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We all want our families to be harmonious and happy, especially when our parents are old.
However, when the following four situations occur in a family, especially when the parents are over 70 years old, it means that the family is experiencing a lot of turmoil, and we must be vigilant.
01: There are outsiders who are more "filial" than themselves
If you don't have children, you don't want the mother and child to be filial at home, and the family will be happy.
However, some people with ulterior motives will take advantage of the fact that their children are not at home during the day at work, and their parents are fragile, and they will behave more "filial" than their own children, which is a very dangerous signal.
They approach the elderly in the name of care, ostensibly to greet them and take care of them, but in fact they are just to deceive them into trust and seek their money.
Such a person has no bottom line, and will do everything to deceive, and the day the truth is revealed, it will make the elderly in the family very lost and frustrated, posing a serious threat to their physical condition, and may even endanger their lives.
As children, we must always be vigilant, give care to our parents, and watch for outsiders to appear around them.
Once it is discovered that someone has impure motives, it is necessary to take timely measures to protect the interests of parents and the peace of the family, and not to give others an opportunity to take advantage of it.
02: Peers who are more "hard-working" than themselves appear
Competition and comparison between peers are ubiquitous in life, but when this competition and comparison extends to parents, it can become a disaster for the whole family.
Some people care too much about their position in their parents' hearts, and they will work harder than others in order to get their parents' approval and approval.
Whether it's because they've been denied or because they're self-reliant, they will continue to show off their grades in front of their parents and show their excellence through comparison.
In this case, once a peer is more successful, his self-confidence will be instantly shattered, and he will not be able to hold his head up in front of his parents.
In fact, parents may not really think that other people's children are better than their own, but they just hope that their own children can get a better life.
However, because most parents are used to comparisons, one or two casual words will be remembered by the child for a long time, and those comparisons will appear more harsh.
Since the influence of the original family is too far-reaching, you must work hard to repair this idea of yourself, let yourself relax, and let your parents know that you are helpless.
03: There is a nanny who is more "caring" than his wife
As parents get older, they may need to hire a nanny to take care of their daily lives.
However, when the nanny behaves too "caringly" and even exceeds the care of the wife, we need to be vigilant.
Such a nanny may not really think about her parents, but has her own goals and intentions.
They may gain the trust of their parents by taking care of everything they do, and then induce them to make decisions that are not good for the family.
In addition, an overly intimate nanny can also damage the relationship between parents and spouses, leading to family conflicts.
Therefore, when choosing a babysitter, we need to be cautious and ensure that they have professional skills and a good work ethic.
At the same time, we must also maintain supervision and observation of nannies to ensure that their behavior meets the expectations of their parents, and they must act generously, with a sense of proportion and boundaries.
04: There is a neighbor who is more "vicious" than the enemy
As the saying goes: distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors.
Good neighborhood relations are essential for the well-being of the family.
However, when there are neighbors around the parents who are more "vicious" than the enemy, the relationship becomes very scary.
Vicious neighbors may often make noise, litter, and damage public facilities, which can cause great distress to their parents' daily lives.
They may also often speak ill of each other, provoke trouble, or even retaliate in more vicious ways.
This behavior not only affects the physical and mental health of parents, but can also disrupt the peace and harmony of the entire community.
When we encounter such neighbors, we need to take proactive and effective measures to deal with them.
We can try to negotiate with our neighbors to find a mutually acceptable solution.
If communication doesn't work, we can try to solve it in other ways, ask for help from the community, and so on.
What we must do is that we must not tell our parents to make big things small and tolerate low-key things, because we are the last safety barrier for parents, and we must give parents enough solid support.
Parents are old, and they are no longer as calm and methodical as they were when they were younger.
Their vulnerability and helplessness are unimaginable to young people.
Therefore, if your parents encounter the above 4 things, you must stand in front of them, calm the storm for them, and become their bravest and most trustworthy force.
There is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure.
Only by taking good care of your parents can the warmth of the family continue and the whole family prosper.
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