Halfway through the semester, many parents around me talked about their children, and their faces were full of sadness:
My son writes homework and brushes up on exercises until late at night every day, and sleeps later than others, but the learning effect is just not up.
Flipping through my daughter's exercise book, I wrote every question and marked a lot of key points, why didn't I see the effect?
Every time he took his children to visit the bookstore, he took the initiative to choose exercise books and essay collections, but he almost failed the exam.
What went wrong?
The child is obviously very serious and hardworking, but the result is not satisfactory.
A special class teacher who has been teaching in a key middle school for more than 20 years pointed out sharply:
"Learning this matter, never look at the surface effort, some children fall into the trap of 'ineffective learning' without knowing it, and are still intoxicated with the self-touching of their own efforts, which is a pity."
Check yourself quickly, whether your child has these 4 ineffective learning performances, and if so, change it quickly.
Meet a junior high school child.
Study diligently, hard and conscientious, and always stay up late at home every day to review until more than 12 o'clock in the morning.
From the beginning of this year to the present, it has been more than 4 months, but the grades have not improved significantly, and they have been hovering at the middle level of the class.
He thinks that he doesn't spend enough time studying and thinks that he can catch up with others by getting up early at five o'clock, reading as many books as possible, memorizing more words, and brushing more questions.
But it still didn't work out.
After talking to him, I found out that he had an average foundation, and he didn't keep up with his studies in the first and second years of junior high school, and he spent a lot of time writing homework.
What is not finished during the day, all piled up until the evening, after dinner and bath, play with the mobile phone for a while, listen to music, the time is gone all of a sudden, and you can only rely on staying up late to force yourself to study.
Although he was in a bad state of mind the next day, he didn't dare to relax and relied on drinking coffee to refresh himself.
In this situation, he obviously fell into the trap of the concept that "learning achievement is directly proportional to spending more time".
Simply thinking that the grades are not improving because "I don't work hard enough", so I prolong the study time, but the result is to ignore the quality and effect issues.
Teacher Kuaima, an expert in adolescent learning strategies, mentioned in the book:
If the improvement of a child's grades is in exchange for a large extension of the study time, he will usually study harder and his grades will not be stable.
Especially when children are promoted to higher grades, the amount of homework and learning difficulty are constantly increasing, and the time is limited, and the more they learn, the more they collapse.
A true master of learning, who pays more attention to the learning effect and knows how to improve his performance by improving efficiency.
Instead of thinking "study for a few more hours", start with "study efficiently for half an hour".
Put down your phone, stay away from all external factors that will affect and distract you, and focus on your scheduled study tasks.
After half an hour of studying, relax appropriately and summarize how well you have just learned, what you have done well, and where you need to make adjustments.
Give yourself some positive feedback on what you do well, improve your status, and then focus on completing the rest of your learning.
A mother asks for help online and doesn't know how to help her daughter study.
At present, my daughter is in the first year of junior high school, with many subjects and a large amount of homework, but her learning status is no different from that of primary school.
If you get up early, you can still memorize English words, but when you are tired late, your homework is sloppy, and you can directly copy the answers on the exercises.
I was afraid that she wouldn't be able to learn anything if she continued like this, so I bought her a learning machine, and invited someone to teach her at home on weekends to make up for her weak subjects.
However, the effect is mediocre.
Chinese and mathematics are seriously biased, and if the results are not good, they are even more resistant to studying, and every time they put the composition and application questions at the end.
The mother is very distressed, her daughter is lying in front of the desk all day long to study, and she is also diligent in flipping books, and she looks very serious, why can't she learn well.
Remembering the words of an education expert, he said:
There is a kind of ineffective learning, which is thinking about math in the head and looking at English with the eyes.
The dilemma of most children is that they do not have an overall plan for their studies.
Always think of it, learn it, learn it for a while if it's in a good state, and put it on the shelf if it's not in a good state.
He even did the wrong thing at the right time, using fragmented time to do in-depth reading, while wasting a large chunk of time on learning shallow and scattered knowledge.
Writer Liu Chao emphasized the importance of "planning" when talking about the secret of excellent students learning well.
Those who have good grades will make an exact study plan for themselves, allocate and use time scientifically, and arrange learning content and activities reasonably.
A top five junior high school student has made clear his semester goals and plans before the start of school, specific to monthly and weekly.
