Recently, there is a heartfelt question that everyone always asks:
“
How long have you not returned home? Homesick?
”
In just 10 words, you can ask a group of people to cry.
Southern girl Freda said that the last time she returned to China with her husband Lao Zhang was at the end of 19 years. At that time, they were still dashing little two mouths, in just half a month, across most of China, back to the north and south, the hometown of both sides.
At that time, no one expected that after returning, they would be trapped by the epidemic in small Singapore, and they would not be able to return home for 2 consecutive years. The days, in the blink of an eye, have also changed from a dashing two-person world to 2 big and 2 small chicken flying dog jumps.
From pregnancy, childbirth, to confinement, to taking care of twin babies... It was all done by the new parents themselves.
During the epidemic, babies have come to report!
The beginning of the matter was when Freda was struggling after graduation whether to stay in Singapore, and met the "old Zhang classmate who was destined to die".
Now, don't bother.
The two have been in love for many years, from getting a license to going home for a wedding, after experiencing three formal ceremonies in three places, they chose to stay in Singapore, the place where they lived alone for many years after becoming adults.
Freda became pregnant not long after the 2020 New Year.
Although it was a tense time when the epidemic in Singapore was tense, wearing a mask for a long time during pregnancy testing was prone to chest tightness, dizziness, nausea, not to mention that she was pregnant with 2 babies at the same time, Freda's pregnancy response was quite large.
However, the optimistic nature and Lao Zhang's meticulous care make her feel as if she does not feel particularly hard.
To say that I will never forget, is the food that my teammates cook every day, and the tricks of thinking about the fa every day so that I can eat it. There was also every time my teammates were not absent from the obstetric examination, so I didn't feel anxious until I was close to the due date. When doing psychological test sheets, those negative emotions are always not at all.
This dog food was sprinkled, and the hot mom was a little caught off guard
。
New dads are more nervous than moms
As they were twins, Freda and Lao Zhang booked a caesarean section on the advice of a doctor.
Prepare for the victory ✌️ ahead
Originally about the first 8 o'clock surgery of the day, who knew that when Freda entered the waiting room, there was a mother who had an emergency caesarean section and temporarily arranged in front of her.
I didn't bring a phone, and I couldn't notify Lao Zhang, who was waiting outside to accompany the delivery. He was so nervous that he rubbed his hands, didn't know what was happening, and waited for more than 40 minutes.
In the delivery room, you still have to wear a mask, after lying on the operating table, in order to prevent the anesthesia may cause vomiting, there is tension that needs to be vigorously inhaled and exhaled, the doctor reminds you to remove the mask.
After the anesthesia work was ready, it was finally Lao Zhang's turn to come in, and when he heard the first cry, our tears flowed down involuntarily, and after 1 minute, the second cry fell to the ground.
Treasure in the palm of Mom and Dad's hand
The old Zhang who accompanied the birth was more nervous than the pregnant woman. He later recalled that everything was like it wasn't ready and was over. This new dad, just looking at the tears, looking at his wife and children, completely forgot what his wife had told him before - to open a good face, to give the mother and 2 babies a video.
Freda said: "Finally can leave a little souvenir, or after the baby came out, I was shaking (anesthesia) while my body was shaking, and my teeth were fighting to remind him, quick! Take a few photos!
After the babies were born, the only thing left by their mothers was Xiao Bao.
Because Dabao weighed less than 2kg, his parents had not yet come and looked at it twice, and he was sent to the NICU. The couple's hearts hung until the doctor said that there was no major problem after the examination, and they only needed to be observed in the intensive care unit because of the lack of weight, and they were relieved.
The older brother was relatively small from birth, and was always hammered by the younger brother into the storm and cried. But every time he resisted bravely, he never gave in. Mom and Dad can already predict how lively the days ahead will be.
Even if you know that there is not much of a problem and trust the doctor, when the mother's heart is always tied to the child:
In those days, Lao Zhang went back and forth to the ward and the intensive care unit every day to deliver breast milk, and watched the baby send me a video. The first few days, that 8 minutes of walking, I think it's a long time.
Fortunately, the process is tortuous, and the result is still very happy.
A few days later, the pair of post-90s moms + post-80s babies, with a pair of healthy and healthy post-20s Aquarius baby cow brothers, returned to their homes happily.
△ Although during the epidemic period, only a few guests can be invited, the full moon ceremony of the babies is arranged by their parents themselves
Bring your own baby? We can!
During pregnancy, experienced sisters taught Freda the experience:
"You two are absolutely not allowed, you must be helped by your family, otherwise you will ask the maid."
"Our whole family of 6 adults around a baby can't figure it out, you two can't do it"
……
However, every couple has a different yearning for the ideal life, Freda and Lao Zhang have their own plans: the couple does not like to have strangers living in the house, do not trust the maid, afraid of conflicting with the educational philosophy of the elderly...
In a word- everything must be done by yourself, that is, you want to bring your own baby!
With such courage, Freda and Lao Zhang naturally also have strong operational planning skills:
First of all, the sister-in-law must be invited, and the new parents who have just become new parents will have to face the challenge of twins and need professional guidance.
Moreover, with the confinement of the moon, the novice mother can sit in confinement with peace of mind, only to eat, sleep and sleep with the milk baby, and the other and farts are handed over to the baby father and the moon sister-in-law.
△ Daddy online...
Another point is that teammates give power! Lao Zhang has shown a strong "hands-on ability" since Freda became pregnant:
From Freda's dietary supplements at the beginning of pregnancy, to the prenatal and postnatal events, and now the baby is almost four months old, this reliable teammate has always been the main force in the family - in the case of a full-time job, he can also work part-time as a chef at home, familiar with the operation of thermostat, the milk warmer, or a diaper changer master...
