People in this life, often in the game.
When I was young, I was better than my own education, and what company I entered.
When you are middle-aged, you have better grades than your children, the size of your house, whether your car is expensive, and whether you are in good shape.
It can be said that people basically spend their lives in comparison, and there is no moment of stopping.
It's a sense of competition in the flesh and bones. It is also because people have to compare and confirm whether they are successful or not.
In fact, when people are over 50, they begin to enter the aging period, and their careers have also entered a downhill path. At this time, you will find that it is the child who fights in life.
01 Children can bring hope to life
Do you feel this way? When I think of my parents, I always feel old. But when I think of children, I am full of hope.
This is because children tend to be young and energetic. In life, they still have all kinds of possibilities.
They may go to work all over the world, or even make a career to realize their unfinished wishes.
They carry a lot of hope.
Therefore, when people are over fifty, they are children.
For example, children go to college, maybe go on to further education, or work for a large company.
Even went abroad, with a high degree of education, and the income was worth several years.
These things, when you think about it, make people feel full of hope. It's not like our own life, which is already full of boredom.
That's the difference.
When people reach fifty, they are actually tired of life. Most of the time, we're struggling with boredom.
I have long lost a lot of possibilities in my life. But children are different.
When I have children, I feel motivated. That's it.
02 Children are sometimes more intimate than their spouses
In reality, children sometimes behave far better than our spouses.
This is one of the most direct reasons why we love children.
For example, in some families, children know and understand our hardships.
Even if we are sick, they will take care of us. And the spouse may have long since ignored it, or whatever.
This distinction is obvious.
People over 50 years old, sometimes see through the coldness of their spouse, and they will feel that it is more reliable to have children.
Therefore, many people are willing to invest infinitely in their children. That's why too.
More recognition of children and denial of spouses.
03 I feel that my child has grown up
In reality, when a child grows up, it is a matter of an instant. In addition, now that information is developed, many children are actually more agile than us.
Their abilities, their cognition, are growing very fast.
There are even times when we know more than we know and are more capable than we are. Dealing with problems is also more powerful.
When people reach fifty, sometimes they have to rely on their children for their lives.
For example, in life, many things rely on children, which is faster and more convenient.
Buying things to see a doctor and ordering travel services all rely on children.
Many children know more and are more able to keep up with social trends. That's it.
It makes people feel very reliable.
In reality, when people are over fifty, many people's hope in life is children. The focus is also on children.
On the one hand, it is also because of the boring life of oneself and the loss of many possibilities.
On the other hand, it is the child, which is full of vitality. It makes people feel invested, and there may be a reward. These are the direct causes.
Even so, I hope that every parent who has this wish will have something to gain.