A mother said on the Internet that her child is a first grade based on zero, and after the start of school, she enrolled her child in an after-school cram class, and the score test in the cram school was above 90 points each time, and the couple was quite satisfied with this score. The other children who went to the cram school together scored 94 points, but they were scolded by their mothers. Later, the couple learned that many parents were very dissatisfied with their children's more than 90 points.
The following figure is the distribution of the results of the 2020 Shanghai Secondary School Entrance Examination, and we were surprised to find that the vast majority of children's English and math scores are between 140-150 points, and very few between 115-120 points. In the past, we always said that the college entrance examination is a one-way bridge, and the score gap between students is getting smaller and smaller. But now, the inner volume has been in elementary school.
In today's society, education and further education are seen as ways to "change the destiny of life". Further education is a mechanism for the selection of talents, which is competitive. Therefore, children's grades and rankings are the most concerned issues for parents. However, if parents pay too much attention to grades and cause their children's physical and psychological effects to be adversely affected, this is the parent's dereliction of duty.
There is such a news: At Pingnan Primary School in Shanghai's Minhang District, a fifth-grade student jumped from the tenth floor to his death because he was overwhelmed by his studies, and his mother cried that it was all my fault, which really made people very sad!
So what should parents do?
First of all, treat your child's learning and try to do so.
Children from elementary school, junior high school, high school to college, this is a process of continuous growth, not a matter of one or two grade rankings, not a good test on the pride and complacency, a bad test on the head. Be sure to help children build a sense of lifelong learning,
Shift your mindset and don't focus too much on test scores.
Secondly, specific to the learning problems, help children sort out the knowledge points.
If parents have this ability, they can help their children in learning, guide their children to start from the textbook, and better grasp the learning knowledge. If parents do not have the ability to do so, they can use the power of extracurricular tutoring agencies to help children check for omissions and fill in the gaps, rather than comparing them with other children.
Third, learning through edutainment will make it easier for children to accept.
Ma Yun once said at the "Rural Teacher Award" activity that in fact, the assessment of education should not only look at how high the students' scores are, but also look at how much interest students have in learning and how much happiness they have in learning.
Parents, dominated by fear and anxiety, are the biggest obstacle to education. The original intention of education should be to make a person a better version of himself.