With the cooperation of strong teammates, Freda, a full-time mother with a baby, can occasionally steal a little of her own time, engage in small side business, arrange some study to take a certificate, and learn some of her favorite small hobbies.
△ Two small ones who accompanied their mother to study
From the collapse to the tacit understanding, the roads they have traveled
Facing two fleshy little guys every day, happiness is doubled, and hard work is naturally doubled.
What's more, no matter how perfect the planning, when landing, there are "buts".
In the last week of the sister-in-law's imminent "offline", the novice parents seized the time to confirm that the life lesson of "how to let the baby live well" has fully mastered the know-how and become a skilled worker.
The novice father seriously asked the sister-in-law for advice on the experience of taking a baby
After the sister-in-law leaves, the first day of the hard battle, just the day when her teammates are going to the company, Freda must face it alone. At that time, it was the peak of the Two Babies' beginning to erupt at dusk in February.
I was actually very scared, I hadn't experienced it, I didn't know what would happen, what if they cried at the same time.
But even if you are afraid, even if you have made all the preparations, using various artifacts, and trying to split the work and rest time of the brothers and the two brothers, it is still time to come.
2 babies crying at the same time, falling to the ground and waking up, can't be coaxed, any comforting tools are useless... Each time it was coaxed to put one down and pick up the other, the one who had put it down cried again, going back and forth at least a dozen times.
△ The first time to take a baby independently, the years are quiet for 5 minutes
The crying was deafening and hit the heart, and when the mother's headache was cracked and she felt very painful, she could only speed up and quickly get one, so that the other would not be sad for too long.
Throughout the day, Freda couldn't stop and catch her breath until her teammates arrived home at night and took over everything immediately.
Freda had to go through 2 days a week (in March and April, Lao Zhang needed to go to the company 2 days a week) and lasted for more than a month.
It was really a pair of hands that could not handle two babies crying at the same time
I had to feed the baby artifact
Freda has a good temper and is patient enough, and there are 2 times in the middle of which she can't control her mentality, and she can't help but lie on the bed and cry with the baby.
When she couldn't hold on, Freda called Lao Zhang and yelled for him to hurry home.
The healing effect of time is perfectly reflected at this time. When Lao Zhang rushed to his home, it was more than 1 hour later. The babies have either been coaxed by their mothers or they are crying and tired to sleep.
The baby is quiet, the temper of the baby mother has also passed, and Lao Zhang still sees a thoughtful and gentle wife. However, this tired wife will ask: Tomorrow you are at home, right? I don't care about anything, I want to sleep. And Lao Zhang will obediently nod.
Sometimes, Dad Lao Zhang will also take the baby alone under the challenge of the weekend, which is a very sassy thing, give Freda a holiday, go out to watch a movie, go shopping, and give a long-term highly nervous mother a period of solitude.
From the sword to the harmony and intimacy, standing in the middle are "two people who know how to understand each other." Isn't this the secret of the sweet couple relationship?
Freda said that the key to fighting a good battle is that two people standing in the united front must not complain to each other.
You know my hard work at home, I know your tiredness at work. Hug each other and comfort the one who broke down (just me
）。
These bits and pieces of mutual love and encouragement are just small things in daily life. However, it is such a small daily routine that easily dissolves the tense nerves of two people.
So, you see, this hard-working post-90s mother, with black circles on her face, this work hour to work, after work to cook rice with a baby's novice father, busy.
They were still smiling comfortably. Postpartum depression or something, it doesn't exist at all!
Challenges make people stronger
After May, Singapore entered the WFH phase, where teammates worked from home every day, and the two of them fought together, which was much easier.
The mother is responsible for recording the children's feeding and sleeping schedules, and is also responsible for assigning work.
Bathing, touching, parent-child reading, big motor fine motor exercises... Mom came and tried not to affect Dad's work and meetings.
When the little brothers are sleepy and hungry, their parents will go up together, one bottle to feed one, and one person is responsible for sleeping. The division of labor is clear, simple and efficient.
Of course, after the stinky fart washing, the baby mother's reaction is a bit big, as long as the father is at home, give the stinky aftermath, it is his job!
△ Mom and Dad are Superman
Even if 2 couples have twins alone, it seems to be relaxed. Life is like this, when you challenge the impossible step by step, you also slowly become stronger.
Refusing the help of their families and not asking the maid, Freda and Lao Zhang personally took the baby, and soon understood the children's habits and formulated a suitable set of schedules:
"When to eat, when to play, when to sleep, the biological clock is pinched to death." I slept from more than two months, and slept from 10:30 p.m. to 6 or 7 a.m. We were able to rest well in the evening, barely using night milk. ”
However, when they occasionally chat, they will still sigh that the young people with two first-born children during the epidemic dare to complete this big thing overseas without anyone's help. From pregnancy to babybirth, to raising a baby is like a novice village doing a mission, all the way to upgrade and fight monsters, open the next level of the unknown.
I think I'm still pretty good!
Shin Mom's words
From pregnancy, childbirth to confinement, taking care of the baby are all taken care of by the new parents themselves, and the child's work and rest are so good, everything is in order, Freda and teammates Lao Zhang, really quite cattle!
The epidemic has made life difficult, but also let us find our strong ability to take care of our own lives. Dig more and grind and polish, we can find that we are all sparkling gold! Can't beat me, will eventually make me stronger, let's work together to challenge!