For example, if you have a weak foundation in reading and writing, you should arrange more time to memorize vocabulary and form sentences.
The reading materials also range from essays required in class, to essays, foreign short stories, and long classical Chinese......
In general, it is to be clear where you need to spend more time learning and give priority to tackling it.
Start with small goals, finish them, and progress to larger learning goals.
Learn to have a systematic way of thinking, and the time spent and the hardships you have endured will not be wasted.
Some parents and children have heard that "reading" is the foundation for learning other subjects well, so they spend their time and energy reading books all day long.
Before the exam, he also engaged in surprise attacks, frantically memorizing vocabulary and sample essays.
As a result, he became a desperate Saburo, but he still did half the work.
There is a child like this, every time he engages in "sea of questions tactics", using the app to do questions in different subjects.
If you answer wrong, just look at the answer analysis, skip it if you understand it, and copy it into the wrong question book if you think it's useful, but it's basically gone.
As a result, the title was slightly changed, and he did it wrong again.
On the surface, it is important to learn a lot of repetitive actions and continuous accumulation, but if the knowledge only stays at "knowing" and "understanding", it does not analyze why it is the case and how to avoid mistakes next time.
Without thinking and precipitation, the grades will never go up.
There is a well-known saying in the Analects: If you learn without thinking, you will be reckless, and if you think without learning, you will die.
If you want to really learn knowledge and grasp the key points, you must put an end to rote memorization and repetitive useless learning.
Think while learning, and try to understand the content itself, so that you can learn and apply it, draw inferences from others, and integrate them.
When listening to the teacher's explanation in class, ask yourself "why does the teacher explain it this way", what is the same type of content, and the next time you encounter such knowledge points, can you understand it quickly.
As a parent, you should also pay more attention to your child's learning.
Find out what your child is learning on a regular basis and let him talk about the key points for you to listen to.
He even flipped through his homework book and mistake book and asked him to redo it to confirm whether he really grasped the key points of the difficulty.
For children who usually lack thinking exercises, encourage them not to rush to see the answers, but to think more and see if there are any other ideas or discoveries.
A class teacher said that people's brains are very lazy, and if they don't think, they will inevitably become rusty and rigid, and eventually their brains will become stupider.
Ask more questions, guide children to answer, and deliberately train children's brains, so that children's thinking ability can continue to improve and learn smartly.
I believe you have seen such children many times:
The textbook is neatly drawn with colorful highlighters and is pleasing to the eye, and you can't help but marvel at it.
During class, I couldn't take my eyes off the teacher, I remembered what the teacher said, and I wrote several class notes.
When I asked him if he would, he said "yes".
But when he asked him in turn, he couldn't answer, and the results of the exam were a mess.
This is the obvious "fake learning".
It seems that he is serious and hard-working, and spends more thought and effort in class than others, but in fact, he has not really entered the learning state.
I used a bunch of recording tools, but I just created the illusion that "I am learning";
Copying notes is purely a mechanical repetitive action;
Actively answering questions is more about repeating what others have said, and parroting it.
If you want to avoid your child's false participation in learning, you should guide your child to think more and express his or her own personal views and opinions.
Especially in the senior grades, the knowledge is more abstract and profound, the requirements for learning ability are higher, and the problem-solving ideas are more skillful.
Children must have enough digestion and processing of what they have learned, so as to transform it into their own knowledge.
When you encounter something you don't understand, actively ask questions and scrutinize repeatedly; In the process of solving questions, seek the skill and regularity of answering questions.
Treat the questions that are easy to make mistakes, summarize and analyze the reasons for the mistakes, and how to avoid them next time.
In this process, if the child is difficult, parents should actively participate in it and accompany the child to find out the problems and deficiencies exposed in the learning.
Hard work + hard work = good results.
Only by really thinking hard and striving to find a solution can we reap the desired breakthroughs and developments.
Dong Yuhui reminded countless parents in the live broadcast room: "There are a lot of children who are studying on vacation now. ”
So don't be deceived by your child's false learning status, and don't take it lightly at the stage of supervision and habit cultivation.
Spend time and energy to pay attention to your child's learning, and when you find that he has the above 4 "ineffective learning" states, adjust and correct them in time.
Teach your child how to learn in the right way, and lead him step by step to enjoy the joy of real learning.
I believe that children learn to think with their hearts, master methods and skills, and their motivation to learn will be awakened, and the more they learn, the more energetic they will become.