In The Silent Confession, it says:
"All suffering will pass, learn to reconcile with yourself and others, and let yourself and others go."
From the beginning of the show, the Zhanghe couple were like the male and female protagonists of a sadistic love TV series, obviously loving each other and hurting each other.
Zhang He has always wanted to ask a question that he has not loved himself in the past ten years, and Guo Keyu has always avoided and responded in the most decent way.
I have to say that among the three ladies in the show, my favorite is Guo Keyu, she is not too elegant, she always gives others the most comfortable posture, she is not delicate nor contrived, and her heart is determined.
Zhang He really liked his eyes at first, the kind of gaze that came into your heart at a glance, affectionate and lonely, making people feel a sense of compassion, he was delicate and spiritual, as if he was really a good husband candidate.
In the end, they all chose to get out of the car, and Sun Yi in the observation group said with tears: "Storm crying." ”
And in my opinion, they didn't get out of the car because they wanted to get back together, but they put each other down, and I let you go and let yourself go.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="12" > decade is a mistake</h1>
Zhang He and Guo Keyu are the only couple who have been divorced, married for ten years, divorced for one year, they are very sure from the beginning that there is no love between the two parties, but is this really the case?
Zhang He had been avoiding communication with Guo Keyu at the beginning, leaving Guo Keyu alone in the wind, as if this love Zhang He was a person who had been disappointed.
At the marriageable age, Guo Keyu and Zhang He had a relationship because of the drama, and then flashed marriage in a month, and they had children a year after marriage.
How this ten-year marriage came to an end, in the words of Guo Keyu:
"He can't get into my world, and I don't want to go to his world."
Because of lifestyle, personality, and other reasons, they gradually drifted away, did not tear each other apart, and calmly chose the end.
In this way, because of no love, this flash marriage ended.
Shen Yifei said:
"Don't overestimate how much you tolerate a married life without love."
In a word, it seems to explain all the mistakes of this marriage.
Zhang He also said that he had left early if he had known, so why did he make a child?
Marrying for the sake of getting married, or love at first sight, seems to be known only to these two people.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="29" > how we can understand love</h1>
At the beginning of the journey, Guo Keyu kept talking in order to break the silence, and Zhang He did not say a word.
And the state of breaking the two of them is because Zhang He overcame his fear of heights and shouted at Guo Keyu on the cardioid bridge:
"Thanks for the previous ten years! In the days to come, you must live as you like! ”
"Me too, and I'm going to live like I thought I did!"
"And our son, Mom and Dad love you forever!" Daddy for you, I can stand here, you see, I can stand here! ”
Far away, we couldn't see the tears that were shed clearly, and this scene was not only to see them cry, but also to see me cry.
The ten years we have gone through are true, saying that not loving is a contest of love, not going into each other's world is not anyone's fault, the wrong is that we always go in the wrong direction, opening the door in the opposite direction.
If there is no love, how can a literary and artistic young woman like Guo Keyu enter marriage, she is sensitive and pays attention to feelings, and when she decides to marry Zhang He, I think she should be willing.
Zhang He has always been looking for an answer, and the answer exists in the bits and pieces of their ten years together, what a determination a woman has chosen to marry and have children with a person at the peak of her career.
Even Ni Ping felt that it was a pity that Guo Keyu, who was very popular at that time, had gone, and it turned out to be married, which was a pity.
It's not that they don't love, it's that they've been battling their own self-esteem, and whoever opens their mouth will lose, so they become more and more lonely again and again, and slowly close their hearts.
"It's often self-esteem that dusts true love."
Whenever he mentions the past ten years, Guo Keyu will burst into tears, it is true that he has loved, and it is true that he has let go, because he is still the father of the child.
They have such a tacit understanding during the journey, from painting to choosing answers, it is the same, they have all loved each other in their own way, deeply branded in their minds, but this way is not what the other party wants.
Just like Guo Keyu once sang in a song:
"How do we understand love?"
Desperately accept the hurt
Maybe one day
The mind is as calm as the sea
Not easy to swell
Until the right person comes
.....”
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="54" > love is not incompatible with separation</h1>
"In a long life, love and separation are not incompatible."
They all finally chose to get out of the car, and Guo Keyu's crying and explanation was because he wanted to give Zhang He an answer, an answer that Zhang He had in mind.
It's not that people who really want to hurt, but who have been riding a carousel, are destined to chase each other, but they are always separated.
In the thirty-six questions that followed, Guo Keyu cried and said:
"Thank you for protecting me very well in the past ten years, you can let me read books and movies at home without worry, it's a luxury."
For the other party's efforts, I am grateful, but leaving is really letting go.
Zhang He also no longer wondered whether ten years was a ridiculous, because the answer was no longer important, and giving and being paid were relative, not more true, because when they really loved someone, they would not care.
They let go of the past and reached a reconciliation.
In the future, they will communicate in a new identity, they are relatives, but they are no longer love.
Long Yingtai said:
"Once believed in love, and then I learned that love must be transformed into affection to last, but the love that is transformed into affection is like an ice cube in a cup of water, is it still that exquisite ice cube?" 」