Some people say: No matter how old their children are, parents are always worried about them. That's right.
When children are young, worry about whether they are married or not. But after they really get married, they worry about whether they are doing well.
This is a true portrayal of many families.
In fact, the success of a child's marriage is sometimes directly related to the upbringing of parents.
These 3 rules are very accurate!
01 A marriage that suppresses self-esteem too much is unhappy
In reality, some parents have been strict with their children since childhood, for fear that their children will not become talents.
As a result, all kinds of criticism and suppression, for fear that their children will not improve.
As everyone knows, this greatly destroys the self-esteem of children. has laid hidden dangers for future marriage and career.
Here's a notable example.
Some children are not bad at their own education and work. Why did you find a terrible partner?
Or rather, why are their spouses, so bad, yet not divorced?
The reason is that in the hearts of the children, the two of them are matched.
Because when parents were young, they often hit their children, causing their children to not be able to accurately evaluate themselves, but to look down on themselves and lower themselves to the dust.
When he grows up, even if someone treats him a little kindly, he will fall in love with each other. This is the result of his low opinion on himself.
Moreover, after marriage, he also suppressed himself, tried his best to please each other, and did a lot of things he didn't want to do. lead the other party to belittle him at will.
This kind of marriage has lost its equal dignity, and it is no wonder that it can be happy.
In reality, in the process of raising their children, parents must quit this kind of critical thinking.
Look at your children objectively, instead of blindly suppressing them.
Otherwise it is easy to cause tragedy in their marriage.
02 Can't communicate
In reality, if parents rarely communicate well with each other.
And their way of educating their children is relatively simple and rude, and they all give orders.
Then it is obvious that the children will not communicate.
This is a big taboo in marriage.
For example, husband and wife rarely really communicate and talk about problems in life.
Then, it will cause the wife's contribution to be ignored by the husband. The husband's hard work is also ignored by the wife.
Two people, as if wrestling, have a kind of confrontational existence.
Instead of being a family, they live happily.
In reality, a good marriage needs to express love and care.
We need to discuss and solve problems together.
And without communication, all this will cease to exist.
Or, cold violence. Either that, the marriage ends directly.
03 Parents' patience with bad marriages
In reality, suppose that in a family, parents have been enduring a bad marriage.
Then the children may see it, and they may also hear it. They will also be immersed in a bad marriage and will not be able to extricate themselves.
There will be no stop loss at all. Causing pain in life.
For example, in some families, the mother endures the father very badly. Even if my father has done a lot of wrong things, he can't forgive.
But the mother still insisted on this bad marriage.
So, will a daughter follow her mother's example and do the same in her own bad marriage?
She will lack the courage to end a bad marriage. Rather, tolerate a bad partner.
In reality, parents' marital attitudes and practices will greatly affect their children. Even in the same vein.
Therefore, it is very important for parents to correct their marital problems in a timely manner.
This is a good example for children. Don't take it lightly!