I like a quote:
In the world of adults, there is chaos in the heart, without saying a word, and seeing the vicissitudes of the world in the eyes.
When we are young, we often think that adult life should be hot and hot.
It wasn't until I experienced the trials and tribulations of life that I finally understood:
Fate is ruthless, people's hearts are unpredictable, the hustle and bustle will eventually be fleeting, and ordinary as yesterday is the normal state of life.
Gradually, a lot of things are becoming more and more unwanted, many reasons are becoming more and more unwilling to fight, and many things are becoming more and more unwanted.
No matter how many joys, sorrows, and sorrows you experience, you just want to experience it alone in silence, because that is the gap that belongs to you.
Perhaps, the greatest dignity of an adult is to be silent at the right time.
By chance, I saw blogger @木子 sharing his experience.
Muzi has been unemployed for half a year since September last year, and it is this half year that has taught her a valuable lesson.
Muzi has been working in a large factory since graduating from university, and her salary has been rising for ten years, making her the object of praise from her classmates and relatives.
However, Muzi never expected that a job loss made her instantly see the sinister hearts of people.
On the day Muzi completed the resignation procedures, he casually posted a circle of friends, lamenting that he had finally parted ways in the company for ten years.
As a result, the comment section was full of cynicism:
"Aren't you management? How can you still be unemployed? ”
"Ah, the big factory is so ruthless, it seems that it is better for our small company!"
"I used to let my children learn from you, and now it seems like that."
Muzi was so angry that her chest hurt, and she immediately decided to find a better job and shut up her mockers.
But she submitted hundreds of resumes successively, but she didn't find a suitable job, and Muzi couldn't help but complain to her girlfriend.
The best friend comforted and persuaded her on the surface, but turned around and laughed with others that she had become a jobless vagrant.
Muzi couldn't believe his ears, and ran to question his girlfriend, who said confidently: "You are a vagrant now!" ”
After being humiliated by her best friend, Muzi no longer wanted to tell anyone, and she began to study while looking for a job, while sharing her interview experience online.
In just three months, Muzi not only improved her spoken English, but also attracted nearly 100,000 fans.
Now Muzi has successfully obtained an offer from a well-known foreign company, and her income from the media is also very good, and the people who once laughed at her have nothing to say.
Kiko Inspiration Path:
When people are down, talk less and complain less, no one can empathize with you, the suffering you have experienced will only become a joke for others, and only by knowing how to accumulate strength in silence can you take yourself out of the predicament.
Yes, the world is not as friendly as it seems!
You think that complaining can be exchanged for sympathy, maybe all that awaits you is indifference;
You think that you can wait for help to ask for help, but perhaps all that awaits you is disappointment;
You think that you can get pity by complaining, but maybe all that awaits you is ridicule.
In the world of adults, there is no one to help them, but to cross by themselves.
Instead of complaining about publicity, it is better to remain silent, leave a trace of the last decency, and give it to your former self and respect you in the future.
When you're at a low point, you might as well quietly plump up your wings and make yourself stronger.
One day, when the east wind blows, you will be able to spread your wings again and ride the wind.
Someone once asked, "When should people be silent?" ”
One answer was very poignant: "When you are proud." ”
When you think about it, it is.
When people are proud, they are most likely to get carried away, and they are also the most likely to make noise.
Recently, I watched "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" again, and suddenly had a new understanding of Zhang Fei's death.
I used to think that Zhang Fei was a man who valued love and righteousness, and it was a pity that he died at the hands of a villain.
But looking at it now, I find that Zhang Fei's death seems sudden, but it is actually an inevitability.
Although Zhang Fei has all kinds of goodness, after he became a general, he was very violent to his subordinates.
Especially after learning of the death of his brother Guan Yu, he often beat and scolded his soldiers while drunk.
Later, in order to avenge Guan Yu, Zhang Fei asked his subordinates Fan Jiang and Zhang Da to prepare a white flag and armor for the whole battalion to commemorate Guan Yu, with a time limit of three days.
But it was difficult to get together so much equipment in three days, and Fan Jiang and Zhang Da hoped that Zhang Fei would be able to give him a few days.
Zhang Fei was immediately furious, not only had Fan Jiang and Zhang Da tied to a tree and whipped them, but also threatened: "If you don't prepare well tomorrow, you will have your heads!" ”
Fan Jiang and Zhang Da were beaten all over the body, thinking that they were dead left and right, so it was better to strike first and maybe they could win a glimmer of life.
