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"Today I met a soul, a petite and weak soul. Through the fence, I saw this imprisoned soul blooming. ”
The film Mary and the Nun is based on a true story that takes place in a French convent in the 19th century. Douban score 8.0, it was released in 2014, has won the Lucano Film Festival Plaza Night Unit Special Award, is also a good review in the international authoritative media.
It is a biographical film directed by ChampieryErmes and starring queen IsabéCarre, which mainly tells the story of how Mary, a deaf, mute and blind little girl (played by Eliana Riva, who was selected from a deaf institution), grows up and transforms with the help of a nun (Played by Isabecaré).
Although this niche French literary film has a gentle rhythm, few lines, and cannot match commercial films at the box office, the thinking and understanding it brings to the audience has a value that cannot be ignored. Today we will talk about how this film that exudes the brilliance of humanity teaches us to live with the world with love.
<h1>1. Love allows us to learn to accept our imperfections</h1>
In the first part of the film, the deaf and blind 14-year-old Mary is sent to the monastery by her father with a rope, hoping to learn the basic skills of dressing and bathing here. At this time, this shawl and disheveled girl, facing the strange environment and nun, was as rough as a beast, and no one could come near her. At the beginning of the film, Mary always seems to have endless strength to rebel against the world and all those who want to touch her.
Mary longs for a quiet life like a normal girl, wants to urgently understand the world, but at the same time she feels that she is imperfect and unacceptable, so that there is a strong conflict in her heart.
Psychoanalyticism believes that anxiety is the product of inner conflict.
On the other hand, the attitude of Mary's parents also made Mary further deepen this denial of self. Remember at the beginning of the film, when her father first sent Mary to the monastery, he tied her with a rope. When the nun went to pick up Mary and return to the convent, her father also handcuffed her to the nun's hands.
Psychology believes that whether a child accepts himself or not depends on whether they feel accepted by their parents. Research shows that by the age of eight, we all lack the ability to conceive out of a clear, separate self from our parents. If parents are stingy in conveying the message that we are "good enough" or "accepted," then our perception of ourselves in the later stages of our growth is largely contradictory.
Mary's parents undoubtedly loved her, but they were helpless and helpless in the face of Mary's disability. Only Nun Margaret, when she first saw Mary, was sure that it was a radiant soul. Despite her serious lung disease, the nun insisted on teaching Mary sign language herself, only because she did not want her to suffer the pain of confinement.
Each of us should understand that the so-called imperfections and imperfections are not terrible, but the terrible thing is that our hearts have never faced them squarely. With selfless love and encouragement, the nun gradually accepted her imperfections and saw where she shone. It is love that makes our hearts no longer empty; it is love that gives us enough courage to accept, perfect, and enrich ourselves.
<h1>2. Love reconciles us to the world</h1>
"If the landscape of life is destined to be pitch black, let us hold each other's hands and bravely step forward."
The middle part of the film shows how Mary went from resisting the world to integrating into it. Mary, in the beginning, was undoubtedly eager to feel the world, which can be felt from the picture of her playing in the water by the river. But in the face of the unfriendly "meet and greet" of the other children in the convent, she could only continue to fight against the outside world by dropping plates and not combing her hair. With the nun's patience and love for her, Mary began to understand that it was better to be reconciled with the world than to be confrontational.
She took the initiative to take a towel to bathe herself, she put on her shoes and clothes, and stood in the snow touching the snowflakes, which was the beginning of her acceptance of the world. It wasn't until she learned to draw a knife with her hand, to express "I love you" to her mom and dad, and to spell out her name with block blocks, that we knew she was truly integrated into the world.
Helen Keller: "I will try to take the light in the eyes of others as my sun, the music in other people's ears as my music, and the smile on other people's lips as my happiness." ”
It reminds me of the real-life version of Mary— the famous writer and educator Helen Keller. She also lost her hearing, vision and language skills from an early age. Helen's mentor, Sullivan, encouraged her to learn to overcome physical defects with tenacious perseverance and taught her to communicate with her family in sign language. Helen's temper was no longer grumpy, and she learned to read and speak. We don't know that Helen decided to reconcile with the world from that moment, but what we do know is that Helen eventually got into Harvard University and became a world-renowned writer and educator.
Without the love given by her mentor Sullivan, how could Helen Keller let go of fear and confrontation and feel this colorful world? As she says, "Love can't be touched, but you can feel the sweetness she brings." ”
Whether it is Mary in the film or Helen Keller in reality, they have gained incomparably precious love, and these great loves have allowed them to get rid of the darkness of life and finally shake hands with the world. The course of each person's life is unique, and we must accept this gift of fate and learn to reconcile with the world. Only by loving the past and the present, sweetness and pain together, can we make our lives comfortable and complete.
<h1>3. Love makes us not afraid of death, so that life can continue</h1>
"I am so happy to see Mary again, the daughter of my soul, the light of life."
In the second half of the film, when her friendship with the nun is deepening, the nun collapses on the hospital bed due to a serious lung disease. Sad Mary cried and said, "I won't allow you to die!" The nun told her that death is not the end and that "love does not disappear with death". The nun gave Mary the last lesson of her life with her life, and also let Mary know how to pass on her love and help more people.
Writer Ran Crevie said, "Knowing death early will make life profound." The philosopher Sawatl said, "Only by knowing death can we better understand life." However, in the education that most people receive from an early age, life education is missing. We always shy away from talking about death because it brings fear. But if death is inevitable after all, then every time we think about death, it is a reflection on life itself. Love is the only being that can overcome fear, and if we believe in the value of love, then the fear of death disappears. When we receive love from others and pass it on endlessly, we will understand that death is not the end, but another form of existence.
Each of us is on the road of saying goodbye to others, how to say goodbye, in order to leave no regrets. How to take their love for us and love others is the ultimate value of love. Even though sadness cannot be completely said goodbye, we can still use love to make our lives shine with dazzling brilliance, and this is the warm power that this film brings.
<h1>epilogue</h1>
At the end of the film, Mary holds flowers in her hand and walks slowly to the cemetery in the sun. She knelt before the nun's cross and "spoke" in her own way: "I want to be friends with you, you and I are more than friends." With the long footage and monologue in front of the cemetery, Mary finally learned to accept herself, learned to reconcile with the world, understood the meaning of life, and finally became what the nun wanted her to be.
Albert Einstein said, "There is an endless source of energy in the universe, and this source of energy is love." Love is light, love is energy, love is God, love is life force, love is gravity, love is an endless source of energy, love is the most powerful force, because of love, we live. ”