Author |Inspector (1532 words in total, about 4 minutes read)
Recently, an incident of "mixed sleeping between men and women" during the lunch break in a kindergarten has aroused widespread heated discussions among netizens.
When the children were napping in the kindergarten, a girl kicked the quilt away, and the boy lying next to her was kind enough to help her cover the quilt.
The teacher thought this scene was very warm, but the parents exploded after seeing it.
Parents think:
"How can you let a boy and a girl lie together? How can you protect your child's privacy by sleeping like this?"
"Now affected by TV dramas and short videos, children are precocious, so it is easy to have problems sleeping in this way."
"Usually parents let their children protect their privacy, but if they sleep like this in kindergarten, their gender awareness will be confused."
Although the boy's behavior is very gentlemanly and warm, it is really inappropriate to let men and women sleep together.
At the age of 3-6 years, children have already formed a preliminary gender consciousness, and they are very curious about the differences between the opposite sex and themselves.
If teachers and parents do not guide and educate children in a timely manner to instill correct gender knowledge, it is easy for children to explore on their own out of curiosity.
Once you commit an act of violating a child of the opposite sex, being criticized and taught by the other parent's parents will not only hurt others, but also plant a shadow on the child's psychology.
Therefore, it is very important for parents and teachers to correctly guide their children to establish correct gender awareness, protect their children, and let them have personal privacy.
1. Respect children's basic physiological needs
1. Acknowledging that gender differences are normal
We need to realize that children's curiosity and doubts about gender differences are normal physiological phenomena and should not be avoided.
Every child will have questions about the biological differences between men and women, and if we don't mention this and prevaricate, it will only increase the child's confusion and anxiety.
On the contrary, it is important to use easy-to-understand language to answer your child's doubts and send a signal that "this is normal", so that children can naturally accept the difference and not be too curious or explore it on their own.
2. Cultivate basic respect for the child's body
We need to educate our children to learn to respect and protect their bodies, which is a very necessary lesson in the process of children's growth.
In the process of growing up, children will inevitably encounter some inappropriate behaviors of others.
If they don't have a concept of personal privacy and physical boundaries, there is a risk of passive harm.
Therefore, we need to teach children from an early age a basic respect for their own bodies, know which intimate parts should be protected, and how to say "no" to reject inappropriate behavior from others.
2. Cultivate a good sense of gender
1. Correct gender stereotypes
We should not indoctrinate our children with any gender stereotypes.
For example, boys can't wear pink clothes or cry;
Girls have to have long hair, do housework, and so on.
Each child should develop according to his or her own interests and characteristics, and should not be influenced by stereotypes that "boys and girls should be how they should be".
If we have too many gender requirements for our children's behaviors and hobbies, it is easy to hinder our children's progress and innovation in thinking.
If children's self-awareness and development are restricted, it will be difficult for them to realize their potential and will affect their future development.
2. Establish a correct view of gender equality
We need to cultivate in our children a correct sense of gender equality from an early age.
In addition to correcting gender stereotypes, we should also take practical actions to teach children that everyone, whether male or female, should be treated with equal respect and fairness.
For example, in the division of household chores, it is necessary to treat everyone equally, and avoid solidifying certain jobs as "patents" of a certain gender.
In addition, you should also pay attention to your own language with your children, and do not use sexist words to avoid affecting your child's self-esteem and forming a wrong consciousness.
3. Empathy education is more important than physiological knowledge
1. Develop mutual respect and empathy
Teaching children to respect each other and have empathy is more important than just physical education.
For 3-6 year olds, it is not enough to just tell them about some physiological structures and physiological needs, because because of their age, they may not have a deep understanding of some knowledge.
It is more critical to cultivate their respect and empathy for the opposite sex. Let your child realize that everyone should be treated equally and deserve respect, regardless of gender.
Only by cultivating their empathy from an early age can they truly develop the right sense of gender.
2. Pay attention to parent-child communication and companionship
Good communication and companionship between parents and children is the foundation for cultivating children's healthy gender awareness.
There is no doubt that educating children about gender begins at home.
If parents are willing to spend a certain amount of time patiently communicating with their children every day, keep abreast of their children's recent situation, and give correct guidance and psychological counseling in time, they can avoid their children's wrong perception of gender.
On the contrary, if parents neglect communication and companionship for a long time, children can easily obtain information from other inappropriate channels, resulting in consciousness bias and even inappropriate behavior.
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The enlightenment of children's gender consciousness is by no means achieved overnight, and we need to give correct guidance in all aspects of life, and subtly influence children with love and patience.
It is particularly important that we establish the correct concept of gender equality and educate our children to respect everyone's basic rights and privacy, protect themselves and others.
Only by forming a correct sense of gender from an early age can children grow up healthily, happily and safely, and have a happy and beautiful future.
Parents, what are your thoughts on this matter?
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