Work well,
You are your biggest supporter.
Author: Insight July
In the book "The Awakening of Women", it says:
There are three major turning points in women's fate, namely the original family, marriage, and the awakened self.
We can't decide where we want to be, and marriage is full of uncertainties.
The only chance we have to change our lives is self-awakening.
How to self-awaken?
Kazuo Inamori reminds us that the best way is to go to work and practice.
With a job to settle down, you have the ability to live a good life and the confidence to face all kinds of ups and downs in life.
Go to work hard, with money in your pocket, there will be light in your eyes, and your heart will no longer be panicked.
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Good work
Only then can you get rid of the sense of disorder in your heart
The Lancet has pointed out that the prevalence of depressive disorders in Chinese is as high as 6.8%, of which women are more likely to be affected than men, and the prevalence of housewives and retirees is higher than that of working.
Why are women who don't have jobs more likely to have mental problems?
Because when a woman is trapped in trivial matters and does not get a sense of value in her heart, their brain will produce more negative thoughts.
In the long run, mental repression will inevitably cause inner disorder, making them more likely to fall into confusion and anxiety about the future.
In the movie "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel", Mrs. Maisel is a hostess who is praised by everyone.
Not only does she keep the house in order, but she is her husband's right-hand man.
I am also very strict with myself, I get up early every day to put on makeup, and I have to go to yoga classes every week.
But suddenly one day, such a beautiful life suddenly changed.
Her husband cheated on a woman who was inferior to her in every way, and Mrs. Maisel instantly felt that the sky was falling.
During that time, she was in a dull mood and didn't know where she was going.
After the divorce, her husband took back the house, and she found that she didn't even have a place to stay, and her heart was surrounded by panic.
But life does not allow her to be decadent, and without financial resources, she must find a way to support herself and her children.
So, she decided to leave everything behind and find a job to earn some money first.
By chance, she came into contact with talk shows and received a lot of applause when she appeared on stage for the first time.
This gave her great confidence, and Mrs. Maisel decided to pursue a career in the industry.
She began to write jokes day and night, not missing every opportunity to perform.
Although tired, her heart was surrounded by a sense of fulfillment, she no longer felt lost, and her life gradually got on the right track.
In the end, her career was a huge success, and while bringing joy to countless viewers, she also redeemed herself.
Marie Curie once said:
When a woman has her own career, she can no longer rely on others, no longer passively accept fate, but can take control of her own future.
The biggest meaning of going to work is not how much money you can make.
Rather, through work, you can plan your life and rebuild your sense of order.
Because you will find that there are many things in life that we cannot predict and control.
If you don't have a career to back us up, it's easy to fall apart when things go badly.
So no matter how difficult life is, as long as you still have something to do, there will always be hope in your heart;
As long as you can work well, your future will always be in your own hands.
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You have the right to make choices in your life
Writer Li Xiaoyi once told about one of the darkest experiences in her life.
At that time, she was frustrated in her marriage and lost custody of her children.
At the same time, her industry is also declining, and the future is bleak.
Do you want to stay where you are, or do you want to make your way on your own?
Li Xiaoyi thought about it and decided to fight it.
So, she quit her job without telling everyone, and began to write full-time in that cramped rental house.
She got up at 4:45 every day and forced herself to write 2,500 words, which she never stopped for 356 days.
A year later, she published her first book and began to spread the word around the country.
Sometimes I am so busy that my feet don't touch the ground, I can't even eat a hot meal, and I even miss the meeting time with my daughter.
But she never felt tired, because she knew that only by doing her job to the extreme could she give herself more freedom of choice.
Later, she began to try to shoot short videos again, from being unconfident at the beginning, to now being able to talk eloquently in front of the camera.
After years of desperate growth, she finally realized the counterattack in her life step by step.
Now, she has already taken back custody of her daughter and won back what she once lost.
Even in the face of a high-quality marriage partner, she can listen to her heart and don't have to wronged herself in order to cater to the other party.
Maugham once said:
Of course, people do not seek wealth, but they must have enough to live a dignified life, to be able to work unhindered, to be generous, to be cheerful, to be independent.
For most women, having a career of your own doesn't just mean you have what it takes to make a living.
It means that you have more choice and autonomy.
So you don't have to compromise on what you don't want to do, and you don't have to lose what you love most.
Everyone's life is actually in their own hands.
But if you don't have the strength to create the future, then you will inevitably miss out on the life you want.
In this sense, work gives you the freedom to get by.
Work well, and you will be qualified to pursue your own happiness according to your own wishes.
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Only then can you live as your own supporter
Jimu News once did a survey.
They interviewed 1,000 women over the age of 16 and asked them about who was more important, career or love.
87.1% of women chose a career because they felt that only work could bring them security.
A woman, as long as she has a job, will not be afraid of the uneasiness that life brings.
Even in the face of unknown wind and rain, you can live as your own roof.
After all, the backers will fall, and everyone will run.
If you are willing to live by others, you will inevitably fall into the danger of losing your backers.
is like Liu Mintao when he was young, he credulously believed her husband's sentence "I will raise you", and as a result, his 7 years of life became a tragedy.
At that time, she was still trapped in the sweetness of love, and willingly went home to teach her husband and children.
But as soon as the honeymoon period passed, the husband began to be busy with socializing and did not return home for three days.
After his daughter was born, he became the shopkeeper and threw everything to Liu Mintao.
In this case, she can only pour all her love into her daughter.
Every time she went to ask her husband for living expenses, she would be extremely humble, and she would be stung by her husband's contemptuous look.
But in order for his daughter to have a complete home, Liu Mintao still chose to endure it.
Until one time, when the two traveled to Japan, Liu Mintao asked for a matcha ice cream.
But her husband didn't pay the bill immediately, but scolded her impatiently: "How old are you and still eat this!"
At that moment, she really felt how unworthy her previous efforts were.
So, she decided to stop forbearing, even without the protection of marriage, she would be her own master.
After leaving her husband, she resumed her career as an actress and soon returned to the peak of her career with her excellent acting skills.
She also tried cross-border development, and became popular with a song "Red High Heels", which captured a large number of fans.
Now, she is no longer the little daughter-in-law who only reaches out to ask for money, but has become a strong woman who is in charge alone.
In between work, she also took time to go to Japan and ate the matcha ice cream that she always remembered.
The writer Woolf had encouraged women to find a way to earn £500 a year and have a lockable room.
Because an annual income of 500 pounds represents financial freedom and the possibility of having leisure time to write;
A room that can be locked represents the freedom of space and allows for independent thinking.
And isn't this exactly the benefit that work can bring us?
In this world, anyone can leave you, but only work will not fail you.
To have a reliable job is to hold up an umbrella for yourself.
It can shelter you from the wind and rain, and it can also give you the confidence to protect your loved ones.
Make good money, and you won't feel inferior at any time.
Work hard, you don't have to rely on anyone, you can live your own wonderful life and achieve a better life.
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Shafari Sabari, an American doctor of psychology, once said:
The real awakening of women is to start working hard. But it is not career success that brings awakening, but the freedom of the mind through work.
In many cases, work is not only a profession to earn a living, but also a sustenance for us.
Let our value be seen and recognized, which is a satisfaction that no one can give.
Challenges at work will also inspire our courage and self-confidence, and give us the strength to face the difficulties in life.
No matter how difficult life is, as long as you have a job, you can always redeem yourself in the abyss;
No matter how busy your life is, as long as you have a job, your heart will never be in a panic.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your female friends.