After the explosion of "Xinzheku Kindergarten": If the children can't survive, what education are you talking about

The ultimate purpose of education is not knowledge, but life.

Teaching children how to get along with the world is the greatest responsibility that parents have for a child.

Author | Coke Mom

In the past few days, "Xinzheku Kindergarten" has exploded the Internet.

At first glance, you may find it strange:

Isn't Xinzheku an ancient logistics institution, and what does it have to do with kindergartens?

In fact, this is an alias given by netizens to Xuhai Road Kindergarten in Xuzhou, Jiangsu, because the people of Xinzheku have to work every day, and the same is true for the children in this kindergarten.

One of the things that impressed me the most was that the children who went to school here did not eat from the cafeteria, but made by themselves.

Although these children are small, they are very skillful in their work.

Some are responsible for washing dishes and vegetables, and some are responsible for collecting firewood and making fires.

There are also children who are responsible for chopping vegetables.

Finally, the children wearing sleeves, aprons, and chef's hats are stir-fried.

After a while, one delicious meal after another was served.

Not only that, but the children here can also knead dough and make medicines.

Looking at the way they kill fish and clean their scales, they are even more sophisticated than adults.

Steamed buns, steamed steamed buns, pancakes and fruits are not a problem.

No wonder some netizens ridiculed: "This is a preschool vocational training school, and you will have 3 years of work experience after graduating at the age of 6." ”

Frankly speaking, as a mother, I agree with the educational philosophy of "Xinzheku Kindergarten".

Because just like the speaker Xu Wanghua said:

"If a child lacks the ability to survive independently and take care of himself, and lacks the tempering of survival difficulties, it is difficult to become a strong person in life. ”

When educating their children, many parents always focus on their academics.

But if a child doesn't even have the ability to "live", can't live, and can't be self-reliant, how can we talk about education?

Children who lack the ability to survive

It is being tested more than ever

Before, I saw such a news:

A mother in Hubei posted a message in the circle of friends:

"I sincerely find a nanny who can take care of my first-year daughter...... Job content: laundry and cooking, tidying up the room, taking care of daily life. ”

According to the mother, she and her husband are usually very busy, and her daughter has been pampered since she was a child and has never done housework.

When my daughter first went to college, I was running at both ends of school and home, and I was really busy recently, so I recruited nannies in the circle of friends.

I can understand this mother's love for her daughter and she doesn't want her child to suffer from life.

But I can't help but ask:

Life is impermanent, who can guarantee that they will be a refuge for their children for the rest of their lives?

Do you remember the store manager who worked in RT-Mart for 32 days?

During the epidemic, Mr. Wang Zhongkui, the manager of Shanghai RT-Mart Nanhui store, was spread out because of a small oolong, and his private number was used as an emergency hotline for supplies.

In this way, he received a lot of calls for help, and store manager Wang said:

"Some young people born in the 00s or who have just worked told me on the phone that because they don't usually have the habit of cooking, they don't even have a pot at home, and meat and vegetables don't mean anything to him.

He didn't want any dishes, he just wanted to make noodles and biscuits, and serve them with some fruit. ”

In the epidemic, children like this who have meat and vegetables in their hands but still worry about "food and clothing" are not alone.

A young man who was locked down in Pudong had no choice but to reveal that in just three days, because he couldn't cook, he and his friends "successfully" burned two pots at home.

And there are such cases around me:

At that time, my friend Jiang Jiang and her husband were unfortunately recruited and had to go to the hospital for isolation.

Before leaving, the two of them purchased a refrigerator full of ingredients for their son, but a few days later, I still swiped the help message of Jiang Jiang and his wife in the circle of friends, and wanted someone to send food to his children.

Just ask:

Their children, who are already in high school, can't even make a scrambled egg, and almost set the house on fire.

It's magical and sad to think about.

Many children, who are obviously able-bodied and smart, do not have the slightest hands-on ability and will not take care of themselves.

In this way, once their parents are not around, they will become sound wastes, and even survival has become a problem.

There are no pyrotechnic children

No matter how good the results are, it is in vain

In the "Poison Laugh Novel" by Japanese writer Keigo Higashino, there is a story called "The Groom's Doll".

The protagonist of the story has been raised by his mother as the heir to the family since he was a child.

You don't have to work, you don't have to work, you just need to study hard every day.

When he grew up, he became a very good person.

However, on the day of the wedding, this protagonist made a fool of himself because he wanted to go to the bathroom but didn't know when and how to go, and he couldn't ask his mother for advice, and he ended up laughing generously.

From this story, we can also see the shadow of many parents:

Always teaching children to study hard, but never telling children how to live.

Education expert Sun Yunxiao appealed to parents:

"Homeschooling is life education. Life education should improve the child's life ability, and only after the life ability is improved, can he adapt to society. ”

If the cultivation of children's self-care ability is neglected because of temporary scores and grades, no matter how good the child is, the fruits of education are still bitter.