So, while Zhang Fei was asleep, Fan Jiang and Zhang Da secretly sneaked into the camp and killed Zhang Fei.
Zhang Fei stood in a high position unscrupulously, flamboyant and irritable, which was not the bane he planted for himself.
In this life, the most difficult thing to keep is the heart, and the higher you stand, the easier it is to float.
However, the more beautiful it is, the more you must know how to be cautious in your words and deeds.
I remember that at an awards ceremony, Huang Bo won the Best Director Award, and the host asked him: "Should we call you Director Huang or actor Huang Bo in the future?" ”
Huang Bo didn't use the topic to show himself, but just smiled faintly and said, "It's okay to call me Xiao Huang." ”
There's a good saying:
There is no complacent sense of superiority in true strength, nor is there any anxiety about gains and losses, only quiet self-confidence, and magnificent humility.
Life has its ups and downs, and don't be complacent when it's beautiful, otherwise you'll fall to the bottom.
The highlight moment is a good time to cultivate the mind.
Don't be kidnapped by vanity, don't be bewitched by applause, learn to be indifferent in the hustle and bustle, and read humility in silence.
There is a wisdom called "Calm the mind and make people steady."
In the world of ghosts and ghosts, only by looking down on the glitz of reality can we truly be comfortable and sober.
The hardest part of life is the dull time of daily life.
Some people dislike the boring days, some people complain that trivial things are grinding, but there are also people who live the ordinary years vividly.
Huang Hong, a professor of the French Department of Nanjing University, is like this, in addition to her daily teaching, she stays at home when she has nothing to do and feels a quiet time.
Huang Hong never feels lonely or bored, and she can find infinite fun even by herself.
Huang Hong likes to raise flowers very much, and her living room, dining room, and bedroom are carefully arranged with bookshelves and flowers everywhere.
The balconies and terraces are filled with more than 50 species of plants such as jasmine, irises, lemons, and gardenias.
In order to keep the beautiful moment when the flowers are in full bloom, she also made a lot of dried flowers by herself and put them all over the house for decoration.
Half of Huang Hong's leisure time is devoted to raising flowers, and the other half of her leisure time is devoted to reading and writing, and she often forgets time when she is immersed in a sea of books.
Huang Hong will share good sentences and fragments on Weibo when he sees them, and translate foreign books he likes when he reads them.
Huang Hong has translated nearly 50 books and was named Douban's 2023 Translator of the Year.
Sometimes, Huang Hong will also invite three or five friends to the house for a small gathering, cook a few delicious meals, and chat about the past and daily life.
Huang Hong likes this ordinary life very much, she said:
As long as there is a kitchen, a refrigerator full of food, and a study full of books, you can stay at home without knowing it.
Life is like this, not to be vigorous, but to live every little day abundantly and really.
As Shen Xiwei wrote in "The Days of Disappearing in the Crowd":
People always have to settle down and live a quiet and introspective day and tidy themselves up.
Watching flowers, listening to the rain and smelling the fragrance, drinking tea that does not quench thirst, eating snacks that do not seek to be full, sharing a rhythm of breathing with daily trivialities, accumulating strength in their own emotional ups and downs, and harvesting happiness that does not need a reason.
Life is destined to be a lonely journey, and sooner or later learn to enjoy the dull time and be self-consistent in silence.
Finding the pace that suits you is the eternal destiny of life.
Experience every ordinary day with your heart, and try your best to make every moment comfortable.
No matter how many years have passed, looking back, I have never felt that I have lived up to the time, this is the perfect answer.
Some people say:
Silence is a state of tranquility and composure in the face of doom, and fearless tranquility and self-confidence.
Leave a silence for yourself, in the huge world, there must always be a place that belongs to you, and no one can replace your specific life position.
Life is your own, whether it is beautiful or down, after all, it is three meals a day, all year round.
The real maturity is not dancing in the hustle and bustle, but the indifference of letting the wind and rain hit.
In this world, people come and go and are always passers-by, so you don't have to worry too much.
Living a unique color in one's own time and space is what adults are most proud of.
Put away your impetuous heart, control your loose mouth, do things seriously, and live well.
As for the others, they are all others.