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Marriage means a lot to a woman.
To this day, society has not made people feel as relaxed about women's marriage as men, but has become more cautious.
As a parent, the daughter's marriage is the most important thing for the family.
They will vigorously oppose the man they don't like, and do their best to tell their daughter why they want to stop it.
Because marriage is equivalent to a turning point in life for a woman, if this turning point is not grasped well, her future life will take a sharp turn.
Therefore, truly far-sighted parents must be cautious when they never allow their daughters to marry the following three types of men.
01: A man who is very different from his own family
When two men and women with very different family backgrounds come together, they can't see the difference when they fall in love, and it will be very obvious after they get married.
The run-in between them will be very uncomfortable, so that both parties can not adapt, and the two sides are facing huge differences in values, outlook on life, etc.
Visionary parents know this well and also believe that marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families.
If the family backgrounds of the two parties are too different, then in the relationship after marriage, it is inevitable that there will be various conflicts that are difficult to resolve.
These conflicts will not only affect the relationship between husband and wife, but also affect the families of both parties, and even affect the growth of the next generation.
Therefore, parents oppose their daughters marrying men with very different families, but they just hope that their daughters can be with their partners with similar family backgrounds and values for a lifetime, and the marriage is relatively simple to manage, which will reduce a lot of resistance.
02: A man who is very different from his own culture
Cultural differences are another factor in marriage that cannot be ignored.
When two people come from different cultural backgrounds, they often face great difficulties in communicating and understanding each other.
This difficulty may manifest itself in the initial form of some small misunderstandings and frictions, but after the marriage is established, both parties remove the filter, and these misunderstandings and frictions will gradually accumulate, leading to cracks in the marriage.
Forward-thinking parents will anticipate this in advance, believing that differences in ways of thinking, values, etc., will seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife.
These differences are deeply ingrained in everyone's heart, and it will be difficult to ignore them in getting along, leading to deepening estrangement and contradictions between husband and wife.
Therefore, as a parent, the opposition to her daughter marrying a man with a huge cultural difference is to hope that her daughter can find a partner who is similar to her own cultural background, can understand and get along with each other, and does not have to go to great lengths to persuade the other party, let alone condescend to cater to the other party.
03: A man who has the opposite concept of marriage
The concept of marriage is an important bond that maintains the relationship between husband and wife.
If two people have fundamental differences in the concept of marriage, then it is difficult for their marriage to last long.
If men see women as accessories to their own lives, rather than partners in common advances and retreats, and women have diametrically opposed views, then they will inevitably experience irreversible estrangement after marriage;
If men think that women should stay at home, and women want to have their own careers, then they will inevitably drift further and further apart after marriage because of this disagreement.
The root of the existence of different concepts of marriage lies in the fact that each person's family of origin has different influences, and this contradiction is irreconcilable.
Even if one party changes, when facing both parents, there will inevitably be an inner imbalance, and the whole family will fall into chaos.
Visionary parents know the horror of this contradiction, and their attitudes towards marriage, responsibilities to the family, and education of their children are all contrary, so it is difficult for them to agree on a happy family atmosphere in married life.
Therefore, they oppose their daughters marrying men with opposite ideas about marriage, because they hope that their daughters can find a partner who is not contrary to their own concept of marriage.
Marriage is never just a matter of two people, and love cannot be the whole of marriage.
If a marriage wants to be fresh for a long time, it is necessary for two people to have the same views and the same attitude towards life, at least there can be no different ideas.
Therefore, how to grasp the marriage of their daughter, parents must carefully screen in order to escort their daughter's happiness.
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