For example, Zhang Fei, the academic bully who was admitted to Qingbei three times but had no choice but to drop out.

In the CCTV program "Tell the Truth", his mother cried:

"Everyone only pays attention to my son's high IQ and high test scores, but what everyone doesn't know is that my son can't get along with people, lacks self-care ability, doesn't know that he feels sorry for his parents, and his emotional intelligence is almost zero. ”

Young men in their twenties don't know how to take care of themselves, let alone do housework.

If you have dirty clothes, you will stuff them in a bucket, and in the end, they will be too full to pull them out.

But according to Zhang Fei's recollection, the reason why he became what he is today is actually caused by his mother.

When he was young, his mother was reluctant to let him do the housework, and even if he finished it himself, his mother would secretly do it again by herself. Over time, Zhang Fei was unwilling to do such useless work anymore.

and the Li Mingliang who read the doctorate but went home to gnaw on the old man.

He was once a well-known local student, admitted to 985 University, and later, he also got the opportunity to stay in school for a doctorate and work.

However, just when everyone was waiting for him to return from his studies, he gave up his nine-year Ph.D. because he couldn't endure hardship, and chose to go home to gnaw at his old age, and he relied on his elderly parents for food and drink.

It turned out that Li Mingliang had excellent grades since he was a child, and his parents didn't let him do anything when they saw this.

Unexpectedly, in the end, the child was raised into a "waste person" who could only read and could not make a living.

President Tang Jiangpeng said:

"If a child has no scores, he will not be able to pass today's college entrance examination, but if he only has scores, I am afraid he will not be able to win the future college entrance examination. ”

Cooking means surviving, housework means taking care of yourself.

These sparse and ordinary things are necessary for a child's future survival.

And a child who has been taken care of by his parents since he was a child and has never been able to be independent is destined to be unable to withstand the test of society.

Teach children to be self-reliant

It is the greatest responsibility of parents to their children

A good education is never to let children soak in a honeypot, but to let them recognize the truth of life as soon as possible.

In this way, even if one day, we are no longer with our children, they can still fill their stomachs, be kind to themselves, and walk on tenaciously and calmly.

The movie "Little Flower's Miso Soup", based on real events, tells such a story:

After learning that she had cancer, her mother Chie tortured herself over and over again, what would she leave for her young daughter in her remaining days?

After thinking about it, Chie decided to teach her daughter to cook, do housework, and live each day seriously.

She told four-year-old Xiaohua:

"You must learn how to make miso soup, as long as you can make miso soup, even if your mother is not with you, you will definitely be able to live. ”

In the end, the sensible little flower not only learned to make a living, but also rekindled her father's enthusiasm for life with warm meals after her mother's death.

In uncertain times, we must let our children learn to be independent and learn to live.

Being able to be self-reliant is the greatest responsibility of parents for a child.

Still during the pandemic, unlike those who had no survival skills, others won as soon as they started:

There is a treasure boy named "Fat Little Fish", who is not very old, but he can already pull cold skin, pickle spicy cabbage, and make garlic prawns for his family......

Chubby Xiaoyu's mother said that when Xiaoyu was 5 years old, she began to let him learn to wash vegetables, and after a few years, Xiaoyu could wear an apron and pick up a knife to cook.

There is also an 8-year-old boy from Jiangsu, although he was born with a defect, he only has one arm.

But when it comes to work, he is skillful.

Every day, he would cook a meal, cut the fruit, and deliver it to the door of the sick family's room.

In the animal world, eagles will take their young eagles to the edge of a cliff in order for them to learn to fly, and let their children fall into the abyss.

In order to survive, the young eagle will desperately stir its wings, and eventually learn to spread its wings and soar.

The same should be true of people.

Be ruthless, let go, and teach your child to be independent from an early age, starting with letting your child cook a meal and wash a piece of clothing.

Writer Zhou Guoping has a saying that is particularly good:

"It is common sense that true love for children should take a long-term view, so that children can live well without their parents, and they can still live well without their parents. ”

As parents, we came into this world before our children, and we are destined to not be able to accompany our children through their lives.

But we can be proactive and teach our children how to relate to the world.

Let them grow wings in this society where gentleness and cruelty coexist, and overcome the problems of survival and life with their own skills.

Psychologist He Lingfeng pointed out in a speech:

"Nowadays, none of us know what kind of world our children will face in the future, and it is particularly scary to judge what the future will be like by our values.

Therefore, in the matter of education, parents should stand in the future and look at their children's present. ”

I think so.

The biggest lie of education is to let children only read and learn, and do nothing else.

And the greatest sorrow of education is that when the change comes, our children really can't do anything but take exams and do questions.

Life is the ultimate standard for testing a child.

The world rewards children who are independent, adaptable, and have perfect survival skills.

So, if you love children, let him start today, learn to cook a dish, learn to tidy up the room, learn to wash his own clothes......

This is the mission of parenthood and the greatest success of homeschooling.

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