from time to time.

Once we completely tore our faces, accused each other of selfishness and narrow-mindedness, and did not speak for a long time. After I was alone for more than a month, he sent me a very cautious message late one night, testing whether I was still angry.

There is no "sorry I was wrong" kind of rhetoric, but I still see the tension behind his pretending to be relaxed, so I feel soft.

I now look at the "I love you, you are always superior to me" relationship in some online communities - such as girls who are wrong and boys apologize and apologize, and there is no way to empathize. I think the more real relationship is not that you and I have unique personalities that completely make way for this relationship, but that under the premise of confrontation with each other, under the premise that we are quite selfish, we still can't help but reserve some softness and compassion for each other.

Compared to roses than perfumes or love words, this is something that I will never give to others in the whole world.

Something like that, I'm a stingy guy and sometimes a jerk, and so are you.

But I still love you very much, cherish! Understand, responsibility, responsibility, these four words have been lingering in my mind, more, is trust.