Nowadays, it is very common for the elderly to help take care of the baby.
However, how can you bring a good baby? Many old people don't think about it, and they complain that their children put too much pressure on them and that their children are not filial.
As a child, he has reached middle age, and he must be focusing on money, but the old people in the family are not strong, and no matter how much money there is, they can't do anything.
It is not enough for middle-aged people to make money, but also for the elderly to play a leading role in family style and child-rearing and housekeeping.
From a practical point of view, many old parents will do the following things when they go to their children's homes to take care of their children, and let the family fail while contributing.
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The old man always goes to play mahjong and square dance, leaving the children aside.
With a baby, running with the baby all day long is indeed boring.
In order to kill time, or the elderly for their hobbies, they will take the baby to play mahjong and dance at the same time.
But people can't be dual-minded, staring at the mahjong table and dancing, they won't stare at the children, and the hidden dangers will come.
On the "Hefei Traffic Broadcasting" network platform, it is said that an old man in Nanchang lost his grandson because he played mahjong.
At about three o'clock in the afternoon, someone told the old man that the child had gone out.
But the old man was still playing mahjong and did not leave the mahjong table until six o'clock in the afternoon. As a result, the child was nowhere to be found.
At this moment, the old man is really anxious, and the family is even more anxious.
At seven or eight o'clock in the evening, a well-wisher found the child and sent him to the police station. Otherwise, the consequences would be severe.
In fact, it is more dangerous for the elderly to go square dancing at night and leave the children aside. After all, under the darkness of the night, no one knows what will happen.
In fact, mahjong parlors are not a good place and will bring people to ruin. After all, there is some gambling behavior.
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The old man is very superstitious, and when he encounters something, he asks for great immortals everywhere.
Some old people who come to the city from the countryside to bring their babies always like to use the rural set to solve some family problems.
That is, when the child is sick, the first time is not to go to the hospital, but to think of some rural home remedies, or to ask Daxian.
What's even more terrifying is that the child was sick for a few days, and it didn't get better, so the old man went to Daxian with confidence, thinking that he was bewitched by something.
Superstitious behavior will delay the disease.
Of course, there are also some families, husbands and wives quarrel, career is not going well, business losses and so on. The old man also secretly went to find Daxian, and spent a sum of money because of it, and he was deceived without realizing it, thinking that it was a disaster to eliminate wealth.
When a family lights candles here, incense there, paper money is burned, and strange things are placed at the door, the atmosphere is weird, and the mood of this middle-aged person becomes more and more uncomfortable, and the career becomes more and more uncomfortable.
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The old man is very virtuous, and instigates the child to do things that lack virtue.
There is a word called "subtle".
If the old man's moral character is very bad, then when he takes the baby, he will also infect the child.
For example, an old man with a child walks away from a neighbor's house. The child does not understand and asks why this is happening.
The old man said, "Don't worry about the affairs of adults. ”
Next, the child learns, or the child begins to hate the elderly.
For example, a child is instigated by an old man to take away a certain toy; Or if the child loses the pencil, the old man will let the child steal someone else's pencil as well.
All kinds of wrong education will make children have the habit of lacking morality from an early age.
"The Education of Children's Personality" says: "Education needs to shape and improve the personality. ”
It is not only as simple as managing children's food and drink and safety, but also managing the control and cultivation of children's daily behaviors.
Once the elderly lack morality, it means that the third generation of the family has also begun to become wasted.
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The elderly like to find fault with their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, which leads to the disharmony of their children's marriages.
On Zhihu, netizen "yz304" said that she was a daughter-in-law who married from Shanxi to Anhui.
Since arriving in the village, her parents-in-law have been disgusted in various ways, thinking that she is lazy and has no vision.
In normal times, she helps her parents-in-law do farm work together, contract fish ponds, feed pigs and mow grass, etc.
Of course, when the adults are doing farm work, the children are also around. It belongs to the model of daughter-in-law, father-in-law and mother-in-law with a baby.
The father-in-law and mother-in-law think that the daughter-in-law is not good at work and socializes. In the process of selling fish, he didn't arrange for his daughter-in-law to eat.
Netizens are really going to pick on their sons, but their husbands persuade them not to be angry.
How do you look at it, in this family, the father-in-law and mother-in-law are very strong, and the daughter-in-law and son are very uncomfortable.
Several generations are under one roof, if the old man likes to be picky, then the daughter-in-law and son-in-law are all faulty, and they can often turn over old accounts. There is no way to live this day.
In case the old man helps to take care of the baby, he also repeatedly interferes in the marriage of the children, resulting in the divorce of the children. This help is a disservice and hurts the family.
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The elderly spend money generously and cultivate the luxury habits of their children.
We often say that the elderly with babies have relatives of the next generation.
Yes, one old and one young, it is indeed cute.
But the compassion of the elderly, at some point, can also bring bad results.
Retired old people, old people who have a lot of savings, pick and search by themselves, but they are especially generous to their grandchildren.
Whatever the grandchildren want, the old people will be satisfied. Even if it costs hundreds at a time, the old man will not refuse. What the old man bought, he also told the child not to tell his parents.
Over time, the child has the habit of being a loser, stretching out his hands for clothes, opening his mouth for food, and disgusted that the treatment given to him by his family is not good enough.
As the saying goes, "A loving mother raises a failed child." "As everyone knows, grandparents will also raise their grandchildren.
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Old parents, about the matter of bringing a baby, either they don't care, and if they want to take the baby, they must bear the corresponding responsibility.
For the elderly who are left behind in rural areas, if there are grandchildren left behind at home, they must also shoulder the responsibility.
Children are the future of the family, and a slight difference is the evil result of "being rich for three generations".
In terms of life, take care of your children's food and drink, be simple, and don't respond to requests.
In terms of education, the education of reading is handed over to the children, and the daily education should establish virtue.
In terms of safety, follow tirelessly and remind your child not to be careless.
In terms of spirituality, it is necessary to keep pace with the times, abandon bad habits, and bring new fashions.
When people are old, with a baby, they are old and strong.
When people are old, holding the baby, they are several generations in the same house.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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